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Would this piss you off? DP comment on day out

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JadeJ91 · 12/06/2025 07:30

Day out yesterday, historical seaside town with various lovely view points. DP a bit grumpy all day and not paying a lot of interest to anything. Anyway, at one particular location I asked him what he thought of the view and he said ‘not great really….hang on, it’s just got a lot better now’ just as an attractive woman walked past, and he joked about her bum being the highlight of his day so far.

A bit disrespectful, surely? I told him to shut up and he said I should lighten up and ‘have a laugh’

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Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 16:16

Clockface9 · 13/06/2025 16:11

Just as long as you aren’t feverishly banging out posts on the sex forum

Never have, never will, but you must quantify‘ ‘feverishly banging out’ for clarity….

Tiredandtiredagain · 13/06/2025 16:25

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 15:29

What do you mean?

I forgot what we were talking about!

Oh I remember, the bored guy on a day out who saw an attractive woman who brightened his day.

And here we are, ten pages later……

And here you are @Tristan5 unable to move on…

Tiredandtiredagain · 13/06/2025 16:25

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 16:16

Never have, never will, but you must quantify‘ ‘feverishly banging out’ for clarity….

Back again …

Clockface9 · 13/06/2025 16:29

Tiredandtiredagain · 13/06/2025 16:25

Back again …

So far today he’s had a coffee In the garden
a Diet Coke with friends in the garden
and now going to mow

the entire time watching this thread and kicking himself for not being cleverer when he posted about the incredible sex life he has but neglected re to name change when he then complains how it is non existent

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 13/06/2025 16:31

Maybe he should get a hobby.

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 17:02

what could be more fun than this?

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 13/06/2025 17:03

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 17:02

what could be more fun than this?

Chlamydia

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 17:04

What could be more entertaining than this?

Clockface9 · 13/06/2025 17:31

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 17:04

What could be more entertaining than this?

Your wife seeing the posts you have made in the sex forum about your incredible sex life.

And then posting her bafflement and then laughter about fact in RL you constantly berate her for being “dead below the waist”…. That would be entertainment!

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 17:50

Clockface9 · 13/06/2025 17:31

Your wife seeing the posts you have made in the sex forum about your incredible sex life.

And then posting her bafflement and then laughter about fact in RL you constantly berate her for being “dead below the waist”…. That would be entertainment!

The seagulls follow the fishing boat because they think they’re going to get the fish.

Eric Cantona

TheAutumnCrow · 13/06/2025 18:13

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 17:50

The seagulls follow the fishing boat because they think they’re going to get the fish.

Eric Cantona

Sardines

Clockface9 · 13/06/2025 18:14

i love fact that you will never ever post about your sex life (either the lie - that it’s amazing or the truth, that it’s a desert) on mumsnet under this name again

and if you user name change… will be so easy to know precisely who it is 😆

I mean you haven’t once today, which is a record for you!

Ilikeadrink14 · 13/06/2025 19:07

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 13:12

What a refreshing comment, my imaginary wife is just the same!

Oh, bless!

Ilikeadrink14 · 13/06/2025 19:08

Dryshampoofordays · 12/06/2025 08:04

I might feel pissed off on the surface but underneath that feeling I’d probably feel hurt, humiliated, judged, disrespected, worried about what his views of on me and women in general, disgusted and put off by his immaturity. Even deeper than that if part of me was trying to push away my feelings of minimise his behaviour I’d have to reflect on what that means for my self esteem and self worth. Then I’d decide what I could do to improve those things going forward (e.g. dump him and enjoy your lovely days out without that dickhead bringing you down)

Good grief!!

Ilikeadrink14 · 13/06/2025 19:11

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And just who is contributing to all this nonsense??

Ilikeadrink14 · 13/06/2025 19:15

Ilikeadrink14 · 12/06/2025 08:51

What a fuss over a stupid immature comment. I think posters on here get some sort of pleasure from being judgemental. There are far worse things to worry about and to suggest that the poster dumps her partner on the strength of this is ludicrous. It was a silly and immature comment and should be treated as such.
There are lots of hysterical women on here just waiting for something to bitch about. The sort who loved to sit by the guillotine and watch the hangings! These women should get a life!

