Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

Not forgetting the local Witch-Hunters.

And King Charles.

😂😂😂

you’re being a prying busybody! You’ve no idea what is going on and dying to spread malicious gossip! You sound a very unpleasant person! Keep your beak out!

I don’t think you can bring up that she looks nice and smells of perfume. I think you are her neighbour and need to stop watching her!

It’s 2025, not 1925. Women should be able to go out with friends (or lovers) ‘done up’ in make up, ‘flattering outfits’, tight dresses and heels without the neighbours clutching their pearls, passing moral judgement or reporting them to a man

Maybe she has taken up Salsa dancing or this guy is her Bridge partner and they are discussing strategies.

Personally my monies is on AmzJS’s
own dh having an affair or about to have one and he is giving AmzJS a distraction to think about which takes the pressure off him

I think you should check whether she had any knickers on. Just a quick check you understand. 🤭😀

Please get a hobby that isn’t curtain twitching.

They could be in an open relationship, stay out of it,not worth the agreed if you're wrong

well she cant leave the house in her PJs it seems, oops sorry wrong thread

This is all quite embarrassing OP, have you always been so nosy?!

Dear Lord, I hope I never live next door to you, OP.
Firstly, you have no.idea what is happening and, secondly, stop being so f*ing nosy and interfering.
This is absolutely none of your business, so "morally", the only thing you should be doing is keeping your mouth shut. How dare you judge other people? Just live your own life, and let them get on with theirs.

Probably already have. Binoculars out looking for a VPL.

Noticed only g-strings on the washing line. Ripe for infidelity.

Oh wow!! I thought you caught her having sex with someone !!

are you not suspicious of her partner? Did he tell you he works late one day an week and not for seeing his mistress?

The BooKay residence, lady of the house speaking 😂

I did not realise that the UK had a morality police to report to.

If this is real, you and your husband are exactly the kind of poisonous busybodies who back in the day would have been reporting women for witchcraft if they lived alone with a cat, or anyone who was sheltering a Catholic ‘transgressor’.

Get away from your window and find something else to fill your empty lives and heads instead of prying and spying and working yourselves into a righteous froth over the wholly imagined lives of people whose business has fuck all to do with you.

Your desperate need to gossip, judge and stir shit, disguised as some kind of moral imperative, is repugnant.

Are you for real? You sound like a right busybody, interfering curtain twitcher. Mind your own sodding business and get a fucking life! Pathetic!

Bloody hell Mrs Mangel, stop twitching those nets and get a life.

Yes, I was thinking the same. My Mil and Sil play in two orchestras. SIL plays cello so it would be sort of obvious where she’s going, but Mil has a flute, sometime piccolo and loves to get a little dressed up as they sometimes pop to the pub or for a meal after rehearsals.

Maybe the neighbour has an evening job, volunteering at the local theatre doing front of house. There are a million reasons why she might be ‘dolled up’ mid week… and the fact that she is not allowed to get dressed up without it being inferred she is having an affair makes this one of the most misogynistic and offensive posts I’ve seen in a long time.

This is pathetic.

If things for real, you need to find a hobby.
If this isn’t for real, you need to find a hobby.

My god! I've only read the OPs offerings and come to the glaring conclusion that she is one hell of a nosy busy body who needs to get a life or a different hobby.
Stay out of other peoples business and mind her own. Her h/p needs to do the same.
Do you sit by the window watching with the popcorn and making notes by any chance? The amount of detail you describe is worrying, no rings etc, might be trying for a baby with h? WTAF.
I'm sure you would both be great at working for covert ops in M15.
Do you spy on other neighbours too? 🙄
If this wasn't so stupid, it would be funny. I feel sorry for your neighbours, I really do. If I knew someone was doing this to me on a regular basis, I would go ballastic with them. I know you aren't hurting anyone or doing anything illegal but making assumptions and judging people like this isn't on either.
IT'S NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU.

How do you know he is a very nice man? Are you a fly sitting on his wall?
You need to wind your neck in, and do something with your time other than spying from behind the curtains.

WTAF have I just read?! Do people even notice what their neighbours are up to to this degree?? I don’t think I would notice if they all walked around out the front naked FFS!
OP keep well out of it and stop spying on people! What is wrong with you?!

OP standing there with a tape measurer checking the tightness of the neighbour's dress and writing it down with an Ikea pencil.

Get a life and a hobby