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Shoplifting - have public scuffles with other customers become a thing??

202 replies

FurCoatNoKnickz · 07/06/2025 23:43

Twice in the last week, I’ve witnessed members of the public stepping in to stop shoplifting, with pushes and scuffles breaking out. I had to call the police. It felt like shoppers are starting to get fed up, butt in, shout things, physically prevent people, push shoplifters and even scuffle.

Are other people noticing this elsewhere?

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MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 15:15

Grimtastic · 08/06/2025 14:56

Shops will close and then people will moan there are no shops nearby but at some point Tesco or Morrison will decide it’s too expensive to trade and only ‘nice’ areas will have access to shops.

Is this the case in other countries already? Or do all countries and areas in those countries have self checkouts and shops with goods on display?

I think that Crime is getting out of hand in the UK. If small crimes go unpunished do people escalate, maybe to continue getting a thrill or because they know they will get away with it? So shoplifting initially becomes mugging and then burglary?

Get caught with a knife - give them 5 years in prison. Rape and sexual assault is virtually decriminalised as so few get prosecuted. Sexual abuse images - well that’s a slap on the wrist. Rape gangs are covered up by police and councils and MPs. If there is not enough prison spaces that needs addressing. Population growth means we need more prison spaces. And people with dual nationality (or on a visa) who commit any crime should be deported. (If I stole an item in a Spanish supermarket I’d expect to be arrested and to never be allowed to return to Spain or put in a Spanish prison). We can’t deport those with only British citizenship but hopefully that would free up spaces in prison for British people committing crime.

Maybe people are getting fed up. Shoplifting is not a victimless crime as we all have to pay higher prices. I don’t think stores brought it on themselves, I don’t agree with self checkouts due to job losses, however I like living in a society where I could trust most of the people around me. Now I see too many thieves and people who have low morals and no values.

Avoiding paying on the tube- where is the sense of fairness? Why should anyone pay if 1 in 20 fare dodge and get away with it. If it’s free, make it free for all.

We used to be a high trust society. We relied on other British citizens doing the right thing and abiding by the rules that our society and culture valued. Not everyone of course, but most. And that made it a nice place to live.

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All right Nigel, we get it.

MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 15:15

MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 15:15

All right Nigel, we get it.

Or do I mean Honest Bob Jenrick? 🤔

Nifty50something · 08/06/2025 15:16

When I visited California some of the shops in the more deprived areas had a lot of their stuff locked away behind glass counters. This was in places like Target, Walmart, etc. You had to ring a buzzer and a staff.member would supposedly come along and unlock it for you so you could get the item you wanted. We ended up just walking out without buying things we needed because we'd wait ten minutes for a staff member and then just give up. I presume things will go the same way in this country before long.

Here's an article about it at Target www.businessinsider.com/target-says-shoppers-happy-items-locked-up-dismisses-complaints-2023-11

GingerPaste · 08/06/2025 15:17

Kinkyroots · 08/06/2025 00:29

The police do not decide the punishment

But they don’t even turn up to arrest anyone a lot of the time!

FigTreeInEurope · 08/06/2025 15:17

OonaStubbs · 08/06/2025 01:39

Take the metaphorical shackles off the police and allow them to fight crime by any means necessary. Abolish all "human rights" for convicted criminals.

Calm down! Aunt Sally wants a police state, hope no one rounds up Worzel as an un-documented field worker, and ships him off to the re-education camp.

taxguru · 08/06/2025 15:21

I think we'll see a continuation of the trend for online ordering/reservation and home deliveries of groceries, household items, clothes, takeaways, etc., and we'll end up with no shops as such, they'll become warehouses for home delivery distribution or more "click and collect" where you wait in the car park collection points or there'll be "front desk counters" to collect your pre-ordered stuff.

Daffodilsarefading · 08/06/2025 15:28

Well there are already Amazon shops whereby you enter your Amazon account details into the entrance before you are allowed in. Cameras track your ever move and anything removed from the shelf is debited to your account. Of course this is prey to on line fraud but I bet they suffer far fewer losses. I imagine they will also introduce either finger print recognition or eye recognition in the too distant future too.

