Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

[Herefortea2]

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

This kid was acting like a fool and you called him out on it, that's fine but you could have gone about it a different way. We all react in the moment and that's understandable, I may have reacted the same way but mayb just have a think about how you could have dealt with it more appropriately for future reference. I work in a school and I've found that if I treat the kids with politeness and respect then it's mostly reciprocated, the staff that respond with anger and belittling language just get it in return and so a cycle ensues. It's not a failsafe method but works on the whole if you're consistent, obviously if it's a one off encounter this approach probably won't make a difference but I just wanted to share my experience to counter some of the other views of unruly kids, show 'em who's boss.

There you go OP, you’ve been officially sanctified.

Only a cunt with cuntish parents is allowed to whizz about a supermarket terrorising shoppers, so yeah... Do your next best 🙄.

Sometimes people out up with abuse. Sometimes people don't. I don't think it's the end of the world, it's a lesson for him, never know what you're going to come up against.

Honestly if you'd just called him a cunt i wouldn't be judging you - he was behaving like a cunt, fully aware he was and doing so deliberately, so spade a spade. It's not like a 3 year old, 11 is old enough to know how to behave.

Fat cunt is a bit unnecessary and random because it has nothing to with his behaviour.

I mean yes, obviously you should try and take the high road and not sink to a child's level but at the end of the day, the easiest way to avoid being called a cunt is not to act like one. I might be joining you in hell but I must admit I thought it was quite funny and served him right that his dad didn't believe him!

I know it’s terrible but I’m reading these comments pissing myself laughing at the thought of a grown woman sneakily calling a boy on a mobility bike a fat cunt, then letting the boy be told he’s lying over it from his dad.

No you shouldn’t have called him a “fat cnt”. It’s so outrageous, it’s hilarious. Reminds me of that Ricky Gervais scene in ‘Afterlife’.

Maybe a little unreasonable but this has been my favourite thread for ages. Special mention to @wobblyewobbly for their comments and the resulting discussion 😂🤣

Same. Are all the good people in bed?

The fact that his dad didn’t believe him says a lot.

🤣🤣🤣🥊🥊🥊

You just do not use language like that to a child. Even if they are behaving like a complete arsehole.

Don’t be ridiculous. Having said she was being unreasonable I think it’s fair to acknowledge her follow up. A lot of these threads end up with loads of people piling on with abuse long after the OP has acknowledged their mistake. I think it’s nice for them to get a few posts actually recognising that they’ve conceded the point. AIBU can be an awful experience if you post something honest that doesn’t paint you in a good light, people can turn really nasty.

If you seem him again just apologise for calling him a fat cunt

Then call him a stupid cunt

The boxing gloves has me laughing all over again 😂😂😂😂 bring back the laughing emoji for crying out loud

Haha, he deserved it IMO. Never mind all this “you need to demonstrate good behaviour” lecturing. No she doesn’t, not when he’s acting like that. His caregiver was outside in the car park not giving one fuck, but some stranger being harassed by his offspring is expected to? No chance.

It he’s acting like that at such a young age and nobody stands up to him, imagine him at 15.

Dad needs to stop being so impotent, standing about in a car park while his kid intimidates and annoys people. The boy will find out one day when someone knocks the shit out of him for being so obnoxious.

Too early for a Classics nomination?!

Fair enough but you did sound a little pompous.

Who the hell calls an 11 year old that? That is absolutely appalling.

Yeah sure say something to the kid but how you reacted always awful.

We’ve not had the early to bed posters in yet. What will tomorrow bring?!

YABU.

You behaved like an adolescent and used a vile term to child who (horrible though he was being) needed better than that example.

You could have done the adult thing and told the shop manager there was an out of control child being allowed by his father to behave in a dangerous way in their shop.

A random guy gave me a “cheer up love” type comment the other dad and I responded with a particularly vicious “FUCK OFF!” - normally I might have just rolled my eyes so I’m not sure where it came from, it was very out of character

So I can sort of sympathise with having a response in the moment.

Though I do think there’s quite a difference between shouting “fuck off” at and adult and calling a child a “fat cunt”, however obnoxious.

The brat was in the car park not in the shop. He was out of control if you read the OP.

I see your point. I was trying to work out how to phrase it, things don’t always come across well in text, and my default setting is teacher mode.

If you called my kid a fat cunt, you wouldn’t have to worry about going to marks and Spencer’s again.

What would have you done to OP?

I despair at the amount of people believing that ‘people with some authority’ are actually going to do something that has an effect. I posted in another thread about some feral brats terrorising people in a block of flats. The police do nothing. The councillors do nothing.

the manager would have told the child to leave the shop. Then what? Torment people outside the shop? Go in another shop?