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TheNuthatch · 16/06/2025 20:28

Everanewbie · 16/06/2025 19:58

Another thing here that annoys me is the frequent reference to Asian men. It isn’t Japanese, Nepalese, Vietnamese or Sri Lankan men, is it?! Let’s be clear, it’s Pakistani men.

Casey said in an interview that she often found the word Pakistani tippexed out on documents when working in Rotherham.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 16/06/2025 20:30

TheNuthatch · 16/06/2025 20:28

Casey said in an interview that she often found the word Pakistani tippexed out on documents when working in Rotherham.

I bet. But if it's that awful lumpy tippex from the 90s then surely at least those can be revealed by a quick rap against a desk and allow it to crumble to dust.

miraxxx · 16/06/2025 20:32

TheNuthatch · 16/06/2025 20:28

Casey said in an interview that she often found the word Pakistani tippexed out on documents when working in Rotherham.

Any link to this interview please? Thank you.

Mumneedstea · 16/06/2025 20:39

Everanewbie · 16/06/2025 19:58

Another thing here that annoys me is the frequent reference to Asian men. It isn’t Japanese, Nepalese, Vietnamese or Sri Lankan men, is it?! Let’s be clear, it’s Pakistani men.

Which is why it is really important to add in religion and the country they or their families came from - that's when you will see a pattern. Men from certain Asian countries and certain religion aren't brought up to respect women 😡

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 16/06/2025 20:42

miraxxx · 16/06/2025 20:32

Any link to this interview please? Thank you.

It's in the Times, I think, behind a paywall. If you have a subscription I could link it? I managed to cut this,

*Casey presumed that the government, police, councils and other agencies would “wake up to the fact that these were abused children and do their damnedest to make sure these victims were given as much care, respect and chance at justice as possible”.

That has not happened, for three main reasons.

First, cultural sensitives and concerns. She recalls an official in Rotherham who felt-tipped out the word “Pakistani” on a children’s services file. “I thought, ‘Oh God, the person that did this is well-meaning but utterly stupid’.” But the attitude still lingers around the country*.

https://www.thetimes.com/uk/politics/article/baroness-casey-interview-grooming-gangs-xqbqvtdww

OpheliaWasntMad · 16/06/2025 20:45

EasternStandard · 16/06/2025 18:42

I can’t believe the narrative that closed it all
down. There should be resignations over this.

Let’s be honest - there were quite a few posters on here trying to promote that narrative. Posters were called far right and racist on this thread .
Funnily enough the most prolific poster has gone quiet .

SquashedMallow · 16/06/2025 20:48

OpheliaWasntMad · 16/06/2025 20:45

Let’s be honest - there were quite a few posters on here trying to promote that narrative. Posters were called far right and racist on this thread .
Funnily enough the most prolific poster has gone quiet .

Absolutely 💯

TheNuthatch · 16/06/2025 20:52

miraxxx · 16/06/2025 20:32

Any link to this interview please? Thank you.

Sky news tonight with Sophie Ridge. It's on the sky live feed.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 16/06/2025 20:54

It's remarkable how the same tactics that echo in this thread were the same tools used to subvert the system from working how it should have. The gaslighting that finds it's way even into an every day discussion was as practiced as it was vitriolic.

TheNuthatch · 16/06/2025 20:56

miraxxx · 16/06/2025 20:32

Any link to this interview please? Thank you.

Screenshot from Sky app

There will be a national enquiry into the grooming gangs
SquashedMallow · 16/06/2025 20:57

Finally we now might be on the turn, back to balance for all. Because these last few years the pendulum has well and truly swung to silence uk majorities to top toe around minority groups. That is not balance, but we've been heavily brainwashed in a concentrated fashion to believe things such as critical race theory are fact. It's crazy really when you look at it. You can see the deeply ingrained brainwashing in action on here.

"White people can't experience racism. Fact" no... Not fact.

"You don't get to have a voice because you're privileged" unfair.

"You cannot say anything about any minority group in the UK , because you're racist if you do" bullshit, we all must be accountable.

And you know who's peddling most of these lies ? Middle class white women living in nice picket fence lined rural streets.

One lot of humans doesn't get to shut down another lot of humans. We're all human and all should accept the flaws and triumphs of our inherent cultures and religions and ways of life. It's only then that we can even hope to come together.

SquashedMallow · 16/06/2025 21:00

Fetaface · 15/06/2025 00:06

The patriarchy and misogyny is clear in all cultures with regards to attitudes towards women. The elephant in the room is that we like to say 'not in our culture' but it bloody well is.

I mean it is the UK culture to call these girls prostitutes - the UK culture has defined this crime as being one of a reciprocal agreement and has placed it at a low level of intervention for SS. Historically in the UK this was called child prostitution. The definition put the blame on the child. The definition STILL puts the blame on the child. That is our culture.

