Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

Our neighbour doesn't bother rubbernecking

She's got one of those ring doorbells (it was the first thing she came back for when they had a house fire)

She uses it to gawp at the streets comings and goings (she hates me as I come out if my house and turn right instead of 'her' left)

She clings to her back door to hear any conversations we may have

By God have we had fun with that

She's confused-shes not sure if we are jehovah witnesses or swingers

She fell out with us a few years ago for not clapping during covid (and the fact she thinks she is queen bee of the street-she wants us out as she thinks we only rent-we own but she didnt know that) so can't actually ask us,but that flappy ear is glued to her back door (she never goes out so has a lot of time on her hands)

She's actually arranged her living conditions to be able to listen in to any conversations we have-they live in the tiny dining area while ignoring the massive lounge

Its amusing-shes tried asking other neighbours but we are super polite but keep ourselves to ourselves so they know nothing either

And in today's episode of Things that never happened

What an amazing coincidence that this - allegedly - happened just as you posted here. What are the odds 🤔

Don't hold your breath for those apologies

Most posters seem to be falling over themselves to 1. Defend a potential adulterer and 2. abuse me.

It’s a good job I’m thick skinned…

Report?? Absolutely not. What a busybody you sound.

Imagine thinking you're owed an apology.

The fact that your suspicions may have been correct changes nothing. It was, and still is, none of your business. That's the point, not whether there was infidelity going on or not.

If this is real then honestly, you and your DH need to find a hobby you can do together, maybe a sport you can watch together or something. You are both wildly over-invested in the lives of your neighbours to a level that's really quite sad.

I certainly won’t be revelling in anyone’s misfortune

Yet you appear to ge doing exactly that

Log it with 101

Except that that is exactly what you have been doing.

You and your husband do seem to live rather sad, empty lives.

Do You happen to live on Coronation Street by any chance?

It’s a good job I’m thick…

Yes, you’ve shown that to us all. 😂😂

Yet again, OP. If they’re not married, she can’t be an ‘adulterer’, even if she’s shagging her way through the surrounding areas at a rate of knots.

At least get your terminology right.

Oh, do catch up... 😂😊

Why be so petty and vicious? OP feels sorry for the guy and would anyone not want to know if their partner was cheating? It is brave and the decent thing to do? Is the guy attractive?

@AmzJS what a nosey cow .
Your comments are unbelievable.
A sex worker because of a fancy car and nice clothes .
A female wearing perfume and daring to go out without a man.
The facts are you have no proof.
I actulay thought you were going to say with the light nights you have seen them kissing .
No just that she was wearing makeup .

Id hate to be your neighbour/or you . Talk about judgemental. You’re not nice op doing what you do .
Even if it turns out you are right you have and had no proof.
like others have said stay away from the windows.

In my haste, I originally missed the last word in that update.

OP did you get propositioned by your kids teacher in a bar recently and kick up a stink with the school and governors? You have a very similar writing style.

Bearing in mind the kind of nosy and interfering neighbours she has, it's unlikely that she would let her loverboy drop her off in front of her house.

The majority of posters also have the gut feeling you are a nosy nutter of a neighbour. Are we right too?

There’s no risk, you’re clearly smug. It was obvious that an affair was a distinct possibility. But it’s still NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.

She doesn’t even know if it’s a man in the car.

OP. You want to do this 'good deed' because you think the husband is a very nice man. He 'looks like' a very nice man, but NOBODY knows a husband better than the wife. You think he'd like to know what his wife does on his night shift. Perhaps he already knows, perhaps they have an open marriage, perhaps he's not working the late shift, but also in another woman's bed. You don't know other people over the fence.

A couple having a row and one of them being called a liar is NOT proof of an affair. They could have been rowing about putting out the wheelie bin for all we know.

As for your earlier remark that there’s more reason for infidelity because they’re not married…🤯

I’m glad you’re not my neighbour. You sound very nosy and are quick to jump to conclusions.

I’ve moved on from that!

Get. A. Life.

Funny how you posted this yesterday and by last night her husband knew about this “affair”