Called Unsociable 10 year old a fat c*nt

[Herefortea2]

Ok, am I the worst person ever??
Last week I was at marks and spencers and there was this boy there, about 11 who was riding around on a electric scooter, whizzing past people and behaving in a passive aggressive way. When I past him he loudly made throwing up noises several times right in front of me, to scare/shock me and I said oh are you ok, maybe you need a doctor (because I don't like to be initimdated by youths). Anyway I do the shop and keep thinking about him, I was in a bad mood already and he really annoyed me, I'm fed up of little shits thinking they can terrorise people.
Anyway I saw him again on the way out and again he was whizzing past scaring people. He came past me again and then I said it.....I said 'fat cnt'!!! Now I actually do not use that word, I don't like it, I don't like it when it's used around me either but I was so pissed off that that's what I said!!!! Anyway he circled round and was like what did you say....I ignored him and he started insulting me and following me as I walked to my car, saying is this your car you fucking bitch, cnt, etc etc. I walked away saying I'm calling the police! Then this guy comes over who's his dad! He apologies and says he's trying to get him home (the kid had been in the car park for half an hour at least, maybe longer), the kid tells the dad what I called him and the dad says 'no she didn't' then the kid goes off at the dad for taking a strangers side. The dad is completely useless as the kid is still circling me where I actually have to push him away from me! Eventually he leaves after a lot of verbal abuse, from the kid. Now I'm thinking I shouldn't have done it and feeling guilty and also worried that I can't go back to M&S because he might be there and start abusing me and I have 2 young children. Thoughts? I am going to hell?

But then she would be convicted off assault, go to prison and wouldn't be able to police Marks for women who don't put up with antisocial behaviour.

She's not thought that one through.

I would bet a month's pay that the child was overweight.
You wouldn't have said that if he wasn't. You might call him an ugly cunt or the likes but not a fat cunt. Tut tut.

I honestly wouldn't worry about it, you were in a stressful situation with a little shit and it just came out. I think if a man had said it to him he wouldn't have kicked off so much and I don't think it would have been so big a deal. I do think YABU for posting it on here though, making a mistake, posting on here and then getting torn apart by wolves won't make you feel any better about it.

Eeeeh I love this thread. I did vote YABU purely because it’s not cricket to go around calling kids fat c*s, however I have a feeling we would get on very well as friends.

Don’t beat yourself up, you had a weak moment and your wobble gob ran away with you. It’s not the end of the world and it might make the little c* think in future (doubt it, but you never know).

The posters facebook will also have a loveheart with her kids names, Jayden, Kayden and Blayden as the profile photo, stating " my life, all I need, everyone else is just snakes'

Was he fat?
His father knows that he behaves like a cunt and has form for annoying people in dangerous ways. Therefore the Dad believed you over his ever naughty son.
You should have called him an Annoying Brat and called shop security upon first noticing him.
You did wrong but maybe you did his Dad a favour.
The poor fellow. What an horrific child to have to wrestle with each day.

Good on you, better he hears it now, and that's how he was acting.

I was thinking this too - this boy clearly picked a women to try to intimidate, I doubt he would have tried the same with a muscly 6'4 male.
At 11 he knew what choices he was making, it's not like he bumped into her accidentally, he made a choice to try to intentionally intimidate her and then moaned when she reacted.

Just snort-laughed so hard baby fell off my boob 😂

Love this thread too, with phrases like 'gumption' and 'it's just not cricket.
I also feel I would get on with OP, I would (in my what my husband calls my posh home counties voice) absolutely call a little sht out for being a little sht, and would probably feel bad afterwards.

Weeping with laughter here. This thread is so bad for my peaceful breastfeeding session 😂😂😂

Where was the store security, his useless father will pay the price for gentle parenting. He should have took him home by the ear an hour earlier.

It does matter a little bit. If he was actually overweight it would be a lot more hurtful than if he clearly wasn't.

Op, not your finest moment but like someone else said don't lose too much sleep over it. We all lose our temper at times and sometimes I do think it's good for kids to see that adults too can snap sometimes if you push their boundaries too much. (In this case I don't think he would have learnt any valuable lesson though except maybe that it's ok to call people fat cunts.)

I feel sorry for rhe dad as well. He obviously seems to be struggling with his son's behaviour and it's quite telling that he believed that his son was quite likely to make up someone calling him a fat cunt.

Of course YABU

yea he was an annoying little shite but calling him a fat cunt has lowered you all the way down to his level. You don’t go around calling children fat cunts even if they are absolute gob shites.

Can’t trust no one these days. Just me and my little family from now on. Xxxxxx 👬💖

Followed by 18 comments from people with “too true hun!”, “you have a lovely family, your a great mummy to them boys.”

Why have the taken the laughing response away! I can’t figure out how to do emojis either. But yes, it does come out in the wrong situations at times. I never mean to patronise anyone, I’m always so focused on phrasing things diplomatically because if I get it wrong I’ll have parents complaining. I do recognise that I addressed the OP like a child, which is embarrassing in hindsight. I just need to make it to the end of term and hopefully I’ll return to normal human state.

I know someone who posts stuff like this EVERYDAY. Now it’s constant posts about mothers of autistic kids. She then kicks off every day in the school yard “I’m not happy about this, I give everything to my kids”

Except your vape money love

Don’t dwell on it oP.

Your behaviour was at least spur of the moment frustration - unlike many of the pp revelling in cold blood.

But yes, next time ask him politely to stop. It’s amazing how many children actually respond positively to courtesy. And if not, get the store security involved. They are trained to handle these things.

If what the OP says about the childs’ behaviour in the shop, and the escalation in both language and behaviour as he followed her to her car is true, then l think the ‘labelling’ is probably justified. It’s posts like these that go some way to explaining why kids are so badly behaved these days. The OP was out of order to say what she did, but the kid didn’t seem in the least bit traumatised and the father was clearly having trouble controlling him. But yeah, let’s jump straight to empathy in case he has ‘trauma’ instead of actual discipline and showing him who the adult is.

The Hard as Mutha (who exerts her prowess on mumsnet btw). She’d have a wurd with the other crims they’d sort this out,in her HMP absence. Good & proper too.
Because she’d do anything for her kids

Sorry, that's made me laugh much more than it should've done

He’d know who the adult was if approached by the store security.

In any case, name calling and not owning up isn’t showing him who the adult is: it’s showing him the other child.

Because no cunt will call her cunt a fat cunt.

You should have approached a member of staff and explained the situation, who in turn would have called security over to have words with the child. The child shouldn't have been riding a scooter in M&S, and the Dad should have been parenting his child. However, none of that excuses your own behaviour, which was worse than the child's. Yes, he was being annoying, but he wasn't verbally abusing you or threatening you in any way. You, verbally abused a child though, and used dreadful language towards him. Being the adult you should have known better, and restrained yourself.

Yea. Faaam and all that. Gave them kids everything , well ,just not, the vape money or the cheeky takeaway money. But you gets my point