Grown man at cinema on his own

[Littlebluecreature]

Watching Lilo & Stitch..is this odd?

Here with Dd, only one other family here…and this guy, munching on snacks..watching Lilo & Stitch

Is it just me 😂

There's something sinister going on here. In fact, damn creepy. Women's intuition.

I had to move so many times for medical training and was sometimes very very very lonely. Often went to the movies alone regardless of what was on, including kids films, or to tourist places like aquariums where you don’t see many solo adults. If you get one day off every two or three weeks and you don’t know anyone, you do what you need to do.

I actually saw Megamind twice, alone, in either Darwin or cairns (don’t recall) because I enjoyed it!

How arrogant to assume you know what everyone is thinking. You're not psychic and arrogance is not a nice quality.

Why doesn't everyone?

Protecting you children from what? A man sitting well away from them, unable to see anything other than the back of their head in the dark? The children are statistically in more danger from the man who took them there.

I'm not a man, but a woman who occasionally works up the courage to go the cinema on her own.

For many years, I worked full-time and cared for three adults. They're all gone now. I have no children of my own and no siblings.

Believe it or not, sometimes I like to get out of the house. My friendship circle dwindled over the nearly thirty years that I was a carer, meaning that I mostly go out on my own.

I tend to stream films - mainly because it's cheaper than going to the cinema these days and I do fell awkward going out on my own - but occasionally I like the experience of going to the cinema.

Maybe I should spend the last years of my life rotting at home.

What a mean-spirited thread. And the faux naivete, the disingenuous 'oh, I didn't mean anything by it' makes worse. At least own your intentions because the truth is, if it was a woman seated there enjoying this film by herself this thread would never have been started. The insinuations were clear.

As to the hysterical mansplainer on the thread, the irony is hilarious. 😂

This doesn’t sound weird!

When I was younger, me and my mum were watching Twilight in the cinema and there was a lone man sat wanking to the implied sex scene before leaving once that part ended.

Now that was weird!

But nothing in your OP sounds amiss at all. Although I understand why you’d be surprised, I know my OH would 100% say it was weird if he saw a lone male watching kids films in the cinema.

I watched it with my youngest daughter at the weekend and, as a grown adult, I have to say that I thoroughly enjoyed it. Let him be.

Getting a kick out of the people saying “maybe he has learning difficulties.” As if that would be a more likely explanation than, I don’t know, he just wanted to see a movie because it sounded like fun. 😂

More possible reasons he was seeing “Lilo & Stitch” by himself:

1. He made a bet with his friends that if he did it, it would be the subject of a Mumsnet thread within 24 hours. (Thanks for the twenty pounds, OP!)
2. He was leaving ransom money under the rightmost seat in the third row, as instructed by his dog’s kidnappers.
3. He’s a sewing enthusiast who got confused by “stitch.”
4. He is Elvis in disguise - what, you actually believed he was dead? - and he came to hear his music on the soundtrack.
5. Like Stitch, he is a genetically engineered alien, and he thinks media representation of his kind is so, so important.

@Coffeewithtwosugars your son sounds just lovely and if you take a look at the voting here you’ll see most people wouldn’t have batted an eyelid at a man, on his own, watching a kids film. Tbh I would have smiled, loved that he was having a good time and moved swiftly on.

Seriously? I'm an adult and I'm going to see Lilo and Stitch tomorrow night alone. Why should I wait a few months because me sitting by myself (in a place you're not supposed to be talking to other people anyway) is 'a bit weird' apparently?!

I have loved Disney since I was a child, these live action films are remakes of films that are incredibly nostalgic for me. Why should I only be able to watch them in secret in my own home?!

I have also been to every Disney park in the world, including a 10 night trip to Florida alone, all without children because I don't have them, there are hundreds of thousands of people at those parks that are adults without children.

Just because you wouldn't do it, doesn't mean it's weird.

I find it wild that you think saying he was "lurking in the dark" is even remotely appropriate?! It's a CINEMA ffs. He's not lurking, he's watching a film. And funnily enough, they're usually dark whether it's men, women or children there.

I work with children, I am sufficiently trained in safeguarding. I can assure you that no training I have received says that men may be predators for wanting to watch a movie even if they have nobody to watch it with!!

Jesus Christ, I'm glad I don't know some of the people on here in real life!

Don't feed the troll spouting misogynistic shite about hysterical women when he himself is adovating hysterical, ott measure whereas the women of the forum are level-headed, non-judgemental and thoughtful

Is it just me 😂

Yes. It’s you. You must live a small life, expand your horizons.

Why should he? if he wants to watch it on the big screen then he can

Oh dear. I went to see Paddington 3 (and 1 and 2 for that matter) all alone, sitting there in the dark. I had no idea this struck fear into the hearts of other people, or that I would be assumed to have learning difficulties! It’s a judgemental world, it seems.

Not sure if you’re a man or woman but it’s only the men we need to judge apparently.

My DH loves waterslides, and goes to leisure centres with them on his own. This means that he is often queueing for them among the children (and most of the punters are children); and of course, both he and the children are almost naked, and often standing close together. Quelle horreur! Unlike the cinema, it is of course a brightly lit area with lots of witnesses, including the uniformed staff of the leisure centre, but he says he has sometimes thought "what does this look like"? It is sad that men going about their business have to think like this.

Do any of the many reasons suggested in the thread match your idea of a good reason?

That reminds me of the pathetic, prejudiced (in his case also horribly racist) police officer in the old Not The Nine O'Clock News sketch - when he kept arresting a black gentleman for such 'crimes' as 'loitering with intent to use a pedestrian crossing' and 'looking at me in a funny way'.

Pretty sure the original Star Wars films are a U
And no one would blink at a man on his own there...

He wasn't lurking, he was sitting eating his popcorn in full view 🤣

Personally I'm delighted that MN has some rational people who aren't just calling men pedophiles and rapists for just existing and it's nice to see almost a whole thread of it

As a man I would think you were too

Almost like your real aim isn't protecting anyone but just arguing with women for fun

How does one tell the difference (especially in a dark cinema) between sitting watching the film and lurking in a sinister manner? I assume by the "further investigation" mentioned - what form does that take?