Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

Maybe you could hire a private detective @AmzJS ???!!! 😆

Wtf is wrong with you?

Seriously?

For Christ’s sake get a life! Keep your nose out. You’re just asking for trouble.

Mind your own business!!!!

I don’t believe they are married - we haven’t spotted a ring at least. Which makes things even more ripe for infidelity.

This has to be a wind up ... doesn't it?

Careful you don't get your nose stuck in your blinds.

Don't be ridiculous. It's nothing to do with you.

Yup. The last comment seals it: "ripe for infidelity".

Nosey AND judgemental.

What a fucking delight you are.

Your poor neighbours. I wish I could be the one to have a discreet word with them. Because I’d be telling them to pack up and move far away from the batshit-curtain-twitcher-church-elder-twat next door.

Wind up, if not keep out of it.

In case this isn't the enormous steaming pile of nonsense it sounds like, any random neighbour did this to me I would be going full on Liam Neeson in Taken on them, "guilty" or "innocent".

At least, any attempt at neighbourly civility would be over, forever.

So because the wife is dressed up, going out, and gasp chatting to a man in a car AND WEARING PERFUME you’ve totally jumped to the conclusion that the only reason for this is because she’s likely to be having an affair. And you’ve now taken the flying leap that she and her husband could be trying for a baby so he should be told. Doesn’t matter how you try and frame it as neighbourly concern OP it comes across as being a real busy body. Thinking the worst of someone with absolute no evidence at all is never a good look.

(I wore perfume at the opticians recently, wondering now what the staff were thinking I was actually after 🤣)

Yes YABVU, but I might ask them to turn the bloody engine off. That part sounds really annoying! 😂

OK, I’m too British to actually do that. I’d just tut.

Come on, up your game and check the register of marriages. You really aren't putting the effort in are you? (you massive loon).

😂😂😂
Think I've said my piece.

You and your husband are disgraceful old gossips.
You could cause all sorts of problems, for them, or yourselves.

Really, mind your own business.

Well hopefully even tho this is clearly a joke, people who are reading might have been reminded not to report on people they're guessing might be having affairs!

😂

Jesus keep your nosey beak out ffs and get a hobby 🙄

This reminds me of the time my neighbour came to talk to my exh about security as there were strange things going on in the neighbourhood.

After a comment or two my exh stop him in his tracks and said GrabdnasCat and I get along very well but we split more tha a year ago, have you met her new partner xyz? We are all having lunch now, care to join us?

Yeah you go for it OP. Come back a report to us how he receives your assessment of what's going on.

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I think you and your dh need something more to fill your time...

Do you leave your curtains open so you don’t miss anything? The level of detail you know about your neighbours is worrying.

No one can be this stupid.
i call troll.

Best post I’ve seen in ages!

Please can you update us with how you all laughed it off.

I don’t think, I’ve wanted an updated post more than this one on MN. 🍿