Let dd(11) shave her hair?

[yestothat]

Dd(11) wants to shave her hair to a buzz cut. Shes slowly gone from hair down to her bum to a bob in the last year which when she got it said she hated it and wanted her long hair back for a couple of weeks but now likes it and has kept it in that style.

the mentioning a buzz cut has been on and off happening for months but she’s always moved on quickly.

As it’s been so hot the last few days the complaining about her hair being sweaty and wanting to shave it has ramped up to almost constantly and I’m tempted to just get dh to do it for her tonight.

Is that reasonable? Would others say no?

school would be fine the only policy is no unnatural colours and long hair having to be tied during sports/ science.

This is the sort of thing people used to say about women wearing trousers - draws attention, negative connotations...

Its only hair. It'll grow back.

I've never stopped either of mine from doing what they wanted with their hair. It's not permanent.

To be honest he's had a buzz cut (number 1 all over) when he was younger. He has a lumpy head. We stick to number 2 / scissors on top.

I have allowed my primary age daughter to have a short pixie cut, but I wouldn’t just buzz it all off - I wouldn’t let my son do that either, at least not without a middle stage between bob and practically bald. It’s pretty drastic and unlike a pixie there’s no way of playing with styling it or clips if you don’t like it, it’s all just gone.

Absolutely not at that age and in a climate where children get bullied and left out of peer groups for being different.

Agree with others, if she still wants it, do it at the beginning of the summer holidays. Then if she hates it she can wear a sun hat or cap and there's time for it to grow out a bit before next term.

What about an undercut or a similar style where only part of the head is shaved? Would make her hair lighter but less extreme than going straight to a buzz cut and easier to grow out if she decides she wants longer hair again whilst also being easy to turn into a buzz cut if in a few days/ weeks she is still adamant that’s what she wants.
Eg: https://www.google.com/search?sca_esv=f9f414d1fdafdf5e&rlz=1CDGOYI_enGB644GB654&hl=en-GB&udm=2&fbs=AIIjpHxCtmkhHKu27CW9pNYJlh4RyTNmPHyjG80UBMDOJp-qbfWMZhFERvayKIk37yGj0PPpnWdtWoIKwO71AgUkCYJLKrf7G7lsHpI0zvxPQMHU9_PyUIlOm6yuEBHK9Eui8c-jbl-DnKPYcdBctQNB0jVdx1ighxx6C0uLx14UQ-y3-MAWdYESwf2qxPVeqQ_hH8cXI_HiXp7U0Vh0wR-aj_MIsVlipScIo2l6aje7SlQP7L7M-Dk&q=girls+undercut+hair+bob&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwikvu_Z6oKOAxXVXUEAHebeC0oQtKgLegQIEhAB&biw=428&bih=751&dpr=3

I don’t see the problem. I had the equivalent of a buzz cut when I was 13 in the early 80’s. It was mainly due to a friend ‘helping’ to lighten it and using 60vol peroxide & bleach and my hair disintegrating and falling off. 😩

I actually kept it fairly short throughout school and have never left it to grow longer than a chin length bob. It’s currently a purple pixie cut.

I still hate long hair and dresses on me. 😂

What’s the equivalent of a buzz cut @FuckityFux ?

I would say a buzz cut is too extreme. Try a pixie cut.

Are you an 'edgy' family? (not being rude but it would really stand out where I live) or very conventional

What's her overall style?

Will it go with that or not?

I’d let a kid have any haircut they wanted. I had very, very short hair at her age.

I’ve always had really short hair but never a buzz cut, a number 4 with the clippers is as short as it’s gone. As much as I’d love it to be long and swishy, the reality is my hair is very fine with lots of kinks and random wavy bits. If it’s in any way hot or humid, it’s unmanageable and looks awful.

Take your DD to a hairdresser and get them to do a pixie cut on her first to see if she likes it. If she does, then she can go shorter next time. I know it’s only hair and it does grow, but at that age kids can be mean.

I agree. I wouldn't allow this.

A very short (Mia Farrow in the 60s style) crop is softer and less brutal than a buzz cut, without being any longer. She’s likely to get more appreciative comments with the former than the latter. Almost nobody looks good with a buzz cut, you need a really beautiful face and even then it’s hard to pull off.

When I was 7 I insisted on a pixie cut. My mum took me and said “If you hate it I don’t want to hear any crying or whining. This is a lesson in consequences Cat!” … and that it was. We all have a bad childhood trim. Worst case - it is a lesson in consequences, best case - she loves it and it becomes her cool
signature look!

I think you need to make it clear that some people might pick on her for it. Just so she has the heads up.

Not read comments but yes let her. It’s an experiment with no consequences but a bit of banter. Ask her to show you pictures of what she would like it to look like to take to the hairdressers (I know what a buzz it is but it would help her to think and be sure)

My dd, now 17, had a buzz cut when she was about 10, then grew it back for a bit, had another at 12, and so the cycle has continued. She cuts and dyes her hair all the time.

She got a few remarks at school, but because she had comments about the times she chose 'boys' shoes and clothes she was well equipped with some comebacks and it died down very quickly.

Imo your dd is the right age for experimenting with your style and seeing what's comfortable and suits you. It's only hair, it grows back.

It will grow back! I had a number one when I was 18 ( more through hair disasters than choice) but it's quite liberating not having hair. And I looked cute. Gamine, slightly androgynous.
So why not?

I also had short 'boys' haircuts all through childhood.
Your head feels light, you don't need to use loads of products etc.

She already knows she likes short hair so it's not like she'll suddenly freak out.

Any haircut is fine for anyone if they know they'll have to live with it for a few weeks/months and are cool with that.

A buzz is pretty full on.
My DD thought about getting one a few years ago but went with a short pixie.
It will make her standout, so if she's ready for the attention then go for it. It will grow back 😁

I've just done an image search for 'buzzcut women'. Some are the nearly bald look, but some I think are really nice (and would grow out quite quickly). So I think it's important that she finds pics of exactly what she wants, to show the hairdresser.

It's her body, and it's just hair. I'd let her. If she doesn't like the attention she gets as a result, lesson learned, and it will soon grow back!

DD had a buzz cut, though at 16. She loved it, but when she decided to grow it out it went through a very tricky stage where it basically looked shit for ages, which is something that she hadn't really bargained for.

@yestothat I may be flamed but..

I'd be concerned that your daughter is struggling with her mental health tbh.

Why on earth would you be concerned about her MH??