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CuarloDeFonza · 06/06/2025 18:18

As a person of colour, I find it embarrassing for the restaurant. As much as racist, bigoted thug he is, if they used that generic policy most pubs would be empty. If he was filming, being loud and offensive then fair enough. No need to cause a scene.

whackamole666 · 06/06/2025 18:19

Staff are entitled to refuse service to anyone.

Wasn't starmer refused service and thrown out of a pub a while back?

BusMumsHoliday · 06/06/2025 18:20

MerlinsBeard1 · 06/06/2025 17:27

Agreed. It's all peachy when it's someone you don't like not so peachy when you're next. It reminds me of the 'First They Came' poem.

"First They Came" is about not speaking out because you're not part of a group that's being persecuted; it's not about tolerating anyone's right to say anything without them having to face consequences.

Freedom of speech doesn't extend to freedom from consequences of that speech. Tommy Robinson can espouse views (within the law) and other people can respond as they see fit on the basis of those views (within the law).

CautiousLurker01 · 06/06/2025 18:20

user101101 · 06/06/2025 16:53

Did he harass someone in the restaurant? Why was he thrown out? If it’s just due to his views then I think this is wrong. What if everyone decided to not serve Christians or something

Agree with this. I don’t agree with anything he says but restaurant staff should not be policing customers on their views.

Though, that said, if someone did this to the Tate brothers I’d applaud. So maybe I’m a hypocrite.

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 06/06/2025 18:21

As a person of pasty white complexion, I say that if he wanted to be welcome at every establishment he could try not being a violent shit-stirring thug.

RisingSunn · 06/06/2025 18:21

If the employees were non-British ethnic minorities - I think the employer did well to safeguard its employees.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 06/06/2025 18:24

BusMumsHoliday · 06/06/2025 18:20

"First They Came" is about not speaking out because you're not part of a group that's being persecuted; it's not about tolerating anyone's right to say anything without them having to face consequences.

Freedom of speech doesn't extend to freedom from consequences of that speech. Tommy Robinson can espouse views (within the law) and other people can respond as they see fit on the basis of those views (within the law).

Absolutely.

If I feel that someone is a twat and I don't want to do business with them simply because I think they're a twat then nothing can compel me to do business with them.

It's fucking nuts that people think they can behave how they like, say what they want and everyone else has to silently take it up the arse because freedom of speech waa waa

Fuck that. Go be a cunt somewhere else.

CunningLinguist1 · 06/06/2025 18:25

MiloMinderbinder925 · 06/06/2025 17:31

Do whatever you like.

No, because they'd fall under a protected characteristic (gay) and thus the Equality Act.
Racist cunts are not a protected characteristic.

iloveeverykindofcat · 06/06/2025 18:28

Good. He wants "free speech"* so much he can deal with the consequences. He's not being denied healthcare, he's being refused service. I wouldn't serve him either.

*fairly sure he doesn't actually know what this means as a legal principle.

ononetbh · 06/06/2025 18:29

MumbleBumbleAppleCrumble · 06/06/2025 16:57

When I was at uni I used to work for an events staffing agency. You’d be sent off all over the city and sometimes the country to help waiter/bar at weddings and corporate things and such. While you would be told what company you were going to work for, you never knew who their client was or the type of event until you got there. Sometimes it would be brilliant things like film premieres, often dreadfully dull corporate canapé functions. On one occasion we arrived and discovered it was the UKIP conference. We were all rather furious, but decided carry on and just be incredibly charming and lovely as per usual (we were expecting them to be awful and rude to the staff). At one point one of the UKIP people came up to me (I was a manager) and started telling me how lovely it was to see such polite and well spoken staff at something like this, as usually waiting staff can barely speak the language. ‘Well done to the caterer for employing people who can actually speak to you!’ He pointed out a particularly charming barman who had just served him. I smiled, thanked him, and said that yes, Krzysztof, was indeed charming, indeed he was currently in his final year at UCL studying maths and that we had always found that he and our other Polish and Romanian (etc) staff tended to be far better than the gap year students we also employed. Their manners and work ethic were beyond compare.

Mr UKIP wasn’t happy…

Did everyone clap afterwards?

Hoppinggreen · 06/06/2025 18:29

user101101 · 06/06/2025 16:53

Did he harass someone in the restaurant? Why was he thrown out? If it’s just due to his views then I think this is wrong. What if everyone decided to not serve Christians or something

Some people think he is a racist
Imagine if you were not white and had to serve a table of people who you believed were racist.
Any business can refuse service to someone

MoominMai · 06/06/2025 18:29

And that lovely guy on the left Guramit Singh was sentenced in 2013 to 6 years in prison for attempted robbery and threatening the shop owners with a knife. The surname denotes him as belonging to same religion as me unfortunately but I still would not serve him or the others in my restaurant either. Choices have consequences as OP said 🤷🏻‍♀️

JustSawJohnny · 06/06/2025 18:30

And THAT is how much tolerance anyone should have for a racist, wife-beating, fascist thug and all round piece of shit such as him.

Well done that establishment.

