Let dd(11) shave her hair?

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Dd(11) wants to shave her hair to a buzz cut. Shes slowly gone from hair down to her bum to a bob in the last year which when she got it said she hated it and wanted her long hair back for a couple of weeks but now likes it and has kept it in that style.

the mentioning a buzz cut has been on and off happening for months but she’s always moved on quickly.

As it’s been so hot the last few days the complaining about her hair being sweaty and wanting to shave it has ramped up to almost constantly and I’m tempted to just get dh to do it for her tonight.

Is that reasonable? Would others say no?

school would be fine the only policy is no unnatural colours and long hair having to be tied during sports/ science.

I'd let her, if she said she wanted it over weeks or months.

It's her hair, it'll grow back, and if she faces consequences (classmates behaviour etc) it'll be a valuable lesson about not being a people pleaser and doing her own thing regardless of what other people think.

But if you're uncomfortable with it I suppose an alternative would be to do it gradually, so first a pixie, then a shorter one, etc.

Has she thought about an undercut? It it quite an 'out there' cut without the committal of a full buzz cut. A girl in dd2s class had one in yr2 and she looked great! She could tie her hair up and it was really obvious but when it was down you wouldn't know.

A friend of DDs has a shaved head. A friend of mine did at school too. I’d be a bit sad if my DD wanted to but I am not sure why - social conditioning? - as it really suits her friend.

I’d suggest a pixie cut as a first step.

A pixie cut will grow out much better than a buzz cut if she hates it.

You may want to make this point to her as transitioning from a buzz is quite difficult and prone to a hedgehog phase (especially if she has thicker hair).

Maybe show her some pixie cuts and see what she thinks.

I’d suggest a pixie cut as a first step.

A pixie cut will grow out much better than a buzz cut if she hates it.

You may want to make this point to her as transitioning from a buzz is quite difficult and prone to a hedgehog phase (especially if she has thicker hair).

Maybe show her some pixie cuts and see what she thinks.

I would get her a short pixie, short back and sides type cut, very nice, very Audrey Hepburn.

That's horrific, why would you let your daughter be put off the hairstyle she wants? Surely you encourage her to make the hair decision she wants? Is it 1955 at her school?

Try an undercut first see if that helps? If not she can go for the full buzz

I mean this beggars belief, when I was growing up, late 70s, early 80s all the girls had lovely short back and side cuts/pixie cuts.

Except me, because my mum was too stingy to get it for me because they need maintenance so I had a pony tail.

I got my short pixie and undercut by around 87, loved it

Whats gone so wrong here?

Never an original post lol. I’d still try the UC first, my DD looks brilliant with hers and it’s massively reduced sweating

@Barnbrack its not me putting her off, and nothing I say will change how she sees others behaving at school. She doesn't want to go through that, Im not going to forcibly cut her hair.

@soupyspoon I know. Seems to me the more "inclusive" society tries to be, the more divisive it is. There were loads of short or pixie cuts when I was at school too, no one cared.

(I know inclusive is the wrong word, but can't think of the right one. People (the children, their parents?) seem desperate to pigeonhole people. Whereas you could be a girl with stereotypical boy interests when I was growing up, now their classmates constantly ask if they're trans if they get good marks in a maths test 🙄