Page 22 | Grown man at cinema on his own

DoctorRoseReturns · 02/06/2025 23:03

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 22:27

I'd be extremely surprised if DH went to the cinema to watch a matinee screening of a kids film! I honestly don't know any men in my family or friend group that would do this by themself. I would think DH was having some kind of breakdown to be honest, if he did this!! I'd think this just because it would b v out of character for him. I'm not really attracted to the type of guys that are into little kids movies. But if I was, I guess I wouldn't feel shocked.

I don't think anyone (though I did miss a few pages of the thread)! has said this man must be up to no good. Most people have said it's probably innocent. However, some people, like myself, have said it's ok to wonder why an adult man would be watching a kids movie. And given my background working with sex offenders, I particularly (and some other posters) have pointed out that this is something that people with a sexual interest in kids might do ... and we've also raised that.its ok to question and think to yourself that it's odd...

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But plenty of people have said men they DO know would do this

Again, Disney films are not "little kid" films

Marvel, Star Wars, Hunger Games, Harry Potter have all been considered "kids" films but have large adult, often male, fanbases

Or are you only attracted to men who watch films where things go Boom and everyone says Fuck because it's obvious ADULT then

LemonOwl · 02/06/2025 23:09

DoctorRoseReturns · 02/06/2025 23:03

But plenty of people have said men they DO know would do this

Again, Disney films are not "little kid" films

Marvel, Star Wars, Hunger Games, Harry Potter have all been considered "kids" films but have large adult, often male, fanbases

Or are you only attracted to men who watch films where things go Boom and everyone says Fuck because it's obvious ADULT then

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To be honest my DH wouldn't go to the cinema on his own to watch anything. He also wouldn't watch a Disney film on his own in the house without me or the Grandchildren.

Guardians of the Galaxy we love though.

LemonOwl · 02/06/2025 23:13

I don't watch Disney films though myself. I have watched Christmas Grinch a lot one Summer when babysitting Granddaughter.

I enjoyed that.

Ajayo · 02/06/2025 23:16

LemonOwl · 02/06/2025 23:09

To be honest my DH wouldn't go to the cinema on his own to watch anything. He also wouldn't watch a Disney film on his own in the house without me or the Grandchildren.

Guardians of the Galaxy we love though.

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No-one is saying every man goes to the cinema alone or watches Disney movies without kids present, but the point is it’s not that rare either - as many people do.

The fact your husband would not do this is beside the point. We are all different.

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 02/06/2025 23:17

XenoBitch · 02/06/2025 22:46

But is is sad for those of us with men in our lives that would would enjoy seeing a Disney film, and know there are people out there thinking they should not be in a space that they have paid for and are perfectly entitled to be in. And know that there are people thinking that they might be a pedo or dodgy in some way.
It is fucking depressing.

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I agree. We all have to be wary of those who have criminal intent in our midst; but it's very sad if we're going from an assumption that everybody whom we think 'shouldn't be there', even though there are no actual restrictions whatsoever, is likely a criminal.

This is the same mindset that various police forces have allowed to dominate for a long time: repeatedly stopping young black men (but not young white men) because "We don't know yet if he's guilty of any crime, but... y'know".

It pervades elsewhere too - even when there's no suspicion of actual crime - where you get terrified people on a plane when the pilot welcomes them over the loudspeaker and she has a clearly female voice; or taking their cars to be maintained elsewhere when they learn that a garage employs female mechanics - just because they only want to know that they'll be safe out on the roads, you see.

Often, prejudice against people who are different from us and those who live their lives differently from how we think that they should is just much easier than actually engaging our brains and having a sense of proportion instead.

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 23:21

DoctorRoseReturns · 02/06/2025 23:03

But plenty of people have said men they DO know would do this

Again, Disney films are not "little kid" films

Marvel, Star Wars, Hunger Games, Harry Potter have all been considered "kids" films but have large adult, often male, fanbases

Or are you only attracted to men who watch films where things go Boom and everyone says Fuck because it's obvious ADULT then

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I thought we were talking about lilo and stitch , which I thought was a kids movie. I don't know as I haven't seen it. But from what I've seen advertised etc.. there seems to be some cute characters in it and I'd have thought the target audience was primary school age. Certainly my youngest has mentioned it. I presumed it was along the lines of trolls, smurfs, sonic, super mario, that sort of thing, rather than hunger games (which I thought was a 15?)

I genuinely don't know any men that would go to a matinee performance of a kids film (trolls/smurfs/sonic/etc....) by themself. I'm sure plenty of men do, just no-one I know. Definitely not DH and you asked about husbands and partners. I just don't know men that like these kinds of films enough to watch them by themself in a cinema mid-afternoon.

I'm not really sure what you point is.