Edited

I hope you've eaten your hat following the report, or at the very least made it food for thought for you to reflect on.

Ncfo · 16/06/2025 21:01

This is a much bigger problem than I think people realise. I grew up in a nice town in the SE. At around 12-15 years old , several of my friends (all poorer white teenage girls) would be driven around at all hours by pakistani men. I went a few times and it was insane. They would buy us fags, booze etc. I was locked in a house once and escaped when I screamed upon realising the door was locked and a nice one unlocked the door. I never went again. The girls found this normal. The men were all maybe 25-40 ish. I think it was a few different groups, not all connected. A few of them ended up having babies with them and never sharing the father’s identities. Back then you didn’t realise it’s the sort of thing to report. I’m now 30, I can’t imagine it stops.

TheNuthatch · 16/06/2025 21:07

Ncfo · 16/06/2025 21:01

This is a much bigger problem than I think people realise. I grew up in a nice town in the SE. At around 12-15 years old , several of my friends (all poorer white teenage girls) would be driven around at all hours by pakistani men. I went a few times and it was insane. They would buy us fags, booze etc. I was locked in a house once and escaped when I screamed upon realising the door was locked and a nice one unlocked the door. I never went again. The girls found this normal. The men were all maybe 25-40 ish. I think it was a few different groups, not all connected. A few of them ended up having babies with them and never sharing the father’s identities. Back then you didn’t realise it’s the sort of thing to report. I’m now 30, I can’t imagine it stops.

I'm sorry you experienced that. Sounds like you had a lucky escape.
It was rife where I grew up. One of the teachers would keep all the girls in my class behind if these 'men' were waiting outside school. The teachers knew exactly what was happening, police didn't care.

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 16/06/2025 21:09

Our teachers just turned a blind eye as girls got picked up in the school car park by these bastards. And then they just slowly all dropped off the radar.

Early 90s, an area with a lot of poverty and struggling through the recession. The girls were easy pickings, hungry latch key kids.

TheNuthatch · 16/06/2025 21:13

ThePhantomoftheEcobubbleOpera · 16/06/2025 21:09

Our teachers just turned a blind eye as girls got picked up in the school car park by these bastards. And then they just slowly all dropped off the radar.

Early 90s, an area with a lot of poverty and struggling through the recession. The girls were easy pickings, hungry latch key kids.

Yep, sounds familiar. Most of our teachers weren't bothered, but this particular teacher really tried her best. One of my school friends is a victim. Everybody knew what was going on. My parents warned me about it. It was common knowledge and we all knew which areas to avoid.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 16/06/2025 21:33

ilovebrie8 · 16/06/2025 19:39

Maggie Oliver what a woman …why isn’t she on the honours lists…

Perhaps because she's objective in detailing issues which our leaders would rather not address, and won't shut up about them?

Typo

Fetaface · 16/06/2025 23:19

SquashedMallow · 16/06/2025 21:00

I hope you've eaten your hat following the report, or at the very least made it food for thought for you to reflect on.

Edited

Eaten my hat on what? That all rapists should be held to account and all victims should be supported?

Still stand by that. No hat to be eaten.

Why do you think we shouldn't hold all to account or help all victims? Please lay out your case for ignoring some?

The Uk culture is to treat women badly hence why we have a quota on rape meaning victims of rape are actively ignored and evidence is destroyed and rapists who confess are given the green light to do it again. We have 90% of girls in schools being sexually abused by boys but nope the culture is of respect you say? We have girls in school uniforms being harassed by men and mn groping people left right and centre on buses and in the bars. We also have so many women who are not respected and treated as skivvies in the home because men do not respect women. So nope I do not find the UK is respectful of women at all.

Absolutely it is not. Hence why the call for misogyny to be a hate crime and that Prevent have a focus on incel behaviour but do tell why that is? And those few dead women each week are thankful of the respect in the UK along with the majority of women who wake up being raped/assaulted by their partners who think consent isn't a thing when asleep or the pregnant women for who abuse is more common than morning sickness. That respect you mean? yeah we are rolling in it.

OpheliaWasntMad · 17/06/2025 00:10

Fetaface · 16/06/2025 23:19

Eaten my hat on what? That all rapists should be held to account and all victims should be supported?

Still stand by that. No hat to be eaten.

Why do you think we shouldn't hold all to account or help all victims? Please lay out your case for ignoring some?

The Uk culture is to treat women badly hence why we have a quota on rape meaning victims of rape are actively ignored and evidence is destroyed and rapists who confess are given the green light to do it again. We have 90% of girls in schools being sexually abused by boys but nope the culture is of respect you say? We have girls in school uniforms being harassed by men and mn groping people left right and centre on buses and in the bars. We also have so many women who are not respected and treated as skivvies in the home because men do not respect women. So nope I do not find the UK is respectful of women at all.

