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Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 22:46

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

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Lavender14 · 12/06/2025 23:23

Allthegoodhorses · 12/06/2025 23:14

Jesus Christ.. this is the attitude that made the kid behave that way in the first place. Do you teach your kids that hands are not for hitting?

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I'm not sure what you're asking? I believe firmly in APPROPRIATE and consistent discipline, not being abusive to children which this was. Yes I teach my kids not to hit other people - do you not do that? I have also never called my kid or anyone else's a fat c*nt.

Motherofalittledragon · 12/06/2025 23:23

The kid was behaving like a feral brat, fair enough, seems well deserved.

FumingTRex · 12/06/2025 23:24

You were totally out of order. His Dad was clearly allowing him to ride a scooter in the shop, so were the staff, so how would he know its not acceptable? If it was causing a problem you should have complained to the staff.

BigCareBear · 12/06/2025 23:24

Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 22:46

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

I genuinely think people here are being a little too harsh on you for the example you've made here. If it was that you do something like this on the weekends and thrive off of insulting children (weekends only) I'd think twice to maybe changing your outlook. But considering they just ticked you off, it's not entirely ok but it's not the end of the world.

Isittimeformynapyet · 12/06/2025 23:24

wobblyewobbly · 12/06/2025 23:00

To put it shortly - it basically means going to that same shop wouldn't even cross someone’s mind again if I found out they’d called my child what this grown woman did.

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Nobody says "to put it shortly" - that's not a thing.

I think we're assuming you would either threaten or commit violence against anyone who called your feral child a fat cunt.

Oooh, aren't you hard!

Pinkelephant66 · 12/06/2025 23:24

Thegreatescape12345 · 12/06/2025 23:15

I'd probably have gone with "little shit" rather than what you said, but in the moment you can't always control what comes out of your mouth... you were provoked and lost your temper. It happens!
Hope you don't see him again any time soon!

Little shit… fat cunt... potato…patata

Anotherparkingthread · 12/06/2025 23:25

I love all the posts like 'nobody would call my kid that'. I'm rough as balls, I grew up on a council estate and I box. I call people all sorts nobody has ever said shit 😂

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 23:25

Pinkelephant66 · 12/06/2025 23:24

Little shit… fat cunt... potato…patata

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😁😁

MauriceTheMussel · 12/06/2025 23:26

Pinkelephant66 · 12/06/2025 22:51

Was he actually fat?

Love this!

Fluffyeye · 12/06/2025 23:28

Yabu to call him fat, no need for that. But it sounds like he was being a prize cu:t so fair enough there.

LynetteScavo · 12/06/2025 23:28

Think you were BU not to own it, and tell the dad you had said it, and exactly why.

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Agreed. Horrible way to behave

PurpleFlower1983 · 12/06/2025 23:31

Hopefully it will make him think twice about his actions in the future.

dmboot1 · 12/06/2025 23:31

The (utterly ghastly) kid antagonised you and you responded. He had obviously really upset you so you acted a little out of character. I totally get it and am not sure why you are being painted as the one in the wrong here. The issue isn't you, it's out of control kids and their useless parents

Mrswhirley · 12/06/2025 23:31

WetBandits · 12/06/2025 23:02

OP, are you actually Ricky Gervais?

😂🤣😂 this was the first thing that came to mind when I read this post!

OP, as PP said… not ideal but don’t lose sleep over it!

Dagnabit · 12/06/2025 23:31

MrTumbleweed · 12/06/2025 23:18

I think she doesn’t want to admit that she’d wrestle their Sparks card from them, and use up their ‘20p off a croissant next Tuesday’ coupon.

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🤣😂🤣

NormasArse · 12/06/2025 23:32

I once lost it and called a group of teens a ‘bunch of rude little scrotes’.

Not my finest hour either. I felt like I’d let myself down.

Two of them actually came back later and apologised though.

SapphOhNo · 12/06/2025 23:32

Well done OP. :)

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 12/06/2025 23:32

Herefortea2 · 12/06/2025 23:17

Thanks for everyone's responses. Some did make me laugh to be honest!

It's confirmed what I already knew by posting to get opinions, I was in the wrong and I shouldn't have done it. Two wrongs don't make a right and that's that! To clear up a couple of things, he wasn't actually fat! Also he was using all the insults known (a good 5 minutes worth none stop), he was going to kill me, lesbian (not an insult but heyho), quite scary, the same sort of language to his dad when he came over too. Obviously I 'started' it so it's besides the point but just to add a bit more context to it.

Appreciate the feedback, definitely food for thought re my behaviour and will absolutely take it on board. I need to do some good deeds.

Well I’m one of the people who told you you were in the wrong so I will now say well done for reflecting on your mistake. Now try not to dwell on this particular incident excessively and stress yourself out about it. You’re unlikely to ever see them again, and we’ve all done things we’re not proud of.

Shenmen · 12/06/2025 23:33

I think the fat bit for me is the issue. Don't care much about swearing. Not sure why. I think that tbh.

zanahoria · 12/06/2025 23:33

"Ok, am I the worst person ever??"

or maybe the best person ever

Startrekkeruniverse · 12/06/2025 23:33

KeenDog · 12/06/2025 22:56

This has made
my night, hilarious, the kid was a cunt so that’s justified but as per pp if he wasn’t actually fat you should have just called him a cunt and left it that.

🤣

Sunshinestate07 · 12/06/2025 23:35

wobblyewobbly · 12/06/2025 22:50

As annoying as this kid sounds, I can’t lie to you OP, If you called my kid a fat cunt, you wouldn’t have to worry about going to marks and Spencer’s again.

yeah, the kid was out of order and annoying but he didn’t swear at you or threaten until you called him a fat cunt no? And also if I was the kid, I’d be quite pissed off my dad didn’t believe a stranger would call me a fat cunt?? You know why the dad didn’t believe it? Because it’s so fucking outrageous.
You go to a staff member, who have security, who would’ve dealt with this.

also just to add. Yeah YABU, the moment you called a child a fat cunt.

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As annoying as this kid sounds, I can’t lie to you OP, If you called my kid a fat cunt, you wouldn’t have to worry about going to marks and Spencer’s again.

Rocky Balboa has entered the chat 😂🙄

Slatterndisgrace · 12/06/2025 23:35

NormasArse · 12/06/2025 23:32

I once lost it and called a group of teens a ‘bunch of rude little scrotes’.

Not my finest hour either. I felt like I’d let myself down.

Two of them actually came back later and apologised though.

They probably respected your boundaries though, to come and apologise.

I wonder if the child in the OP would think to apologise to you?

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