I don’t want to do an escape room.

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Partner wants me to go to an escape room with him. I don’t want to go as I am claustrophobic. This does not mean I am awkward, I went to Paris with my daughter and I enjoyed that and no I do not speak French but I did German at school and can still remember some of that. Anxiety can sometimes appear as awkward behaviour. I do suffer with some anxiety but that is possibly connected to claustrophobia.

I can say “I am 12 and have a guinea pig” very well in German. Also, “excuse me, how do I get to the main railway station?”.

😂

Wunderbar!

I just wish I’d had more chance to use all that invaluable knowledge and vocabulary I learnt from hours of listening to grainy tapes with Ilse, Sabine and Bettina discussing their plans for the weekend. Would they visit the shopping mall or go to the cinema? What would they wear? And, most importantly, would Jens, the hot boy from chemistry class, be calling Sabine to invite her to the end of year party?

But you can’t put a price on knowledge! 😆

It's not unseasonable to say you do not want to do it, for any reason at all. Don't feel pushed into it.

It doesn't really sound like fun to me, and I am not claustrophobic.

Tell him you don't want to do it. YANBU.

@JudyStillDreamsOfHorses I am 43 and have 3 delightful furry Meerschweinen!

I assume the paris thing is about claustrophobia and her anxiety. The German comment is a bit random maybe English is not her first language

60% of French people are bilingual ( 36% UK ) only 3% of French people speak German. Far more or 26% speak English
So I’m confused by the comment re the German language

YANBU, they’re dogshit. I’ve had to endure a few as work socials, but I would never choose to do it with friends or as a date idea.

I presume they’re popular because they’re a way to socialise without alcohol and be inclusive, but I don’t know anyone who likes them.

A very small number speak French but you’ll give them a laugh and they’ll respond in English 😁

kaka samba na kuseka

I love them.
We go for weekends away to various cities around the UK to site see etc and have a list of requirements one of which is
an Escape room

It's like me going on holidays to Spain and speaking Russian.

It’s 3am.
Ineeded this Velmy 😆

Op, you are either drunk, on a windup or mad as box of frogs.

I would not do one either, I am also claustrophobic. What if you have a breakdown and he accuses you of ruining the experience for him? Save yourself, and him, let him do it alone.

WHERE IS THE LAUGHING EMOJI? !!!
BRING IT BACK

the comments on this thread need the appreciation they truly deserve

I don’t understand the links between escape rooms, going to Paris and learning German. Are you ok op?

The MN witches are out in force.

OP - you don't want to do it. You don't have to explain any more to your partner or any other fuck. From your post I can see that you're probably told alot you are too anxious, too this too that.

Could you practice a conversation where you simply say with absolute confidence ' I don't fancy that. I've considered it and definitely won't enjoy it. So I'm not doing it. That's the end of it. Is there anything else we might try that's outdoors? What about xyz'

I understand it can be frustrating if one person really wants to do something and the other doesn't. It's natural to press you. Think of alternative compromises so you're being open and flexible. It's supposed to be fun and if it isn't fun this far, it's not your thing. You are not unreasonable.

I miss the days when mn was full of threads like this. OP tries to get point across but mangles it slightly, everyone jumps on with comments and then it descends into farce.

These days it's mostly just arguments, sadly.

OP I've got no intention of going to an escape room- it's just not really my thing. I love Paris and travelling in general but prefer to spend my time sightseeing or taking in the culture than doing an "activity". You can say no to your DP.

I’ve done a few escape rooms, they are typically in a large room and you can leave at anytime (it would be a fire hazard if not) but I went to one once where they handcuffed you together and you had to get out the handcuffs.

i would say to your dp “it’s not my thing but you should go with friends. “

You are not responsible for his entertainment and shouldn’t feel pressured to be.

I loved the one about wine, myself.

If you like logic puzzles you'll enjoy escape rooms, OP. As others have said you aren't actually locked in, and you could call up to ask if the room you had in mind had small spaces as a feature (such as a crawl-through element).

Do you get the impression from OP's post that they're a fan of logic?

If you don't want to go then you don't have to

Maybe you could buy one of those escape rooms in a box to see the kind of puzzles they have and you can do those at home with your partner