Donttellempike · 08/06/2025 15:31

OonaStubbs · 08/06/2025 00:28

We should go back to traditional shops with the stock behind the counter like in "Open All Hours". There are too many people that can't be trusted with self-service supermarkets anymore.

Trusted? Not the way I see it

I have a job, and that job is not packing shopping for greedy supermarkets.

They should staff shops properly

GreyLion · 08/06/2025 15:32

I work in retail. About 3 months ago, we had a well known shoplifter steal from us, and 3 other branches of the company I work for and other stores, over about 4 weeks before the police arrested him, probably took around £3,000 in goods possibly more in that time. All he got was a £150 fine. Not his first fine. No doubt he will be at it again soon. Other shoplifters have had banning notices but some just ignore them and they carry on.

theresapossuminthekitchen · 08/06/2025 15:32

bluesinthenight · 08/06/2025 12:06

If they switched to doing something like this they could then expand their cafes and make money from sales of snacks and drinks that we could order while we wait for our shopping to be packed up.

It’s not a totally terrible idea actually - automate a lot of the packing to a more efficient warehouse area and it could be quite convenient. Not great for employment, I expect… though this is going to happen in lots of areas anyway.

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 08/06/2025 15:49

I don’t want security guards on the door of Greggs

Gregg's have already started moving the products behind the counter in some areas where shoplifting was rife, so you have to ask the assistant for them, who will presumably only hand the goods over once you've paid for them.

I just hope this doesn't put staff at risk, if violent, determined thieves threaten them or worse.

taxguru · 08/06/2025 15:51

Donttellempike · 08/06/2025 15:31

Trusted? Not the way I see it

I have a job, and that job is not packing shopping for greedy supermarkets.

They should staff shops properly

It's what we used to have, but shoppers didn't want to pay for it, so started using cheaper supermarkets instead!

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 08/06/2025 15:54

Daffodilsarefading · 08/06/2025 15:28

Well there are already Amazon shops whereby you enter your Amazon account details into the entrance before you are allowed in. Cameras track your ever move and anything removed from the shelf is debited to your account. Of course this is prey to on line fraud but I bet they suffer far fewer losses. I imagine they will also introduce either finger print recognition or eye recognition in the too distant future too.

Yes, at least that's one way of dealing with it: get people's card details and have them pre-authorise payment for all items that leave the store with them.

Only problem, though, is if people use stolen bank cards and fake personal details and then get to go on a free shopping spree.

Also, I can well see thieves putting small, high-value items into honest customers' bags/trolleys, so that they get charged for them, and then deftly removing them once they've left the store.

Alternatively, the thieves might not even bother doing that and just reason that, instead of the goods inside the store being available for stealing, it's now the goods that have come out of the store with honest customers who have paid for them; so this could seriously put ordinary people - especially elderly and vulnerable ones - at risk.

MaturingCheeseball · 08/06/2025 15:54

@MatildaMovesMountains - do you not think there is a problem? Are all the shoplifters just desperately trying to feed a hungry family and forced to steal a loaf of bread? Are all the shops - large or small - just greedy and can well afford to lose stock?

Should we all nod approvingly when someone jumps the turnstiles on the tube, as they’re sticking it to the system? Throwing rubbish out of their car window? So what - everyone does it.

Pick-pocketing - tourists deserve it - they should be more careful? Mugging - well, your own fault for being out after dark. Sexual assault? Shouldn’t tempt men. Murder? You shouldn’t have upset the perpetrator - they have rights you know.

😡

MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 15:58

MaturingCheeseball · 08/06/2025 15:54

@MatildaMovesMountains - do you not think there is a problem? Are all the shoplifters just desperately trying to feed a hungry family and forced to steal a loaf of bread? Are all the shops - large or small - just greedy and can well afford to lose stock?

Should we all nod approvingly when someone jumps the turnstiles on the tube, as they’re sticking it to the system? Throwing rubbish out of their car window? So what - everyone does it.

Pick-pocketing - tourists deserve it - they should be more careful? Mugging - well, your own fault for being out after dark. Sexual assault? Shouldn’t tempt men. Murder? You shouldn’t have upset the perpetrator - they have rights you know.

