Dh undermined me

[Thisissomessedup]

Awful situation this morning. 7 year old dc was being very rude to me when I asked her to tidy her things away and that she wasn’t allowed to watch YouTube. She started to say how she loves daddy more than me and he lets her and he was going to tell daddy that I told her off. I said that was fine because he would agree with me.
Dh arrived home, Dd ran outside and sat on the driveway crying, Dh came in and asked what was going on and basically sort of had a go at me/took her side?! I was so angry but didn’t want to make a scene in front of Dd, so went upstairs.
Dd then came up and gave me a hug and said sorry, I told her she had nothing to be sorry for.

I want out of this relationship and feel this was really strange and toxic behaviour and was not the right thing to do in front of Dd and was confusing to Dd and wrong

Aibu? feel like i’m going crazy here

@Thisissomessedup sorry OP your daughter, even though she is only 7, knew exactly what she was doing. she was being definitely being manipulative!!! she perhaps didnt expect it to go as far as it did and now regrets it so apologised to you. I would be watching them both and trying to instill in daughter that blackmailing ( we will see what daddy says about this!) and being manipulative will not be good for her in her future friendships.

He asked you what had happened? That is not undermining you, that is checking the version of events he has been told. Your daughter probably looked uncomfortable because she knows she told Daddy a different version. This all sounds very much like you are looking for reasons your daughter has said she likes Daddy more. In this instance I think you are the one with the problem

I agree with this.