To ask if you have met somebody long term from OD?

[JustNoseyy]

Just that really, how did you know it would work, how did the conversation start? How soon did you meet them? I have been on a few dates but nobody I am massively in to. Maybe I am just not ready yet (been single a year after a 17 year relationship). All the conversations just seem to fizzle out.

I met my husband on POF 11 years ago! We moved quickly from messaging to WhatsApp and then moving to dates. We literally moved in together after about 12 weeks so don't take my advice haha - but once you know, you absolutely 100% know. I still love him so so much! X

Absolutely not and no decent genuine man would expect it

The first date .always in a very public place -bar/pub/ cafe etc

@JudithOnHolidayAgain I totally agree with the 'when you know, you know'.

I was just out of a 20+ year relationship/marriage and thought I'd just gently dip my toe into OLD just to test the waters and see if I was ready to start all over again.

Matched with my now partner, about half hour after I'd signed up. Sent about 4 messages back and forth and he suggested meeting. I know it was madness to agree to it, but something in my gut just told me to go for it.

We met that evening and both instantly knew it was meant to be.

I actually cringe saying all that as I was always adamant that I had a heart of stone and didn't believe in soul mates. Romance made my skin crawl lol, but meeting him changed my perspective on everything.

It’s definitely got worse in the last 5 years. I had a 3-year relationship with someone I met on Bumble, but that was in 2017.
Everyone nowadays is just after a situationship or a friend with benefits - very few men looking for an actual meaningful connection or long term partner.

He sends me pictures of him at work etc. he asked to come to my house but absolutely no way would I allow that.

He was really pushing it so I blocked him. He said he would get a hotel near me, meet me in the car park and then go inside if all is ok? He kept reassuring me that he is a nice guy etc which I found odd.

Met my DH on Tinder 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

It wasn’t your typical Tinder match though. We didn’t actually meet in person for quite a while after matching, which I think helped. Our work schedules initially clashed so couldn’t organise a date. Then he had a serious illness in the family and had to return to his home country. We were texting and FaceTiming the whole time he was there. Family member seemed to be on a upturn, so he came back and we had our first date which was amazing because we’d talked so much in the preceding weeks that we felt like we already knew each other, and meeting in person just cemented all the opinions on each other we’d already formed from all the chatting.

I wasn’t single until 2020 but friends who did OLD before lockdown said it was so much better. Seems post Covid too many people use it because they’re bored and fancy a shag rather than looking for a proper relationship.

Probably in a relationship and doesn't want to be seen out

Yes. I met my husband 21 years ago. We messaged for around a week, had a long phone call and then met up a few days later.

I met people for coffee in the middle of the day to decide if I’d go on a date with them. The coffee wasn’t a date, and it allowed me to manage expectations and replicated meeting someone out in a bar - and what I mean by that is if I met someone for the first time irl, that would just be the first time I met them, not a date. I stayed for an hour and left to go back to work. Someone would always know where I was. The only person I decided to go on a date with was my husband and we’ve been together for 13 years.

Yep, been married over 15 years and met online.

Met dh 4 months after left exH.together 12 years Married 9 with 11 yr old ds

Tho guessing many people can’t do daytime as of work

I’m thinking of thinking 😂 of dipping toes in

hear so many stories that all they want is a quick shag and so many about I wouldn’t even know where to look when I’m reading

much harder to date /find someone once in 50’s

Yes, I met my husband 14 years ago and been married eight. We instantly clicked and are a bit inseparable . He had been looking for ages, nothing working out and I’d been on there a month so very do different experiences but glad we found each other that way

This!

Met my DH on tinder in 2016, we are married with two children now. My DSis also met her now DH on tinder too! Although I’ve heard tinder isn’t what is used to be anymore