I don’t want to do an escape room.

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Partner wants me to go to an escape room with him. I don’t want to go as I am claustrophobic. This does not mean I am awkward, I went to Paris with my daughter and I enjoyed that and no I do not speak French but I did German at school and can still remember some of that. Anxiety can sometimes appear as awkward behaviour. I do suffer with some anxiety but that is possibly connected to claustrophobia.

So many idiots take on this post. Yanbu op. I can’t stand these stupid escape rooms.

Don't go, I'd hate them too. German is a great language, have you thought about getting more confident with one of these apps like Duolingo?

I have lots of empathy and I'd like to think I am intelligent as well, but I genuinely failed to see the connection between escape room, Paris and German. It didn't make sense and the experiences are not comparable. However, I did not called the poster drunk (that is not nice) but rather waiting for someone to clarify.

I think possibly she was just trying to say that she can manage in most situations, perhaps making the point that she's not completely overwhelmed by anxiety? That's my take on it.

Yeah, someone said that and the OP replied "thank you" so now I understand

I have travelled the world solo, skydived, scuba dived, swum with dolphins and slept on beaches, but I absolutely loathe escape rooms and I regret being coerced into it the one time I did one. Not every activity is for every person. I'd never try to make someone do the things I've done if they didn't want to. It's supposed to be fun so if it's not fun for you, don't do it.

This "have you been drinking wine" or, worse, "are you on glue" (not in this thread) this I don't understand, very bitchy. Stay put and wait for clarifications, get out of the thread or ask nicely, no need to be rude.

What on earth does an escape room have to do with you visiting France and Germany????

I came on here thinking this was just a case of 'well don't go then it's quite simple' but then OP started talking about her daughter doing Latin but then she might not be anymore and there's nothing simple about this and I wish I hadn't read it before a coffee my head now hurts

I couldn't be bothered with that and I'm not claustrophobic. I thoughy escape rooms were for teenagers and work events. Just say 'no thank you'. You are allowed to say no. You don't even have to justify it! Suggest Paris instead. It's so sad how many women on here find it so difficult to say that word (myself included). They should teach us at school.

All of it really…….apart from the thread title.

Are you sure you are claustrophobic? And not just anxious?

I am claustrophobic and getting on a plane (to Paris to use my old high school German with my Latin speaking daughter) is my worst nightmare. I need heavy sedation to fly. You are literally trapped in a tin can in the sky when you fly.

In an escape room you are in a room (usually two rooms) the size of normal rooms in your home and are never locked in. Imagine there was a fire? So it’s literally just like standing in any room.

If your anxiety is preventing you from trying things in life you don’t have to just live with it. You can seek treatment for it.

& to PP not liking/enjoying/being interested in doing an escape room is different to being too scared to try and escape room, which is what OP is asking about here

just tell your partner
if you are able to clarify you feelings to your partner

Sometimes reading Mumsnet is a bit dispiriting when it shows how many bullies there are.

I understood from the first post that OP was giving an example about doing things outside her comfort zone. That was quite clear in context.

But regardless, why would anyone feel the need to stand snd point and laugh at someone who’s come along looking for advice? Why? It’s a really nasty, mean mentality. It makes me realise how many adults never leave the school bully mentality behind.

The confusion on here is hilarious.

I also didn’t get what the OP said re the Paris trip relating to anxiety as it wasn’t worded particularly well. The PP who replied saying what’s wrong with folk as they understood OP made it even funnier.

Then the OP came back misunderstanding about why people are querying the meaning of the original post re people being bilingual.

It’s like a comedy sketch. (The Two Ronnies Fork Handles)

I know. It's also very easy when you're anonymous and with a keyboard.

Yes this was my point, Paris was not claustrophobic (low season) but the plane was and some parts of the airport.

Does he not have any mates? Just say you don’t want to and he take a friend. It’s not by force.

Yes, if you're finding that with a plane and an airport, it's probably best to avoid a panic room. It's a leisure activity, so no compulsion to put yourself through it , unlike the necessity of a plane to travel.

I mentioned that I didn’t speak French incase people assumed I spoke French - which I don’t. I do speak some German.
obviously I’m not suggesting the French speak German but they do tend to speak some English which makes them bilingual - although not all of them.
When I was in Italy I was mistaken for being German on more than one occasion. I actually don’t speak that much German but there was a lot of Germans there and a lot of Italians speak German making them bilingual. On the flip side, a lot of Germans speak English.

Who says you are being awkward? Your husband? Why can’t he go with someone else?

My ex husband but he had poor communication skills.

Just ignore what your ex said. He's your ex! Tell your partner it's not your idea of a pleasant time out and suggest something else.

As people are saying, escape rooms aren’t actually locked so maybe that helps. However, if you don’t want to do it then you shouldn’t have to, and your partner could not go or go with someone else. If people are calling you awkward to try to get you to do something you aren’t comfortable with then they’re the asshole.

I often feel claustrophobic and when I did an escape room I worried i would be, but it wasn’t hot inside and as others have said there’s a door to leave at any time. If you do go, maybe take a bottle of ice cold water, that helps me if I’m feeling claustrophobic on the underground at any point.