Open door for someone on crutches.

[WasherWoman25]

If you were sat in a waiting room (doctors surgery if relevant) and saw someone on crutches trying to get through a door, assuming no disability / injury yourself, would you stand up and open / hold the door for them?

If not, why not?

YABU - No I wouldn’t
YANBU - Yes, of course I would.

I’m on crutches at the middle, badly sprained ankle and knee. I went to the doctors today and had to go in the upstairs waiting room, which has a closed glass door. I through the door (in and out) four times in then end (went the wrong way once called to the nurses room). Each time there was a different person sat in the chair nearest the door, not one offered to help me, all just watched me try and keep the door open with one crutch and try and move. Now I don’t know that any of them didn’t have their own ailments going on, but all stood and walked independently when their name was called so unlikely they all did. If it was me, I’d have grabbed the door for anyone struggling coming through (wheelchair, pushchair, crutches etc).

and yet not one person has indicated that they do that.

So, everyone can thank you and the others on here: i will stop helping anyone. Even if they ask.

Happy now?

Sone people feel that the moment you offer help you are patronising them

id call it treating them like a human being

I echo this 👍

I don't tell people to f-off and I appreciate that people ask with the best of intentions. However, I am just making the point that it can actually be quite demoralising when people assume that you can't do something because your disabled. I also (like anyone else) don't particularly want people assessing me and deciding what I can and can't do. It feels quite judgmental and intrusive. There are also people that ask if I want help but then just help anyway when I say no.

yes. we got your point about 15 posts ago thanks.

Don't worry, I am sure we have all absorbed your message and the world will be an incrementally worse place for it.

Slow. Handclap.

I have a double buggy and 9 times out of 10 people watch me struggle with doors by myself rather than helping. I think it's the way of the world. Because I know how hard it is though I always offer help in these types of situations x

I can't imagine anyone doing that tbh - not saying it doesn't happen as it obviously does if that's your experience. Getting people to open the door is as good as it gets in my life.

I completely understand OP that you would expect people to help with the door.

But also remember that some of these people were waiting to be seen by a doctor and therefore are likely not be in good health themselves and potentially not physically up to helping others.

It think it is up on the practice to have automatic doors that disabled people can operate themselves as well to make the site fully accessible.

I was raised by parents who taught me always to hold doors open. To let your elders go ahead of you. Give up your seat on the bus and train for elders, pregnant, infirm people. I taught my three children the same lessons. I've become the disabled elder and generally find people very kind.

But I do live in a Welsh backwater not a busy city which might explain it

So are you ok with disabled people doing it for you or are you just being so bloody minded you can't see that people are being considerate?

People are damned regardless of what they do.

They may not have seen the crutches? Or were so unwell themselves they couldn't focus on anything but their own predicament? It was a medical setting after all. So nobody was well presumably.

If I personally noticed someone struggling with a door and had crutches I would probably open it.

But that's very much dependent on how mobile or well I was, and how near to the door. And how long I'd been sitting there trying not to have a panic attack.

Tbf, the OP did acknowledge that the other patients had ailments going on.

Waste of time Brefugee. One thread has already been deleted.

I bet some people see crutches as meaning you’ve only broken something so just suck it up. I once read on here that people with a broken leg etc shouldn’t use the priority seats on buses because their disability is only temporary. 🤦🏼‍♀️

YABU for not asking for help.

They should have offered but I think this British reticence to ask for help just holds us back. In other countries they would have asked for help.