To charity shop her parcel?

[Imaginedinos]

So a friend asked if she could have a parcel delivered to me as she needed it the next day and she had work, it’s medium size. This was back in March. Parcel came, I text her to let her know I have it and it’s been sat in my hallway ever since! She’s basically ghosted me since March, I know I haven’t done anything wrong because the 2 times she has replied she’s been normal and nice. But it’s pissing me off, it’s taking up room I don’t particularly have in my small house and she seems to have no intention of coming to collect it! Am I being a dick if I get rid of it?! Or any advice on what to do. I’m worried that if I do get rid of it she will text and say I’m coming to get my parcel but it’s been 3 months…

She’s basically ghosted me since March, I know I haven’t done anything wrong because the 2 times she has replied she’s been normal and nice.

Ghosting is no contact at all.

You say she's contacted you twice.

Which is it?

I'd return to sender, then it's out of your hallway and. Out of your hands what hAppens to it
sod driving 15 mins out of my.way to drop it off, she's a cheeky mare who clearly doesn't need it anymore otherwise she'd have picked it up in a timely fashion

After 3 weeks you wouldn’t have been a dick to do that. Three months is a massive piss take

Why would she go through the trouble????

It's gone and not an issue. Rise above it and be the better person and all that 😀

Hi you don't have to be rude, just say - hi I've had this parcel for 3 months and need some space in my hall can you let me know when next week you're able to pick it up please? If it's still here next Sunday I'll have to get rid of it"

This.

I agree with this. I wouldn't consider binning something that belonged to a friend. She might have been very ill or something.

I had a snotty message from someone the other day because I hadn't liked some shit she put on FB but I have been in and out of hospital for weeks now and have been very ill. Life does get in the way sometimes.

Gets in the way so much you can’t reply in 3 months?

Why would she have something delivered to yours and then not go and get it? That’s bizarre. Do you know what’s inside?

There is a lot odd about this situation

I would give her a deadline, but the difficulty is in how you word it.
If you continue to see this person, you wont want to be too blunt, but you do have to be assertive about it, and very clear.
Then, once the deadline is passed, depending on whether it is possible, and size of parcel, I'd aim to send it back to the sender (if this can be done without incurring any extra costs).
If that is not possible, then after the deadline, I'd open and charity shop it.

Of course you are right to text her, you don't have to send a mean text either. I'd have just said something along the lines of "can you come and get this or do you want me to give it away?". If she still wants it but is continuing to be vague about when, then ask/tell her to come and get it and give her a timeline.

Twatface 😂

OP, you say she’s ghosted you but then say she’s replied twice. Can you not phone and speak to her rather than text ?

Tell her she has until X date to collect it otherwise you're going to bin it.

Dear friend
Just to say that I'm having a clear out and your parcel needs to go by Sunday noon.
Let me know when you are collecting it this week and I will leave it on my doorstep for you.
Or if I don't hear back then I presume its not wanted and I will bin it Sunday night.
Best Wishes

wrap it up and give it her as a Christmas present.

that's the best idea actually 😂

Give her a deadline. I can get into loops like this, it is so stupid, I will forget something and then suddenly realise how long it has been and be so embarrassed that I can't bring it up which means that it gets even LONGER and becomes even more embarrassing and even more difficult to bring up.

Having a deadline somehow normalises it and acts as a reset so I can go OK I need to do it by this time and then I can apologise to the person for leaving it so long and we all move on with our lives and I promise to myself never to ask anyone to take a parcel for me again. (There are a lot of things that I just never do because of my own inability to follow up properly )

"Hi hun. I put your parcel outside on the the pavement so you can collect it at your convenience. Just letting you know that the bins are collected on Tuesdays"

Have you spoke to her since the package was delivered? It's not clear from your post. You say shes ghosted you but also that shes been normal and nice?

If it was me I would keep reminding her to pick it up. It's weird she hasn't but if shes a friend I don't get why you wouldn't keep it and bring it to her on your next meet up.

I would send her a text saying "the parcel you needed next day has been taking up space in my hallway for three months now. If you don't arrange to collect it by Friday it's going in the bin."

Exactly, in my view you need to speak to her, not rely on texts.

I would have text her saying that I'd given it to the courier she sent for it and then ignored her messages until she turned up at the door.