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Men with hands down the front of their trousers

111 replies

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 15:44

Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is absolutely disgusting and unhygienic. I keep seeing young men out in public with one hand inside their trousers and very obviously on their dicks. My husband thinks it’s disgusting too and I rate his opinion.

OP posts:
Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:16

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:15

What do you think. Honestly I give up.

I think that yes, you would actually think that you were being unreasonable to think he was being disgusting if you husband had said it was fine

MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 16:18

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:12

No need for the sarcasm. I think what I meant was it wasn’t me being sensitive.

I would have thought most women, and a good proportion of men, find it unpleasant. It’s worth noting, of course, that there are far, far more unhealthy bacteria in our mouths than on the skin of a penis.

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:18

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:16

I think that yes, you would actually think that you were being unreasonable to think he was being disgusting if you husband had said it was fine

You are so wrong but I’m not going to waste any more time trying to convince you.

OP posts:
drspouse · 14/06/2025 16:18

There was a man washing under his swim trunks at the pool (open showers). I had a loud word with him and others were making faces. He claimed it wasn't possible to wash properly without doing this and I told him to shower at home then.
Front desk staff weren't impressed either but didn't appear to have any solution.

ArtTheClown · 14/06/2025 16:21

There was a thread here where someone photographed one of the filthy fuckers doing it, and people were outraged at her violatiion of a young man's right to privacy.
Personally, I think if you want privacy to play with your dick, you should do it at home.

Hallywally · 14/06/2025 16:21

It’s revolting and offensive.

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:23

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:18

You are so wrong but I’m not going to waste any more time trying to convince you.

op
yes it’s disgusting
yes you come across as a bit in awe of your husband and think we should be the same we are categorically not in awe of your husband’

minipie · 14/06/2025 16:24

My point was that it’s not just a female viewpoint that isn’t disgusting.

Even if it was “just” a female viewpoint - that’s still valid.

HangryLikeTheHulk · 14/06/2025 16:25

I’ve never seen this. Was it a pauper ?

NiLunNiLautre · 14/06/2025 16:28

I had only read about this on here and thought people were exaggerating or just making too much of some lad innocently adjusting himself or something until recently I was town and I saw some late teens at it. It’s disgusting.

I can’t fathom quite why they do it. It’s not attractive or impressive or threatening, just gross.

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:30

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:12

No need for the sarcasm. I think what I meant was it wasn’t me being sensitive.

Ignore the sarcasm OP.

I knew exactly what you meant.
I would find my DH's opinion interesting too, from a male perspective.

And yeah, it is absolutely gross and I wonder if they touch DW and DC straight afterwards?
Can't imagine that type of man washing his hands every five minutes, can you?

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:31

One man told me that they do it for "comfort".

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:34

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:23

op
yes it’s disgusting
yes you come across as a bit in awe of your husband and think we should be the same we are categorically not in awe of your husband’

This is why I don't start threads nowadays.
Some people just take simple comments to ridiculous levels!

And there must be some strange relationships where women never ask or value their husbands opinions.....

JoshLymanSwagger · 14/06/2025 16:35

I suppose the only saving grace is that he had his hand down the front of his own trousers, and not somebody elses.

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:36

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:31

One man told me that they do it for "comfort".

Aww, bless 'em ...

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:40

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:36

Aww, bless 'em ...

He actually said to me "its not a sexual thing. Do women not touch their vagina's for comfort"

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:40

Do you think we should be reporting these guys to the police.

I want to but then im too nice and i think, oh it will ruin his life etc etc

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:42

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:40

Do you think we should be reporting these guys to the police.

I want to but then im too nice and i think, oh it will ruin his life etc etc

It’s not that you’re too nice

it is that hopefully somewhere in your brain, common sense kicks in that stops you from reporting this

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:42

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:40

He actually said to me "its not a sexual thing. Do women not touch their vagina's for comfort"

😁 Just envisioned women walking around in public with their hands down their pants!
Ya know, just for comfort like.....

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:48

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:42

It’s not that you’re too nice

it is that hopefully somewhere in your brain, common sense kicks in that stops you from reporting this

What?

Its a crime to masturbate in public.

I saw a video where a woman was arrested and jailed in the US, for masturbating on a beach.

The minute a woman does it, it is reported. We are too nice to men, and we dont report them

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:51

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:48

What?

Its a crime to masturbate in public.

I saw a video where a woman was arrested and jailed in the US, for masturbating on a beach.

The minute a woman does it, it is reported. We are too nice to men, and we dont report them

So if you think this person is masturbating in public, you wouldn’t report him because you’re “too nice” and worried about ruining his life?

If I thought someone was masturbating in public, hell I’d report, but I don’t think a revolting man walking along with his dog and one hand down his jeans is masturbating in all likelihood. Do you?

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:52

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:48

What?

Its a crime to masturbate in public.

I saw a video where a woman was arrested and jailed in the US, for masturbating on a beach.

The minute a woman does it, it is reported. We are too nice to men, and we dont report them

masturbating in public is a crime; it is indecent behaviour.

walking along with your hand down your trousers is unsightly and gross but not a crime

however you seem to think the two inevitably go hand in hand

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:55

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:52

masturbating in public is a crime; it is indecent behaviour.

walking along with your hand down your trousers is unsightly and gross but not a crime

however you seem to think the two inevitably go hand in hand

hand in hand

🤣 🤣

Petitchat · 14/06/2025 16:56

Sorry, don't know why I found that funny?
As you were....

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:57

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:51

So if you think this person is masturbating in public, you wouldn’t report him because you’re “too nice” and worried about ruining his life?

If I thought someone was masturbating in public, hell I’d report, but I don’t think a revolting man walking along with his dog and one hand down his jeans is masturbating in all likelihood. Do you?

Edited

The man in your scenario IS masturbating in all likelihood. He is touching himself

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