😡

Did I say that? Any of that? 🤷‍♀️

MrsSkylerWhite · 08/06/2025 16:00

MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 15:15

Or do I mean Honest Bob Jenrick? 🤔

Would that be the same honest Bob who didn’t immediately report a tube passenger for openly stating g he was carrying a knife?

MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 16:08

MrsSkylerWhite · 08/06/2025 16:00

Would that be the same honest Bob who didn’t immediately report a tube passenger for openly stating g he was carrying a knife?

Indeed - and who fiddles his expenses and breaks the rules when it suits him and the price is right ✅️ 😉

feelingbleh · 08/06/2025 16:09

I think people are just getting sick of it to be honest. I think the best way to stop a lot of shoplifting is publicly shame them. I work in a shop and it's not the people you expect who are shop lifting its middle aged women, nhs workers, teachers etc and it's not because they can't afford it, it's because they think they can get away with it. If these people knew their faces would be publicly put on Facebook each week I guarantee they would stop. Instead what happens is oh I forgot about all them hidden under there sorry, or oh I didn't scan that I thought I had. Or my kid was messing about with the scanner so I didn't realise £90 worth of stuff wasn't scanned. Or I was going to pay that separately after.

scalt · 08/06/2025 16:09

People are thinking: if the police and government won’t tackle crime, we will.

JenniferBooth · 08/06/2025 16:12

DeftLemonTraybake · 08/06/2025 13:54

It's out of control but the Police have been defunded and their roles changed so dramatically that they don't have the resources to deal with it.

And the anti-Police and pro-anyone doing anything shit just might have a MH problem/ND/dementia/trauma/have a shit life so we all should all be more sympathetic hasn't helped.

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MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 16:16

scalt · 08/06/2025 16:09

People are thinking: if the police and government won’t tackle crime, we will.

More fool they

TheDivergentEnigma · 08/06/2025 16:18

KierEagan · 08/06/2025 00:33

Do the police not decide when to arrest someone for shoplifting or let them go?

The police don't always need to arrest to deal with it, though - they can prosecute without arrest, which may look like they let them go to someone who doesn't know the alternative ways to prosecute.

Having them in the police cells is not enough of a deterrent anyway; the sentencing from the courts should be the deterrent, but still, this is also not enough to stop them.

Shoplifting should be something someone should be ashamed of commiting, the same with many other issues - some of which of a much lower level but sometimes society doesn't always challenge and stand up against it for various reasons and I can understand some of those reasons (fear of violence/backlash etc) but this also gives the impression that society doesn't care enough to pull people up before it gets bad (Broken window theory it think it's called).

There is also the issue of low numbers of police and demand across all policing increasing, but with the expectation that they should still do something, it is an issue for the whole of the judicial system and wider society.

I agree that shoplifting is getting more brazen; there just isn't the capacity to crack down on it effectively unless something else gives.

feelingbleh · 08/06/2025 16:20

MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 16:16

More fool they

Why sometimes it's ok to speak up and do the right thing. Have you seen them social experiment videos online where kids are being kidnapped or men are spiking women's drinks and some people just look at their feet and do nothing. Then their are the amazing people who actually speak out. If you was being robbed in the street would you want help or would you want everyone to just walk past twiddling their thumbs.

OonaStubbs · 08/06/2025 16:23

Shoplifting is morally wrong and the people that do it are reprehensible. People who try to stop it should be applauded.

MatildaMovesMountains · 08/06/2025 16:28

feelingbleh · 08/06/2025 16:20

Why sometimes it's ok to speak up and do the right thing. Have you seen them social experiment videos online where kids are being kidnapped or men are spiking women's drinks and some people just look at their feet and do nothing. Then their are the amazing people who actually speak out. If you was being robbed in the street would you want help or would you want everyone to just walk past twiddling their thumbs.

Of course I'd want someone to speak up or even intervene physically - the law treats the use of force very differently if it's a) proportionate and b) used to stop harm to another person. Using force or violence to intervene in shoplifting is not legally justified. Shouting is fine, violence is not.

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