People who always big themselves up..

[craxer]

Do you know anyone who’s always signing their own praises, one way or another ?

my brother and sister in law are like this. It’s so tiring.

sis in law is ALWAYS bigging up my brother and herself and brother is always bigging himself up.

example - it’s ridiculous but she even manages to big herself up regarding health problems. She had a recent health issue and went to see a doctor about it. The doctor told her that it was pretty bad. She was like ‘ he was so surprised I was ok. But you know me ! So strong and I just get on with stuff !’…

or it’s ‘ you know me, I can’t ever sit still and I need to be working and doing things all the time. I never relax. I’m just always busy being productive. ‘

or about my brother ‘ he’s just amazing, all his colleagues respect him so much ‘ ‘ you know how intelligent your brother is, he just knows everything ‘…

my brother is constantly complaining how stupid other people are. ‘ I deal all day with other people’s low intelligence and stupidity’ he’s actually told me before that he thinks he’s better than everyone and has an extremely high opinion of himself.

these are just a couple of examples that come to mind and maybe it bothers me, because I know he thinks he’s better than everyone. But it’s hard to take sometimes !

That's the thing, they don't. If you're truly secure, there wouldn't be a fixation on continually listing said achievements. It is a form of insecurity, or alternatively a sociopath ! 😂

I would absolutely be the same, it sounds hugely cringey, but could you suggest to your team that they say something about one another if they don't want to say something about themselves? you said the other teams said "we" so can talk about collective achievements not just individual. So at least instead of saying "I closed a really big case today" they could say "I want to highlight that Jane closed a really important case today." Or "I know Simon won't say so himself because he's too modest but he got some incredible feedback from a client today."

Ideally a manager (not sure if you are?) should be taking the lead on doing this if the rest of the team couldn't, to make sure they got their fair due.

Sometimes you have to play the corporate game even if it doesn't come naturally.

Yes I've ended in a friendship group with one of them, they are exhausting and competitive, but like others have said I just feel embarrassed for them, although I don't understand why, very successful and pretty nice family, I know it comes from a place of deep insecurity. I have to stop myself physically cringing sometimes when they start.

This is so interesting…because my ADHD teenage son is always blowing his own trumpet too!

I don't really.
To be honest I avoid these people as they grind my gears.

My colleague is like this, whatever you've had or done she can go one better. Does my head in.

My manager appears to think that he is God, if that counts.

He continually reinforces how fabulous he is by putting us Mere Minions down, and has caused a lot of people to leave their jobs because he's so awful. Needless to say, we come up with all sorts of creative ways of getting rid of him! We're just yet to find one that works...

but i always big up my brother

so despite him constantly bigging up himself
despite it irritating the hell out of you and you finding it “tiring”
despite him constantly complaining about “how stupid other people are”
and despite fact your brother’s wife also is constantly bigging him up and saying how amazing he is….

you also “always big up my brother”

😕

My mum 🙄.

Visiting with my parents just now, on my own rather than with DH and two DSs so I have more time to actually listen to her. Everything she says, either directly or indirectly, is basically saying how great she is. Whether she is correcting what other people say (she has to be right, because she’s very clever, and this has to be acknowledged) or bending any conversation to be about herself and how sharp / clever / perceptive she is or how she’s made the best decisions etc etc, it’s all about her being right / better / best. It is absolutely exhausting and I do not know how my dad stands it.

i assume it started with insecurity and is just utterly engrained now. It makes conversation with her hard work and quite boring. Every single conversation ends up being about her.