To have insisted on DH doing his ‘business’ at work when we were down to one bathroom

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I told my friends this last night who found it amusing so would be interested to hear if they are the only ones!

We were down to just our upstairs bathroom this week as the downstairs bathroom was being re-done (finally finished yesterday afternoon).

Given the heat, DH was told that he should do his usual morning business when he arrives at his work rather than use the upstairs bathroom, as I didn’t fancy the smell festering all morning in this heat.

DH was fine with this - AIBU to have made such a request?!

It’s the faff that the poor man has to go through just to use the loo.

My Granny used the saying "some people think their shit don't stink" quote a lot but I never thought I'd come across someone who literally believed it.

I'm not sure how OP would survive in my house with five adults and one toilet.

Can't imagine telling my husband he's not allowed to use the toilet in his own house and making him go elsewhere. Absolute batshit, excuse the pun.

You posted a couple of weeks ago about how your DH wasn't allowed to do 'his business' in the ensuite didn't you?

You. Need. Help. It's a toilet. It's sole purpose is for the hygienic disposal of bodily waste. We are incredibly fortunate in this country to have near universal access to toilets and clean water. A significant proportion of the world doesn't

I prescribe you a week in rural Greece where you're not allowed to flush toilet paper as it will block the drains so you have to put shitty toilet paper in a bin, followed by another week in a developing country where the toilet is a latrine shared with dozens of other people. Then perhaps you will realise how ridiculous you're being.

I imagine the OP's poops are blossom fragrant.

I’m sure his work colleagues will thank you for such a request

I swear your partner is unbelievably patient with your nonsense. I cannot believe anyone else putting up with this! He must really love you or I don’t get why he doesn’t tell you to go fly a kite! 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

I wouldn’t say the window and a couple of flushes is a faff. I would say it’s basic consideration for other members of the household. The flush is reachable without standing up.

No, they clearly smell of shit. But she deals with that shit with prompt flushing etc so that it doesn’t cause the house to stink of shit.

He should LTB

Festering all morning?
I suggest you get the plumbing fixed in the toilet.

To have insisted...

DH was told...

AIBU to have made such a request?!

It doesn't sound like it was a request, though.

DH was fine with this.

If it was a request rather than a demand and he genuinely didn't mind, then what's the problem?

Can you imagine the responses if a man posted describing his abusive behaviour and said his friends found it amusing? I'm pleased so many people think the OP is out of order and have described this as the abuse it is.

He's probably down trodden by her abuse.

And the house!

I hope he has some reasonable friends.

Massively unreasonable. I don’t even know where to start

I don’t think it’s “amusing” but it doesn’t half give an insight into the sort of control you feel entitled to impose on someone who is supposed to be a partner. His compliance isn’t amusing either. The normal reaction to someone trying to control and belittle you to such a degree would be to tell them to fuck right off.

Poo troll alert.

This a million times.

So do I. He could probably do with their support.

I would not be accepting that if DH tried that on me. Although he wouldn’t.

You need to call back the bathroom fitters to attend to the ventilation issues in your other bathrooms. If you have three bathrooms but only one has adequate ventilation then that is the problem you need to fix.

Honestly its only on MN that I see this obsession with entirely normal human functions.

How is the number of employees relevant? Presumably it’s not an open plan toilet, but a small cubicle the same as if there were six employees?

Honestly, so many Mumsnetters are utterly obsessed with men shitting.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen this level of obsession on any other website.

Bloody weird and very childish.