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Do you trust the state to protect and provide for you?

194 replies

TFloss · 14/06/2025 20:07

Read a Times article on 12th June - ‘Middle-class vigilantes are turning against the state’. It talks about a growing trend of middle-class Brits taking matters into their own hands due to perceived failures of the state, particularly around police and public services creating a shift toward self-reliance, driven not by ideology but by necessity.

Doing own police work to solve crimes, private healthcare, private education, private security/community networks to prevent crime, more use of private transport, use of private mental health services, private carers, private bin collections.

Is this unreasonable or are you seeing this? Are people feeling like they have no choice but to step in where the state has stepped back?

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Goodlorditssummer · 15/06/2025 19:55

BIossomtoes · 15/06/2025 19:28

Both choices. Those services are universally available free of charge.

To some, not all. I cannot get a GP appointment. At all. Ever. So no, it’s not “universally available”. It should be and god knows I pay enough tax to facilitate it, but it’s not.

strawberrybubblegum · 15/06/2025 19:56

Expatornot · 15/06/2025 19:01

But perhaps the problem isn’t that the wealthy are paying for a welfare state but moreover that we seem to be paying more and more and getting less and less (in terms of quality and readily available service) and that is what the gripe is about and the need to seek out alternatives…

Those who don’t pay yet get the same service don’t have the luxury of complaining about what they are getting so just put up with it…

The UK hasn't improved productivity in decades, and our GDP per person is shrinking. As a country, we need to accept that - unless we can improve our productivity.

What has changed is
a) the tax burden has shifted even further towards higher earners, rather than lower earners
b) higher earners are being means-tested out of more and more supposedly universal services so they don't even get the benefit of what they are paying more and more towards

ExpressCheckout · 15/06/2025 19:56

Expatornot · 15/06/2025 19:01

But perhaps the problem isn’t that the wealthy are paying for a welfare state but moreover that we seem to be paying more and more and getting less and less (in terms of quality and readily available service) and that is what the gripe is about and the need to seek out alternatives…

Those who don’t pay yet get the same service don’t have the luxury of complaining about what they are getting so just put up with it…

Yes, also true.

I suppose, getting into the politics of this ... I would like the Labour government to make absolutely sure that the money they are pitching into the NHS is spent wisely.

Worryingly, I've not yet heard anything about dealing with the elephant in the room: staff sickness and absence, and dealing with the underemployment of newly qualified doctors.

Wesley needs to steal himself for some battles with the unions. In fact, given that he's got his way with the budget, they are probably the biggest threat to any change or reform of the NHS right now.

yakkity · 15/06/2025 19:56

SpottedDonkey · 14/06/2025 20:26

Of course not. A member of my family was recently put on a 2 year NHS waitlist for a knee replacement. He needs one now, not in two years’ time, so he is cashing in some investments which had been put in place to fund his retirement in order to go private. He is in the fortunate position of being able to do that, but that’s not the point.

This is a person who has literally worked hard all his life & never claimed a penny in benefits of any kind, ever. In return, he not unreasonably expected the state to look after him in his time of need. He now feels utterly betrayed, so guess who he will be voting for at the next election?

I think if we choose to go private the state should reimburse us what would have been spent had we gone nhs.

parts of the world do this for private education also

ExpressCheckout · 15/06/2025 19:58

yakkity · 15/06/2025 19:56

I think if we choose to go private the state should reimburse us what would have been spent had we gone nhs.

parts of the world do this for private education also

I think that's an excellent idea. No idea how it would work in practice, but providing tax relief on the purchase could be done I suppose.

Pebbles16 · 15/06/2025 19:59

Nevertrustacop · 14/06/2025 20:14

I can't imagine relying on the state.
The main reason I save is to ensure that my family and people I know don't have to rely on it. Sure we use what is available but our lives would be a lot worse if we couldn't supplement it.
I'm thinking tutors, private care for elderly, private gps as and when, drugs not prescribed on the NHS, dentistry, not relying on legal aid, etc etc...