NormasArse · 06/06/2025 18:30

MrsMitford3 · 06/06/2025 17:17

I am donning my tin hat here.
I am not a fan of his politics at all but where do we draw the line?
Who decides?
It makes me very uncomfortable.
Is it ok for restaurants to refuse women wearing "Adult human female" shirts?
Or ppl with different coloured skin?
Different religious beliefs?
Ppl with keffiyehs on?
Gay people?
Ppl in burkas?
A women only event?

I assume everyone will come on to say it's not the same but I feel like the pitchforks will be next.

Everyone is jubilant now because they dislike him but next time what if it someone you like/agree with politically that is publicly being thrown out?

I think the ability to disagree and respect others opinions is lost and imho that is not a good thing for society.

He’s a criminal who uses hate speech to divide, and to incite violence.

Are any of those people listed doing anything criminal by being who they are?

I would’ve refused to serve him too.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 06/06/2025 18:31

CunningLinguist1 · 06/06/2025 18:25

No, because they'd fall under a protected characteristic (gay) and thus the Equality Act.
Racist cunts are not a protected characteristic.

You have a common law right to refuse to serve anyone you like.

derxa · 06/06/2025 18:31

This will be more grist to his mill. It’s him against the establishment. Blah blah blah

BoredZelda · 06/06/2025 18:32

user101101 · 06/06/2025 16:53

Did he harass someone in the restaurant? Why was he thrown out? If it’s just due to his views then I think this is wrong. What if everyone decided to not serve Christians or something

Is being an obnoxious teat a protected characteristic these days?

comeandhaveteawithme · 06/06/2025 18:32

TopographicalTime · 06/06/2025 16:57

Is it legal to refuse service because you don't like someone's political views?

Yes, being a racist dickhead is not a protected characteristic

Dangermoo · 06/06/2025 18:33

MrsMitford3 · 06/06/2025 17:17

I am donning my tin hat here.
I am not a fan of his politics at all but where do we draw the line?
Who decides?
It makes me very uncomfortable.
Is it ok for restaurants to refuse women wearing "Adult human female" shirts?
Or ppl with different coloured skin?
Different religious beliefs?
Ppl with keffiyehs on?
Gay people?
Ppl in burkas?
A women only event?

I assume everyone will come on to say it's not the same but I feel like the pitchforks will be next.

Everyone is jubilant now because they dislike him but next time what if it someone you like/agree with politically that is publicly being thrown out?

I think the ability to disagree and respect others opinions is lost and imho that is not a good thing for society.

The vote says you're not alone. Just a shame you get piled on if you don't go straight in with calling him the usual names.

monktasmic · 06/06/2025 18:33

I love Hawksmoor - and am glad they have done this.
if I was celebrating my birthday etc and that bunch of racist oiks were near me I’d leave.
I have just booked a table for dinner next week to support them.

Dangermoo · 06/06/2025 18:35

RisingSunn · 06/06/2025 18:21

If the employees were non-British ethnic minorities - I think the employer did well to safeguard its employees.

🙄

cardibach · 06/06/2025 18:37

Yruu · 06/06/2025 17:19

I’m not sure how I feel about this.

My concern is that it is a slippery slope into ‘banning’ or ‘refusing’ anyone you disagree with. It reminds me of Nigel Farage being refused banking because of his political views.

It feels like an infringement on free speech. But then they are private businesses who can serve or refuse whoever they want. I’m conflicted.

He wasn’t banned because of his political views. His investment fell below the threshold.
I think Tommy Two Names has such a reputation for violence that banning him is fine. They should have done it up front though, by not letting him in.

QurikySparrowHatrack · 06/06/2025 18:43

JamieCannister · 06/06/2025 18:01

Do you realise that service providers cannot simply discriminate based on belief (unless that belief is not protected)?

Yes, but there's a high threshold to be met for a political belief to be deemed projected, and many of Yaxley-Lennon's publicly expressed ones will fall far short. Belief in discrimatory ideologies will almost certainly not be protected, nor would most personal opinions or preferences.

Noodlehen · 06/06/2025 18:43

I think it was wrong, once a sentence is completed you’ve been “rehabilitated” and where does it end of who can be refused service.

however, I see a lot of people call him racist - I don’t agree with his views, but Islam isn’t a race. I’ve not seen anything racist from him (happy to be corrected as I don’t follow him closely)

Lilactimes · 06/06/2025 18:44

Raquelos · 06/06/2025 18:01

Do I care about this man and his ability to access good steak? No.
Do I think it's a good thing when establishments refuse to serve people because they disagree with their views? Also no.

As others have said, what about if they decided not to serve JK Rowling, or Stephen Fry or insert any name you want because they were uncomfortable with their views. If you are that uncomfortable, take yourself out of the situation, don't expect to be able to exclude other people, to ensure you don't have to interact with people you don't agree with.

Private businesses can do that if they want.
they can refuse someone’s custom. Most don’t - cos they prefer money over their values and most businesses don’t feel strongly enough about how someone looks or whether they’re gay and prefer their money.
but some business owners may feel strongly enough to kick someone who is a racist out of their business. Others won’t.
its not happening all the time because most businesses operate on their profit first.

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