Let dd(11) shave her hair?

[yestothat]

Dd(11) wants to shave her hair to a buzz cut. Shes slowly gone from hair down to her bum to a bob in the last year which when she got it said she hated it and wanted her long hair back for a couple of weeks but now likes it and has kept it in that style.

the mentioning a buzz cut has been on and off happening for months but she’s always moved on quickly.

As it’s been so hot the last few days the complaining about her hair being sweaty and wanting to shave it has ramped up to almost constantly and I’m tempted to just get dh to do it for her tonight.

Is that reasonable? Would others say no?

school would be fine the only policy is no unnatural colours and long hair having to be tied during sports/ science.

And?

I was an electrician, she works in accident repair.
Some people can't see further than the end of their noses, so bigoted are they that girls don't to "men's" jobs.

You only have to look beyond her hair and at her face to see she is a girl, she doesn't have male features.
I still think you are insulting and deliberately antagonistic.

Yeah let her op.

I wanted very short hair as a child. My mother wouldn’t let me. I came to no harm, but I’m still pissed off about it decades later. I don’t even have short hair now either 😂. Just bitter I was denied control of my own body

You said most people always mistake her for a boy. I thought there might be more than just short hair if that’s the case.

What about an undercut for now? Would solve the heat issue and she can style the rest either up or down to reveal or hide it as the mood takes her

You really didn't 🙄

I wouldn't, no. I'd allow a pixie cut. DD wouldn't want to anyway, she's seen how other girls have been treated by the others just going from long to short bob and one girl who did get a pixie cut.

It's what, 2 weeks until the summer holidays? If she still really wants to have it so short then, that's the time to try it out. And I agree with those saying to try one of those hair cut apps where you upload a photo first.

My son has a buzzcut as his hair is unmanageable otherwise. He is a beautiful boy with huge long lashed blue eyes and sharp cheekbones. The buzz cut really accentuates all of his best features - not that he gives a shit about this being 11 and into football and gaming - but it's certainly not an ugly style!

My dd wanted her hair cut off when she was about sixteen. She went on about it so much I said, Do it and just grow it back if you don’t like it. She hated it. I actually quite liked it as did everyone else. She did occasionally get mistaken for a boy as she wears hoodies and joggers. I do think a buzz cut is too drastic though and I agree with waiting for the holidays.

Hair grows. Let her have it cut. I can’t believe some of these posts, it’s like long hair is a religion.

Silly argument, you can be fair towards your kids, but being a boy and a girl means sometimes they are treated very differently, that's life.

Feel better now you've picked that nit?

😂 how is it nitpicking to ask why you're trying haircuts to exam performance for an 11 year old?!

The issue is incase she regrets it when mum says she is insecure to begin with. Hair grows but it won’t have grown back to shoulder length by the end of the holidays.

How were they 'treated' for having shorter hair?

So? Loads of women have hair shorter than shoulder length.

It's her hair. One of my children had half their head shaved from the age of 8. It really suited her. I think it's important to allow children to learn how to have control over their body and hair is an easy way of doing it.

DD has been shaving her head since she turned 11. She's 18 now and occasionally grows it a couple of inches and dyes it before getting fed up and shaving it again.

Nobody ever teased her and she's never regretted it. It's her hair and I always said she could do what she liked with it as long as it fits with the school dress code.

Oldest dc did it and unfortunately he does not have the head shape for it. People kept asking if he was ill.

Could you go half way with shaved underneath

Tell her no find ways to style her hair that she likes a buzz cut is ridiculous

Why not suggest an undercut. She can have her hair up and the sides are shaved but down in a bob for other times. Best of both worlds.

There's some weird responses. It's a bloody haircut. In 6 weeks time it won't look anything like it.

My 14 yo son has quite an 'individual' haircut and for the last year all along I've said if its acceptable in school it's fine by me. It's given him a true identity and I like the fact that he's confident enough to own his choice.

I'd get a hairdresser to do it though even a buzz cut can look awful if not done properly

@Barnbrack constant low level hassling mainly from the boys in their year and above. Crap like asking if they want to be a boy now, suggesting it's just because they've not yet kissed (or more) a boy and offers to rectify. Trying to push them into the boys bathrooms at break. Deliberate using of the "wrong" pronouns because only boys have such short hair. Enough to put DD off even considering a short cut.

I say go for it! It'll grow back if she gets bored with it.

Get it cut short first. See what she feels.

If she still has the urge to buzz - I'd say do it.

She'll have had the experience, the autonomy, the experimenting and may find she loves it - or she regrets it and cries. (It will of course then be your fault for letting her do it.) A learning thing.

Holy fucking shit you’re everything that’s wrong with the world. ‘Take her to the doctor cos has a flat chest and square jaw’

take yourself to a councillor please and see if they can unpick your thought process here. So damaging.