I've already stated that my view is skewed by my profession (which has involved working with numerous sex offenders) and the fact that no adult men I know would watch these kind of films by themself.

As I've also said, I'm sure some men do watch these films innocently at the cinema.

LemonOwl · 02/06/2025 23:21

Ajayo · 02/06/2025 23:16

No-one is saying every man goes to the cinema alone or watches Disney movies without kids present, but the point is it’s not that rare either - as many people do.

The fact your husband would not do this is beside the point. We are all different.

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I'm not just talking about my DH. I just don't know any men or women that go to the cinema to watch a kids film on their own. I have learnt something new today that it is a thing.

Butterbly · 02/06/2025 23:22

Lilo and stitch isn't a simple kids film

The adult market is estimated to account for 70% of viewers and it's performed particularly well in adult demographics up to age 52.

Partially because it was a massive film 25 ish years ago. So it has the nostalgia of the 30-40 ish year olds that it was big for, but also their parents who likely spent a lot of time watching it as a family

Butterbly · 02/06/2025 23:24

As an aside my bil watched it alone this weekend in order to check if it was suitable for a family trip

It has themes of adoption, social services etc so a lot of adoptive parents are pre watching it to check how they feel it would play out with their children

Rewis · 02/06/2025 23:24

PeapodMcgee · 02/06/2025 19:09

Even if he was a paedo (and it's kind of offensive to assume he must be), what can you do about it? Nothing. They walk and sit among us, in their hundreds.

And statistically it is more likely to be the adult who is there with the child 🤷🏼‍♀️

Ajayo · 02/06/2025 23:29

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 02/06/2025 23:17

I agree. We all have to be wary of those who have criminal intent in our midst; but it's very sad if we're going from an assumption that everybody whom we think 'shouldn't be there', even though there are no actual restrictions whatsoever, is likely a criminal.

This is the same mindset that various police forces have allowed to dominate for a long time: repeatedly stopping young black men (but not young white men) because "We don't know yet if he's guilty of any crime, but... y'know".

It pervades elsewhere too - even when there's no suspicion of actual crime - where you get terrified people on a plane when the pilot welcomes them over the loudspeaker and she has a clearly female voice; or taking their cars to be maintained elsewhere when they learn that a garage employs female mechanics - just because they only want to know that they'll be safe out on the roads, you see.

Often, prejudice against people who are different from us and those who live their lives differently from how we think that they should is just much easier than actually engaging our brains and having a sense of proportion instead.

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Great post 👏👏👏

DoctorRoseReturns · 02/06/2025 23:32

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 23:21

I thought we were talking about lilo and stitch , which I thought was a kids movie. I don't know as I haven't seen it. But from what I've seen advertised etc.. there seems to be some cute characters in it and I'd have thought the target audience was primary school age. Certainly my youngest has mentioned it. I presumed it was along the lines of trolls, smurfs, sonic, super mario, that sort of thing, rather than hunger games (which I thought was a 15?)

I genuinely don't know any men that would go to a matinee performance of a kids film (trolls/smurfs/sonic/etc....) by themself. I'm sure plenty of men do, just no-one I know. Definitely not DH and you asked about husbands and partners. I just don't know men that like these kinds of films enough to watch them by themself in a cinema mid-afternoon.

I'm not really sure what you point is.

I've already stated that my view is skewed by my profession (which has involved working with numerous sex offenders) and the fact that no adult men I know would watch these kind of films by themself.

As I've also said, I'm sure some men do watch these films innocently at the cinema.

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Lilo and Stitch is Disney. It's not primarily kids

It's also a remake of a 20 year old film, it had a certain level of nostalgia.

Cute characters aren't just in kids films. There are some definitely not kids films which have cute characters in.

Hunger Games is a 12.

Sonic, Super Mario, Minecraft are prime examples of things people think are for kids but have a huge adult fanbase...

And again just because YOU don't know anyone, plenty of people here DO know someone who would. It makes no difference to what YOU know (and I suspect you're wrong but the men you know wouldn't say because of your judgmental attitude)

LemonOwl · 02/06/2025 23:33

I can remember my Dad chucking my toddler's Postman Pat rucksack on his back when we went through the airport as he was trying to help me. I saw a middle aged man point and laugh. Which made me laugh too. We all see thinks that aren't quite right.

Dangermoo · 02/06/2025 23:34

I taught in an open prison, which housed mainly child sex offenders. That doesn't mean I would be automatically alert to a man watching this movie on his own. The manipulative mindset I could spot once they tried to enter into dialogue with me, yes.

Smoulderdash · 02/06/2025 23:34

IfYouPutASausageInItItsNotAViennetta · 02/06/2025 23:17

I agree. We all have to be wary of those who have criminal intent in our midst; but it's very sad if we're going from an assumption that everybody whom we think 'shouldn't be there', even though there are no actual restrictions whatsoever, is likely a criminal.