Absolutely it is not. Hence why the call for misogyny to be a hate crime and that Prevent have a focus on incel behaviour but do tell why that is? And those few dead women each week are thankful of the respect in the UK along with the majority of women who wake up being raped/assaulted by their partners who think consent isn't a thing when asleep or the pregnant women for who abuse is more common than morning sickness. That respect you mean? yeah we are rolling in it.

Edited

There’s a lot of deflection in your post .
No mention of the Casey report or the grooming gangs we are discussing. You can’t keep using those tactics.

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 00:14

OpheliaWasntMad · 17/06/2025 00:10

There’s a lot of deflection in your post .
No mention of the Casey report or the grooming gangs we are discussing. You can’t keep using those tactics.

I haven't spoken on the Casey report. Sorry is there rules on here on what I have to talk about. So many others on this thread haven't mentioned it but you are the boss of the thread and tell me off for not doing so but ignore others who do the same, righto?

So what were you saying? That I should be ashamed for saying the UK isn't respectful of women. I stand by what I said, that we have a VAWG issue in the UK leading to interventions necessary to safeguard females because it is far from a respectful place.

I have mentioned grooming gangs - they are rapists. It was the first line of my response. Did you miss the bit where I said I wanted all rapists held to account or are you pretending I didn't say that?

How is it deflection to A) respond to my quote with you saying I should eat my hat now as you apparently think it was wrong for me to say the UK and white men are not respectful towards women and B) because I didn't say grooming gangs but called them rapists so that is deflecting.

TranceNation · 17/06/2025 00:21

Surely Jess Philips position is already untenable.

OpheliaWasntMad · 17/06/2025 00:24

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 00:14

I haven't spoken on the Casey report. Sorry is there rules on here on what I have to talk about. So many others on this thread haven't mentioned it but you are the boss of the thread and tell me off for not doing so but ignore others who do the same, righto?

So what were you saying? That I should be ashamed for saying the UK isn't respectful of women. I stand by what I said, that we have a VAWG issue in the UK leading to interventions necessary to safeguard females because it is far from a respectful place.

I have mentioned grooming gangs - they are rapists. It was the first line of my response. Did you miss the bit where I said I wanted all rapists held to account or are you pretending I didn't say that?

How is it deflection to A) respond to my quote with you saying I should eat my hat now as you apparently think it was wrong for me to say the UK and white men are not respectful towards women and B) because I didn't say grooming gangs but called them rapists so that is deflecting.

Edited

You have made a lot of generalisations about the misogyny in the U.K. but your point seemed to be that misogyny was rife and no one group was any more responsible than another for the grooming gang scandal.

Thankfully the Casey report was more specific and precise in its analysis.

I copied and pasted below for your information.

A report into sexual abuse carried out by grooming gangs in England and Wales says there was a "collective failure to address questions about the ethnicity of grooming gangs"

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/c6292x36d4pt

'Collective failure' to address questions about grooming gangs' ethnicity, says Casey report

Home Secretary Yvette Cooper says the government will now require ethnicity and nationality data to be collected for all child sexual abuse cases.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/c6292x36d4pt

Fetaface · 17/06/2025 00:32

OpheliaWasntMad · 17/06/2025 00:24

You have made a lot of generalisations about the misogyny in the U.K. but your point seemed to be that misogyny was rife and no one group was any more responsible than another for the grooming gang scandal.

Thankfully the Casey report was more specific and precise in its analysis.

I copied and pasted below for your information.

A report into sexual abuse carried out by grooming gangs in England and Wales says there was a "collective failure to address questions about the ethnicity of grooming gangs"

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/c6292x36d4pt

Nope I haven't said they were equal in their amounts at all. That is YOUR assumption and quote wrong. You said I should eat my hat about saying the UK is misogynistic. It is. Hence why we have interventions such as Tackling Violence Against Women and Girls Strategy. We wouldn't need that if the Uk was respectful to females now would we?

Thanks for the information. I knew all that you have linked so not quite sure why you posted it. The data is there and I have commented on that further up the thread. You seem to have failed in reading where I did that. I actually talked about the different ways data can be analysed as an equivalent fraction in comparison. So why did you not link to where I did that? Or would that not have portrayed me in the light that you wished to pretend about me? Ironic eh?

So what is your point? Are you going to make one to me or are you going to make up more fabrications about me as you just did?

TildaSwan · 17/06/2025 00:34

TranceNation · 17/06/2025 00:21

Surely Jess Philips position is already untenable.

I was thinking exactly the same thing. It wouldn't be at all unlikely if she were to resign.

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