Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

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Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

Well yes, because if he wasn't overweight then OP would have been telling lies.

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So concise.

Don't be silly. Even children who haven't been taught to behave at home are learning what is acceptable and not acceptable at school, in public, in general daily life.

This child knew what he was doing and he knew it was unacceptable, else why would he be doing it? You can't tell me an 11-12 year old doesn't know that intimidating adults in a shop isn't the done thing.

Sometimes, on very rare occasions, an adult standing up to them is just what they need. On this occasion though, it made him even worse. Again, he obviously knew exactly what he was doing.

And then a lot of mumsnetters would be really angry.

I’m of an age where children used to ‘play out. When we were being too boisterous (although we didn’t intimidate anyone), we would be told off by the neighbours. We accepted it, our parents accepted it, our parents corrected other children etc. That sort of community oversight was a thing and children respected it.

No one was called a fat c**t and you went too far but addressing poor behaviour where it’s impacting you as it was in this case should happen more in my view. People don’t as they’re too scared of parents.

This sort of behaviour is a result of nobody ever telling this child their behaviour is fucking awful. If that was my child terrorising shoppers with his scooter, I’d have put it on the ground in the car park and reversed over it. Kids aren’t taught a lesson these days.

I’d not even give this situation another thought, op. The kid was indeed being a cunt.

Yes a child. Very definitely, with no room for doubt whatsoever, a child. Above the age of criminal responsibility maybe, but still a child. Why on earth would you say not a child?

right a minor or a child, or just a feral individual who needs help, a minor who was causing offense, and if they weren't the op would not have used the language.
They were in the wrong and would know that they were.
Even when you have a 4/5 year old playing too rough at the playground or a play date, people step in to stop this behaviour.
Use your rose coloured spectacles, but in this case it was a minor (who the press cant name due to the age) who knownlingy was out and about attempting to cause distress.
To me a child is a nice term, this 'child' does know better and was attempting to cause distress.

“Longtime poster. Naice ham, penis beaker, Sistine Chapel, Fat Cunt.”

Nope, still don't know what it is you're saying you'd do.

Oof, defo shouldn’t have said that but also YOU'RE MY HERO

It’s nothing to do with “rose coloured spectacles “, the fact is that the individual in question is a child. A badly behaved child certainly, but still a child. It is ridiculous to say he is not a child. That was my entire point.

I'm not disagreeing, per se, but if in cases like this you use 'nice' words like child, youngster etc.., it is painting a false narrative, a child wouldn't deliberately attempt to intimidate and cause distress to an adult. Yes I'm slightly playing devils advocate, but we see this constantly - yes, the two people who murdered that elderly gentleman, were children - now they are guilty of manslaughter.
Perhaps if we didn't use the kinder terms and used the correct language?
We all know of the little darlings who wouldn't harm a fly, but are in fact a complete nightmare.
If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck" is a colloquial way of identifying something based on its characteristics
The child in the OP case, was a yobbo, a young thug, a wrong un, a potential criminal in the making, a feral youngster which no idea how to act in the real world.

OP is getting a lot of support her and I do not think it is because people think she did the right thing, it is because she at least did something.

Most people would have ignored it, walked away and let the kid bother someone else, I probably would have done too, but frankly I think that is the worst thing someone can do.

OP stuck up for herself , not in an ideal way but who does think of exactly the right thing in the spur of the moment? She called it she saw it and told the kid a home truth.

This thread is deeply disturbing

Maybe all that energy would have been better spent bring up the child properly in the first place? Then no one would have to call it a fat cunt.

I’m sorry but this made me laugh. You just said what we would all have thought. The kids around me are little shits and eleven years old or not, you have to act in self defence to get anywhere. Was it ideal? No. You probably shouldn’t do it again. But it sounds like you just snapped in the moment and these things happen.

I guess it’s never occurred to me that “child” is a “nice” term, it’s just a word describing someone younger than an adult to me.

completely agree, which is why we need to call these appalling individuals out, they are giving 'child' and 'children' a bad name! I'd say that 99% of children are relatively well behaved who would never even consider acting in this manner.
Therefore call them feral youths, or mindless thugs in the making or something similar, I can almost guarantee that this youth in the OP will be seeing the youth courts is the not too distant future.

Call them children, because that’s what they are.

we will have to agree to disagree, I just think that when children like this are put on the stand, for crimes and general anti social behaviour, calling them a child, paints a wrong picture. Yes they are by age a child, but by law, they are a suspect, a potential criminal who is being judged not by their peers but by adults without any criminal history.

Call them “juveniles” - correct black letter definition with an association of delinquent. Happy?

This. If my child behaved like scooter-boy I would be absolutely mortified and an insult for a member of the public would be the least of my concerns. But it's unlikely to happen because my 11 year old would not be whizzing around on an electric scooter trying to intimidate members of the public.

The saving grace is the dad didn't take the boy's side so there is a possibility that at least one parent isn't a cunt and he might be disciplined.

Would it cross their mind to go to the shops next to it though?

What are you on about?