This is the same mindset that various police forces have allowed to dominate for a long time: repeatedly stopping young black men (but not young white men) because "We don't know yet if he's guilty of any crime, but... y'know".

It pervades elsewhere too - even when there's no suspicion of actual crime - where you get terrified people on a plane when the pilot welcomes them over the loudspeaker and she has a clearly female voice; or taking their cars to be maintained elsewhere when they learn that a garage employs female mechanics - just because they only want to know that they'll be safe out on the roads, you see.

Often, prejudice against people who are different from us and those who live their lives differently from how we think that they should is just much easier than actually engaging our brains and having a sense of proportion instead.

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Dangermoo · 02/06/2025 23:35

Poor bloke's ears must be roasting.

NameChangerPopstar · 02/06/2025 23:38

DoctorRoseReturns · 02/06/2025 23:32

Lilo and Stitch is Disney. It's not primarily kids

It's also a remake of a 20 year old film, it had a certain level of nostalgia.

Cute characters aren't just in kids films. There are some definitely not kids films which have cute characters in.

Hunger Games is a 12.

Sonic, Super Mario, Minecraft are prime examples of things people think are for kids but have a huge adult fanbase...

And again just because YOU don't know anyone, plenty of people here DO know someone who would. It makes no difference to what YOU know (and I suspect you're wrong but the men you know wouldn't say because of your judgmental attitude)

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The poster asked specifically about our husbands and partners. So i responded about my husband.

I raised that no men I know would watch a kids movie at a cinema by themself, because I was being open about my stance and admitting my view is skewed by this and by my experiences working with sex offenders.

I'm not sure what I have said that is judgemental. Yes, I have said it's ok and normal to form judgements when we see something out of the ordinary. We all form judgements all the time. You are forming them about me right now.

Not sure of your point really.

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Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:40

Supima · 02/06/2025 21:16

Years ago, with young children, I was genuinely stunned to see adults without kids at Disneyland Paris. I kept grumpily thinking ‘but Paris is just down the road. Who the fuck would want to squeeze into a bloody revolving teacup when the Louvre & steak frites with red wine are available?’ I had no idea at the time that adult Disney was a thing. I personally feel the same about adults voluntarily watching kids’ movies without kids. I didn’t think adults at Disney were paedophiles of course, I just thought it was incomprehensible to me. I don’t think the OP was planning to call the cops, she was just surprised. Whatever! I’m sure I like lots of things other people hate.

EXACTLY this, thank you! I don’t understand Disney adults either

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Pherian · 02/06/2025 23:41

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 14:03

Watching Lilo & Stitch..is this odd?

Here with Dd, only one other family here…and this guy, munching on snacks..watching Lilo & Stitch

Is it just me 😂

Yeah it’s just you and maybe a handful of other judgmental busy bodies.

It’s a public place.

Ajayo · 02/06/2025 23:44

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:40

EXACTLY this, thank you! I don’t understand Disney adults either

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Of course you wouldn’t understand them 🙄

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Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:46

Coffeewithtwosugars · 02/06/2025 22:18

Alone. Adult. Happily sitting eating his snacks . Staying at the end to see if there is a post credit scene ….

…. sounds just like my adult autistic son, who is the kindest soul you would ever meet and loves to go to the cinema alone for some independence.

Made me want to cry to read this and think some people may be watching him and laughing.

He was doing nothing wrong and not affecting anyone, yet you thought it ok to start a thread about him and likely expected people to laugh along with you .

I have read your replies and can see you regret it now but please think before you pass judgement.

I’m very sorry, I honestly wasn’t doing it to be nasty, i’m really sorry it wasn’t my intention at all 😔

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grizzlyoldbear · 02/06/2025 23:47

I don’t think it necessarily makes someone a predator, i go to the cinema alone and love it

Missj25 · 02/06/2025 23:55

Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 14:14

Ok wasn’t trying to be awful at all, wasn’t judging him, feel bad now.
I love going to the cinema on my own, it was just the kids thing, that’s all

Hey OP
Stop feeling bad ..
Yeah , he might be perfectly normal & then again he may not ..
You’re a mother & so am I , & quite honestly, I do think it’s a bit weird , none of the grown men I know anyway , would be going to see a lilo & stitch movie on their own ..
I can’t believe all the posts on this that are calling you weird & judgy ! ..

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Littlebluecreature · 02/06/2025 23:56

LemonOwl · 02/06/2025 23:21

I'm not just talking about my DH. I just don't know any men or women that go to the cinema to watch a kids film on their own. I have learnt something new today that it is a thing.

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Same x

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BDG007 · 02/06/2025 23:59

It is a bit weird. Why didn't he just stream it or wait for it to come out on Amazon/Netflix.