Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

It’s none of your business and you’ve no proof in any case. Bringing it up would make seem unhinged. Find another hobby other than neighbour watching.

You assume A LOT of things.
Surely this is a wind up ?
If not get a hobby instead of spying on the neighbours.

Have you considered night vision goggles?!

I'd chat with them both a bit more if you can to get a bit more information first ideally.

Mind your own business and get a life.

FFS, OP, stop twitching your curtains and focus on your own life. You have no idea what's going on with your neighbours.

This 100%

They could be in an open marriage, this could be the 3rd person in their marriage, it could be her brother, the H could know and is choosing to ignore it. She could be a sex worker with a regular customer. You do not live in their world- this is not your business.

@AmzJS I can’t decide if this is a wind up post. If it is real then find something else to do with your time! She could be going out with a friend, going for a meal, going dancing. Her partner may be fully aware. If he does shift work it might be her chance to go out and enjoy herself. You have absolutely no evidence of an affair and are being ridiculously nosy!

Fucking hell your life must be so empty. Get a hobby.

😂

Stay in your lane! Nothing to do with you at all!

Getting involved would be absolute madness.
You have no idea what the situation is. Nor is it any of your business.
What if they have an agreed open relationship? There are so many possibilities.

Gladys Kravitz springs to mind.

Also, may I suggest a hobby? Evening work? I hear doing ironing on the side is popular!

Good God OP I could imagine you in 1692 in a place called Salem. Gleefully accusing people of witchcraft for the slightest thing that doesn't please you. Don't be such a busybody, get a hobby.

Keep well away. Even if she is having an affair- what if she is living under a domestic violence situation. This info to her husband could at worst lead to death. That’s one extreme, the other is basically your neighbour will forever hate you and it will be forever awkward whenever you see them

Because men always react so calmly when hearing (however tenuous the 'evidence' is) their partner is fucking another man. Oh how they'll laugh as she holds an ice pack to her fractured cheekbone.
My first guess, knowing as much actual fact as you do about the situation, was that he's controlling and she's making the most of being able to head out one whole night a month while he's away. If my guess is right then you'd be putting her life at risk.
How happy are you to gamble with someone's life just because you are a nosy gossip?

If it were me, I'd want to know if my partner was having an affair and I would feel stupid if others knew and never told me.
If you have absolute proof she's having an affair then I would say something.

But since you don't even know if it's another man, let alone know where she is going or what she is doing, I wouldn't get involved at all.

If you see the car again you could always happen to be just going out for a little walk and make conversation - "ooh you look nice, are you going somewhere fancy?" Get a look at the person in the car 😂 Maybe it's her mum or a friend and they are going to an evening hobby so she's not alone when partner is working!

You cannot be for real - you have no fucking clue whats going on, you can’t even tell what sex the person is in the car - so could be her sister, mum - she could be going to a to a rock choir, the WI. Get a life!!!

You have absolutely no evidence of an affair but you are willing to rock their marriage based on nothing. Perhaps he is controlling and the only time she goes out is when he is at work, perhaps she is abused! Take a look at yourself you really are a piece of work!

You are taking the piss!!!! Troll off somewhere else.

Oh have a word with yourself OP🤣🤣🤣

I’m now calling this as utterly made up, a post made entirely for reaction. No one can be this judgemental and nosy surely?!? .

You’ve overdone it now.

Is your husband called Richard op? 🪣

Todays thread of the day right here.....

I often sit chatting in the car with the person who gives me a lift to work

It's hardly unusual 🤣