Affair reveal - how to tell him?

[Accidentalotherwoman]

Just found out that I have been the OW via DP’s wife. She’s not blaming me but we are trying to think of how to tell him we know.

DP hates confrontations and would normally just walk out to avoid it.

How do we tell him?

Makes you wonder why he cheated on her if that’s how she deals with things.

You tell her that you had no idea he was married and if you had known you would never have got involved with him and then you block the pair of them and let them sort out their mess of a marriage.

Creating deliberate drama is low class.

I think if you really want to do a big reveal then do it in a public place in case it gets messy.

otherwise don’t do it at all and tell the DW to get a solicitor and make sure she gets what she deserves before she tell him.

Does she have him on social media? A low key way to do it could be for you and her to meet for coffee and she posts some pics of her “coffee date with a new friend”? That way you won’t get drawn into any confrontation.

Sounds like your revelling in it.

Maybe he had a reason to cheat on this wife. She sounds odd. I would walk away from this.

What would be a ‘reason’ to cheat on his wife ? Genuine question - intrigued as to what would make you think that anything could justify it. If you’re unhappy in a relationship you don’t need to cheat, you know where the door is, just leave.