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Men with hands down the front of their trousers

111 replies

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 15:44

Am I being unreasonable in thinking this is absolutely disgusting and unhygienic. I keep seeing young men out in public with one hand inside their trousers and very obviously on their dicks. My husband thinks it’s disgusting too and I rate his opinion.

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minipie · 14/06/2025 15:45

I don’t think you need your husband to confirm this is grim. Of course it is

BCBird · 14/06/2025 15:46

I agree. My friend and I used to say under our breath, ' it's still there '. Vile behaviour and can be threatening too.

SummerEve · 14/06/2025 15:47

It’s horrible and completely unacceptable. I am in a client facing role and challenge it when I see it.

Maythefuckinglordopen · 14/06/2025 15:48

Yes I've noticed an increase in this gross behaviour. Clearly playing with their dick right in front of everyone. Would love to be brave enough to ask why. But it does seem oddly threatening.

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 15:50

minipie · 14/06/2025 15:45

I don’t think you need your husband to confirm this is grim. Of course it is

I don’t need my husband to confirm my thought process. My point was that it’s not just a female viewpoint that isn’t disgusting. A man has clarified that it’s unacceptable. I don’t know any man that would think this is ok.

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Niceduck · 14/06/2025 15:50

My husband thinks it’s disgusting too and I rate his opinion.

this made me chuckle

Guavafish1 · 14/06/2025 15:51

I don’t really observe this behaviour

Lokit · 14/06/2025 15:56

Voted YANBU ...& now I'm wondering who on earth the 7% who voted YABU are. I can't imagine young, male public dick fiddlers frequent Mumsnet; maybe it's their mums! 😆

wobblybrain · 14/06/2025 15:58

Well if a man has clarified…

researchers3 · 14/06/2025 16:02

minipie · 14/06/2025 15:45

I don’t think you need your husband to confirm this is grim. Of course it is

This!!

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:05

I’d bet they aren’t wearing a top either
And wondering around town with a woman pushing a buggy, with child slugging a coke.

I know it’s not PC, but I’d bet a lot on it

MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 16:06

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 15:50

I don’t need my husband to confirm my thought process. My point was that it’s not just a female viewpoint that isn’t disgusting. A man has clarified that it’s unacceptable. I don’t know any man that would think this is ok.

A man has clarified it, you say? Well, that settles it then.

SummerEve · 14/06/2025 16:08

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:05

I’d bet they aren’t wearing a top either
And wondering around town with a woman pushing a buggy, with child slugging a coke.

I know it’s not PC, but I’d bet a lot on it

Or even better, an energy drink.

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:10

A man has clarified that it’s unacceptable.

so it’s gospel then.

Ambaallen4 · 14/06/2025 16:10

Its disgusting.

I was literally private tutoring an adult male and he started "adjusting himself", while sitting next to me. I could tell that he was aroused and he was touching himself because of that. I refused to work with him again.

Really, we should report these guys to the police. I dont cuz i get scared i wont be believed. Its his word against mine. No cameras.

Judiezones · 14/06/2025 16:10

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:05

I’d bet they aren’t wearing a top either
And wondering around town with a woman pushing a buggy, with child slugging a coke.

I know it’s not PC, but I’d bet a lot on it

and eating a pasty out of a paper bag

Lizzbear · 14/06/2025 16:10

I’ve seen it too. Couldn’t believe my eyes. I thought I was imagining it. WTF

terracelane23 · 14/06/2025 16:12

It’s grim. I used to teach teenage boys. They’re constantly shuffling things around down there.

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:12

MemorableTrenchcoat · 14/06/2025 16:06

A man has clarified it, you say? Well, that settles it then.

No need for the sarcasm. I think what I meant was it wasn’t me being sensitive.

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Judiezones · 14/06/2025 16:13

Usually they're wearing those awful track suit bottoms that slip down and show their bums/underpants and have tight ankle cuffs. I call them "no self-respect trousers".

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:14

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:05

I’d bet they aren’t wearing a top either
And wondering around town with a woman pushing a buggy, with child slugging a coke.

I know it’s not PC, but I’d bet a lot on it

Yes they were wearing a top. Walking dog, no woman with a pram.

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Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:14

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:12

No need for the sarcasm. I think what I meant was it wasn’t me being sensitive.

So if your husband had said it was fine…. You’d have no longer thought disgusting?

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:14

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:14

Yes they were wearing a top. Walking dog, no woman with a pram.

American xl?

youworkedhard · 14/06/2025 16:15

Niceduck · 14/06/2025 16:14

So if your husband had said it was fine…. You’d have no longer thought disgusting?

What do you think. Honestly I give up.

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DoctorRoseReturns · 14/06/2025 16:15

It was the trademark of a former inmate at one point