Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

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So, how should have made sure before she left the shop she wouldn’t have called the child a fat c*? How were you going to do
that?

What? I think you’re missing a pronoun or too there.

You didn't know the child and therefore assumed he was eleven. He clearly was overweight, otherwise you wouldn't have called him fat. Now to couple that with the 'c' word, this says a lot about your frame of mind.
I have a 9 yr old with ADHD and ASD, and he is overweight and very tall for his age. He looks like a burly 13 year old.
He plays up for me when in public sometimes, and I sometimes get odd looks from people assuming he's much older than he really is.

If you spoke to my child like that, I would lose it.
If he was annoying you, you should have smiled at him and asked him politely if he wouldn't mind not scaring you.
In his mind, he was prob playing a game and didn't realise he was coming across as intimidating.

You need to do better OP.

@Rainbows41 I disagree with what Op said but I doubt you can ascribe innocence to this boys actions. Interestingly he didn’t ask Op why she called him that or act surprised by the sounds of it, he was just angry. I think at that age he knew what he was doing speeding around close to people and making vomiting noises at Op. He doubled down on circling her, after she called him that as well as part of his retaliation. He’s clearly aware of the effect it had/has.

I think she should’ve spoken to the parent or a manager, but the truth is directly confronting an unruly child whether it’s politely or not can backfire easily and you could be found at fault as an adult approaching a child. So I doubt it would’ve been a good idea to address the child in any way.

Yes, you used words you wish you hadn’t. But this kids was being awful and had scared you. Sometimes what comes out of our mouths in these situations isn’t necessarily thought out or planned. We react and things jump our self censorship abilities and pop out. It’s ok.

Next time, just call him a little shit and help him alight from his scooter somehow OP. Although if it were around my way, I’d be extremely wary of the families that have the types of children that behave like that, as the police and the public is powerless to do anything about themit and they’re a law until themselves.

What, as in Cunt child? Child cunt?

How about Little cunt? Or maybe Cunt minor?

Fat little cunt child would sound awesome.

I wouldn't pay it much mind 😉 serves him right he may not of been fat but he was being a curly C 😂

You shouldn't have said that, the jab at his weight was nasty and immediately lost you the high ground but he was being a cunt and honestly I'd have been tempted to shove the little prick off his scooter too. Parents can't control their kids anymore.

No dear, you need to do better. OP has already said he wasn’t overweight and the reason she said it was because of his behaviour - she admitted it was wrong which is why she posted. You’re making excuses for children engaging in shit behaviour unchallenged and you are part of the reason that children are growing up with no sense of discipline because of ‘gentle parenting’ - and you are also part of the reason that there is so little tolerance for children with genuine ASD and ADHD, by making it an excuse for bad behaviour across the board.

Why ? Because people are advocating that the very poor behaviour of some children is being called out ?

Don’t worry about the word cunt, OP. Nowadays fat is the biggest insult you can throw at anyone. It’s like spritzing holy water on Lucifer 😆

Oh shush! You wouldn’t have done anything and you know it 😂 Maybe a bit of shouting; and that’s just noise. And if your kid was such a horrible little shit that he’s driven an adult to call him a cunt, then she’d probably have given you as good as she got for being such a bloody useless parent. In fact, perhaps the OP would have made sure that you didn’t let your kid ride round intimidating other shoppers in the future.

OP, no, you probably shouldn’t have called a child a fat cunt. But it’s done now. Perhaps the next time he’s inclined to bother someone, there’ll be something at the back of his mind reminding him that not all adults are going to take the high road when he is, in fact, behaving like that.

Well he was a fat xxxx! I'd have done the same. Disgusting behaviour from that kid.

Now this is what the laughing response was made for 👏

In my head this kid looks like Bruce Bogtrotter

Oh ffs 🤦🏻‍♀️

you wouldn’t, I dunno, stop your child from intimidating strangers? No? All energy just focussed on the strangers reaction?

parents like you are the problem.

You'd 'lose it'?

So you wouldn't just smile and politely ask the OP if she wouldn't mind not speaking to him like that?

Quite willing to demand other people show you and your child tolerance and respect under duress but not so willing to do so yourself then?

Pp's are right, you're exactly the problem in these scenarios.

That they think it’s appropriate to “call out” the behaviour of an 11 year old child by calling them a “fat cunt”- (aka verbal abuse/
emotional violence directed against a child).

She should have smiled and asked if he would mind not scaring her. 😂

This cannot be serious. “Umm, hello little boy. I like your scooter! I was wondering if, only if it’s not too much trouble and it won’t trigger you or upset you in any way, would you…umm…maybe consider that maybe I could maybe do my shopping without you riding so close? Totally fine if not, no pressure.”

For the record, if your child acted like the one in the OP, he’d deserve the same treatment she gave that boy. And I guarantee that as he ages further, if he “plays up” to anyone else in public, he’ll soon find out about what can happen when you do that.

You’d “lose it”? What does that mean? A stern talking to, or a scrap? We all know it’s the former, if anything at all.

This thread has had me creasing up 😂

Special shout out to @MauriceTheMussel who is hilarious😂

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Yep, this.

Completely agree.

And can someone please explain to me why this expression ‘use your words’ has replaced the perfectly reasonable ‘say’. It’s really, fucking annoying.