Abusive ex husband begging to come back back saying he doesn’t remember the past

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me again 🙂 long story short I left abusive husband after 17 years he is a Muslim man I am a white woman I say this because I reverted to Islam for him in the end I was forced to cover up,prayer etc so were my children,he was physically,emotionally and financially abusive to us,at the time he was taking a lot of illicit tablets and he ended up trying to take his life he also ended up with psychosis he became quiet and withdrawn the abuse stopped he changed completely I ended up looking after him for around 3 years but in the end I couldn’t take it anymore,he has turned into a slob hardly acknowledging us,doesn’t wash ,no motivation I hate him,I took my children left the city and now we are in temporary accommodation all happy,my ex husband does not leave me alone constantly phoning texting etc,he said he will change,he will do anything I want,my children don’t want him back, he has never begged me before like this,he said he doesn’t remember the stuff he has done and he’s sorry he is begging for one more chance,I don’t love him at all but I feel sorry for him I don’t know what to do

Thankyou

Yes he is he keeps saying he wants to see them but he wants me to bring them,I know deep down he’s not interested in yhem

Maybe because he is mentally ill

Contact centre or nothing. He will reel you in otherwise. Amd his reaction to that suggestion would tell you everything you need to know.

But I'd just ignore him.

This guy is not special. He’s like every abusive man, who forgets, or was ill, or tired, or is lazy.

What you’re facing is a man who says “forget yourself and the children. I’m more important”.

Like every other abusive man they do it because it gets them what they want.

You get on without him and do better. You don’t need or want to carry this parasite anymore

I am sure you have given him hundreds of chances over years already and every time you gave him another chance he threw it back in your face.

He has used up all his chances.

Change your phone number and take the advice of the support services you have for keeping you and your children safe. Remember your children can now be at home or come home from school feeling safe and loved - don't ever give that up.

He may have mental health problems but only he can manage them not you.

do not go back. He will not change. You are safer away from him.

So stop sacrificing your children's happiness and security for the sake of a man you cannot fix. He's not mentally ill, he's an abusive drug using fucker and you should be prioritising your children's safety and security, not trying to reel them back into an abusive relationship

You’d be a fool to go back to him. Be strong for yourself and your children, make a fulfilling life without him.

Perhaps this is the jolt that he needs to address his mh issues, if indeed he has them, OP. You cannot fix another adult who will not help themselves. If he comes to realise what he has lost, he may get help for his problems, but that is down to him. You cannot fix him. Stay away for your own sake and your DCs sake.