So unfortunately accurate

Pebbles16 · 15/06/2025 20:01

yakkity · 15/06/2025 19:56

I think if we choose to go private the state should reimburse us what would have been spent had we gone nhs.

parts of the world do this for private education also

Sadly Tory austerity left so little in the coffers, this is a non-starter

strawberrybubblegum · 15/06/2025 20:03

Pebbles16 · 15/06/2025 20:01

Sadly Tory austerity left so little in the coffers, this is a non-starter

It's not Tory austerity to blame. It's low productivity caused by perverse disincentives to work.

RosesAndHellebores · 15/06/2025 20:04

Goodlorditssummer · 15/06/2025 19:55

To some, not all. I cannot get a GP appointment. At all. Ever. So no, it’s not “universally available”. It should be and god knows I pay enough tax to facilitate it, but it’s not.

Hmm. I'm not sure it is wholly equal. My DC went to a "delightful" leafy cofe school, feted for being top of the league tables. There were no fees but there were peripatetic music lessons with instrument hire and teacher fees and an expectation that every child learnt - about £80 pcm in the noughties. Endless cake sales requiring time and money, the summer and Christmas bazaars raising c£20k and £4k complete with generous auction prizes and generous bids.

It all easily added up to £30pw in addition to milk money, dinner money, £1 a week for class funds for tissues, glue, seeds, etc.

and some of the teaching was so dim, children needed tutors to keep the school in the top three and get them into selective secondaries.

It isn't equal even when it's free

TooBigForMyBoots · 15/06/2025 20:21

No.

I'm a middle aged, working class woman. I grew up knowing I could not trust the state to protect me.🙃

RosesAndHellebores · 15/06/2025 20:27

TooBigForMyBoots · 15/06/2025 20:21

No.

I'm a middle aged, working class woman. I grew up knowing I could not trust the state to protect me.🙃

Well quite, and the state provides the minimum accepted standard. I always wanted far more.

BIossomtoes · 15/06/2025 20:43

Not always. I paid for my cataract surgery. It was done by the same surgeon in the same theatre as if the NHS paid. The only difference was that I didn’t have to wait.

Pebbles16 · 15/06/2025 20:46

strawberrybubblegum · 15/06/2025 20:03

It's not Tory austerity to blame. It's low productivity caused by perverse disincentives to work.

Caused by UC propping up poor paying employers

Chiseltip · 15/06/2025 21:59

BIossomtoes · 15/06/2025 17:10

Link?

It's called a Financial Institution Notice or FIN. Introduced in 2021.

strawberrybubblegum · 15/06/2025 22:14

Pebbles16 · 15/06/2025 20:46

Caused by UC propping up poor paying employers

That started with Brown's tax credits. Which also had very high levels of fraud.

TooBigForMyBoots · 15/06/2025 23:09

RosesAndHellebores · 15/06/2025 20:27

Well quite, and the state provides the minimum accepted standard. I always wanted far more.

I'm from. NI.

I grew up knowing that the state doesn't provide the minimum accepted standard for its citizens. It didn't for me or my family.

Or my friends. Or my neighbours, school mates, colleagues etc.Sad

TheHateIsNotGood · 15/06/2025 23:16

Nope. But I've found in times of need that the Big State is a lot more helpful than the small state which is populated by workers all too ready to take their pay whilst doing their best to ensure the people they are paid to assist receive the absolute minimum.

Pistachiocake · 15/06/2025 23:25

Aramox · 14/06/2025 20:28

I did until I saw what happened to someone becoming suddenly disabled. I don't have a choice but to rely on the state but I see now how threadbare the safety net is.

Yes, I think it's easy to be complacent, as I was-I always loved the idea of the NHS and our benefits system which protected the vulnerable-till I saw an old relative left in a chair in AE for days, or a friend who couldn't work in tears due to the disability checks (not sure what the proper name for the interviews he had to attend is, sorry) and feeling helpless and not believed.

C8H10N4O2 · 16/06/2025 09:28

Chiseltip · 15/06/2025 21:59

It's called a Financial Institution Notice or FIN. Introduced in 2021.

Oh good grief, FIN was introduced to comply with international tax rules and investigations into corporate fraud and money shuffling. It can also be used for issues of debt collection where money is owed to HMRC.

Every FIN request requires a formal justification and the organisation gets a copy of the full report supplied on them. They can challenge if anything is incorrect.

Do you regard it as sinister that employers provide wages info to HMRC?

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