To ask if you have met somebody long term from OD?

[JustNoseyy]

Just that really, how did you know it would work, how did the conversation start? How soon did you meet them? I have been on a few dates but nobody I am massively in to. Maybe I am just not ready yet (been single a year after a 17 year relationship). All the conversations just seem to fizzle out.

Yes. Met my husband eight years ago. We also now have two kids together. Chatted about general stuff for a week or so, then started going on dates.

That’s so lovely! So happy for you. All the guys that I speak to seem to just want to know if I am ‘naughty’ 🙄 even though they say they are after a long term relationship.

Met dh 21 years ago. I was just out of a 17 year marriage (no kids).
We clicked straight away and were married within a year, dc 1 was born 10 months after our wedding.

We chatted online, moved to long phone calls for a few days and met up within 2 weeks.
When you know, you know!

Eugh gross. I hope you find someone nice soon!

Met my partner OD and we’ve been together 10 years. We met pretty quickly after chatting online for maybe a week?

Do you think so? I haven’t actually spoke to or looked at somebody’s picture and thought yes I really really like him. Maybe I am not quite ready

Met my dh 14 years ago. We chatted on the phone once then met for dinner and that was it boom in love 🥰

Yes my husband! We met in the daytime for coffee or lunch and just chatted loads.

I think from what I’ve heard OD has got worse since the pandemic. All the people I know who got married from tinder/hinge matches etc met them pre -2020. It still does happen for some though. Just be glad these men are showing you who they are and what they see in you - sex - from the outset. block and move on.

I dated a man who claimed he was looking for a long term relationship but yet after 3 months wasn’t sure if he wanted to be my boyfriend but was sure he did want sex with me and was upset when I said I wasn’t having sex with a non- boyfriend. Those are the men who annoy me more because they conceal their true intentions for as long as they can.

We met on POF and chatted for about a week or two before we met. I wouldn't go too much off the conversation online. When we met he was much funnier and warmer in person. Some people are crap texters!
I knew straight away that we were gonna go far. That was 6 years ago and we're engaged with a two year old and bought a house in September. It absolutely can still happen!

What was it you were attracted to initially? Looks?. I haven’t had any of those feelings yet which is making me lose hope!

I met my partner on Tinder.
Fancied him as soon as I saw his photos
Matched and we clicked instantly
First date a few weeks later was amazing and we still feels brand new and exciting years later.

@JustNoseyy looks initially yes. He had very kind eyes and a lovely smile. I went on many many dates to give everyone a chance cause you just never know!

Yes, the first ever person I met OLD. I had spoken to some other people but he was the first person I actually met. It was such a long time ago that I can’t remember how the conversation started. We met about a week later.

That was 18 years ago. Been together ever since. Married 10 years with a child. Very happy!

Met DP online 10 years ago. I chatted to a few other blokes but DP was the only one I met up with. I wasn’t even looking for a relationship, I just downloaded an app with a friend to see what all the fuss was about! We’ve had our ups and downs but I can’t imagine being with anyone else.

I met my husband 16 years ago. I asked him if he’d heard about the magic tractor — it was driving down the road and turned into a field.

My terrible joke must’ve worked. We’ve been married 12 years, two kids and a mortgage!

I met my partner 5 years ago and we’ve been living together for a year.

I was a year out of a 20 year relationship. I found OLD as a bit of a numbers game tbh. Lots of ‘naughty’ messages, ghosting after a seemingly getting on well, plenty of dates etc.

the biggest thing I learned was that nothing is real until you meet face to face. I had some brilliant conversations but when meeting face to face there was nothing there.

it can be a bit soul destroying at times and I took breaks from it occasionally.

Keep at it and don’t settle for anything less than you deserve. It’s all about the filtering process!

Good luck!

Met dp 12 years ago on Match, I have heard OLD is more difficult now but don't know how true that is.

What @coffeealwayscoffee said, nails it!

Interesting how most if not all the comments are from people who clearly met their partner pre-2020. This kind of backs up my earlier comment upthread
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I didn't read his profile and think wow...........but when we started chatting we had a lot in common and conversation was easy. We were late 30s and both wanted marriage and children. Met in January, married in August!!!

Met my boyfriend 2 years ago OLD. So not longterm like some of the others here, but just to say that on OLD now you can still find some good ones looking for a proper relationship.

You do have to be ruthless though. I filtered out so many based compromises I wasn’t prepared to make or assumptions.

I was OLD for 2 weeks.

Yes, EHarmony. Met 13 years ago, married 2 kids

My DNiece (late 20’s) is about to marry a man she met on Bumble. She also met her previous BF online

We met online in 1998 and have just celebrated our silver wedding. That was back on the days when it was frowned on! We swapped emails for ages, then spoke on the phone for a couple of weeks before we met. Everything moved very fast after that, we had a holiday then he moved in. We knew very quickly this was it - and we were both over 40.