I meant head rolls of course. Got carried away!

WiddlinDiddlin · 13/06/2025 19:35

I find when they get to being arseholes when out with you and idle fuckers when at home... it's because what you're asking them to do is taking time away from what THEY want to do...

Often (but not limited to):
Gaming
Chasing someone else.

The less they invest in real life with you, because they're investing in some fantasy life, whether thats absorbed in gaming or in chasing some other potential partner... the more grating and annoying perfectly normal aspects of real life become, and the less appealing enjoyable events are...

So then they're even more of an arsehole... and round and round it goes.

Get him to belt up or piss off.

Ilikeadrink14 · 13/06/2025 19:37

DeSoleil · 12/06/2025 14:54

Well he could have appreciated the sight of an attractive woman and kept his private thoughts to himself but the fact he told you shows he has little respect for you and probably thinks in his mind that you’ve let yourself go and should be doing more to look like the attractive woman.

Not very nice of him and certainly not a laugh.

What rubbish! My husband felt secure in the knowledge that he made me feel loved and wanted, and therefore was comfortable about commenting about other women. I might ask what he thought about how a woman looked if I saw one. He would answer openly and honestly. I never felt jealous at all because his actions showed how he felt about me. I never felt that he would be likely to cheat on me. When you marry, or have a real relationship, it doesn’t shut your eyes to attractive people. You can’t just switch off, but you choose where your priorities lie. Mine were always with my husband.
I should also say that he complimented me if I had new clothes, or a new hairdo. Often he would tell me I looked lovely even if neither of those applied.
I realised that:
a) he married me because he loved me
b) he thought I was beautiful
c) if he had the urge to stray, nothing I did would bring him back
d) I trusted him
There’s a saying that’s something like - if you put a partner on a short lead, they will fight against it. If you give them leeway, they will stay.
i don’t know if that’s true but we were happily together for 57 years.
And he knew I fancied the pants off Johnny Mathis (yes, I know he’s gay) and Sidney Poitier, but that was fine by him. 😀

Lassango · 13/06/2025 19:52

I would be more put out by the all day grump rather than the comment.

WhereHasMyPlanetGone · 13/06/2025 20:01

Lassango · 13/06/2025 19:52

I would be more put out by the all day grump rather than the comment.

Sulking is so unattractive

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 21:54

The gift that keeps on giving, thanks to all of you!

Just back from Friday night curry with my imaginary wife, to be met with multiple notifications and abusive PMs, thanks - very classy.

My imaginary wife is just pouring me a single malt, we’ll now chill for the evening and be happy.

I wish all of you the happiness that we have together.

Xx

Tiredandtiredagain · 13/06/2025 23:44

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 21:54

The gift that keeps on giving, thanks to all of you!

Just back from Friday night curry with my imaginary wife, to be met with multiple notifications and abusive PMs, thanks - very classy.

My imaginary wife is just pouring me a single malt, we’ll now chill for the evening and be happy.

I wish all of you the happiness that we have together.

Xx

I’d hazard a guess the abusive PMs are party of you imaginary world as well.

See you in about 3 hours, when you have to get the last word in again.

Love the stereotypical “my wife is pouting me a single malt”. She’s a good woman.

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 23:53

It’s raining heavily here now…..

Clockface9 · 14/06/2025 06:20

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 23:53

It’s raining heavily here now…..

Still no post on the sex forum @Tristan5
hooray!! 🥳

Clockface9 · 14/06/2025 06:21

Tristan5 · 13/06/2025 21:54

The gift that keeps on giving, thanks to all of you!

Just back from Friday night curry with my imaginary wife, to be met with multiple notifications and abusive PMs, thanks - very classy.

My imaginary wife is just pouring me a single malt, we’ll now chill for the evening and be happy.

I wish all of you the happiness that we have together.

Xx

If your wife is reading… you ate aware @Tristan5 posted this?

Would this piss you off? DP comment on day out