40 year old man - spoilt by mummy

[Profpudding]

If this was your son, what would you make of it?
Just spotted my younger 40-year-old brother on holiday with his mother.
Alone
He has six children and he couldn’t have taken one of them with him.
He would’ve only been paying for airfare, Parents cover everything else when they get there so we’re actually saying that it didn’t cross anybody’s mind. To invite the children.
I would also point out that these kids have probably never had a holiday in their life. They’ve been raised in absolute poverty due to his lack of contribution generally.
If that was my son, I’d be kicking him up the arse not buying him an ice cream
Oh, and he does work.

Id think he was a selfish deadbeat.

He needs a kick up the arse.

I wasn’t sure if it was just me, but I genuinely nearly spat my tea out when I saw the photos, sat there eating a fucking ice cream 😳

Well if he’s 40, he’s very unlikely to have a sudden epiphany of maturity and change his ways, so I’d stop bothering thinking about him as it’s going to be the same old same old.

Does he have a different Mum to you, just the phrasing “his mother” seems a bit odd, rather than “our mother”.

I like to keep a distance from all of them, but especially her to be fair

Just spotted my younger 40-year-old brother on holiday with his mother.

Do you two have a different mum?

So just to be clear
he’s split with the mother of his kids, doesn’t contribute to them, and is now on holiday with his parents?

while the not contributing is not on, I don’t see anything wrong with going away with your parents when you’re unemployed and single.

Many kicks until he improves.

My brothers 40 - still lives at home with my mum, he’s never really left.
Hes emotionally abusive, scrounges every single thing he can off her, he’s nasty to her, it’s devastating to see what he’s done to her but she won’t stand up to him, make him pay rent or move out or even get a job so it continues. He’s got 2 kids as well, thank goodness his wife finally left him!

Do you really not when it would’ve cost you 100 quid tops to take your child with you?
I suppose when you’ve got a sixth of them it’s difficult to know which one to choose but
I just can’t imagine it myself.

She said he works in the OP.

Well, that's what I was thinking, how do you decide which of the six to take?

Yes, I think it's a story of two halves.

If he doesn't live with the mother of his children or any of the children, then his holiday plans are his own affair, and if his parents are covering the costs, then that is no else's business either.

HOWEVER, the not contributing financially and not trying to make their lives easier in any way is a different kettle of fish.

But he is not unreasonable to take a free holiday when offered.

Would Taking them on holiday, not make their lives easier give them a bit of joy ?
As a grandparent, would you be buying your 40-year-old an ice cream when you don’t see the other kids the actual children
I just find it all incredible

@Profpudding you might console yourself with the thought that when he is old and in need of help and support from his children they will be just as interested in him as he was in them when they were younger
i.e they won't want to know and he will be left to rot

She's keeping him sweet so that he feels obligated to help her as she gets older.

I genuinely hope so because they do seem to be turning out quite well all things considered.

You may well be right there. She doesn’t have a lot of options when it comes to that kind of thing

You can't take one and not the others. If he couldn't afford all six then taking none is the right answer. Imagine how the others would feel.

To be fair this is without being outing spread across quite a few different mothers so it’s not like all six of them live in the same house with one parent.
I appreciate we might be moving into toss a coin territory, but I think it could’ve been done

While I totally agree with you, I think its winding you up to no point. It won't change anything, you know what a shit he is and you are already distancing yourself from his mother. Id be not looking at the pictures or giving either if them headspace.

You just get to the point where you question yourself so much you don’t know Whether it’s you or them.
I quite like these things popping up on social media every now and then to just remind me what absolute see you next Tuesday as they are

you can say cunt on here

I shall say cunts then ☺️

If the six kids are spread across multiple mothers, I expect arranging for them all to go on the same holiday at the same time would be a logistical nightmare, let alone expensive.

It wouldn't be fair to take just one/some and not all.

You say you keep your distance from your mother/brother, so you have no idea who has paid for what.