Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

The more and more you post you piss me off more.
I know this is probably a troll post but my neighbours are actually like this and hate us just for being the youngest on the street!
Neighbours like you ( if this is not a troll post) make people's lives miserable.
Actually - this say more about you than your neighbours.
You sad pathetic weirdo, actually scanning her finger for a ring.
GET.A.LIFE

Don't be so ridiculous.
Maybe she goes out to some "hobby" once a week, maybe she goes to some kind of religious service and dresses up nicely for that, maybe she works with the bloke and it's some kind of social evening/meal out for a few workmates.
There could be all sorts of innocent explanations and none of them are any of your business.

If I was her, I’d have noticed you two gawping at me and would totally ramp up my outfit and makeup just to give you something to gossip about, and my OH would know all about it. You’d provide us with endless entertainment.

Wind your necks in.

Gosh, are you going to report me? Not long dropped my friend off -- we've been out for a chin-wag and meal, as I drive past I pick her up. However I did turn my engine off as we chatted outside for about 25 minutes - not seen her for a couple of months so lots of gossip to catch up on - 2 deaths, one wedding I didn't go to, a 60th party she missed (loads of gossip there) and that's aside from the family/mundane news, she did keep saying come in for a coffee but I kept saying no, I really must go etc.

Where do I start with this?
Gossips and sticky beaks rule the roost
Advice to the op - stop looking for, believing and perpetuating gossip

Stop curtain twitching and get a life

Absolutely none of your business!!

This sounds like a 70s sit-com. Yes, of course the neighbour’s wearing tight dresses and high heels. Stick around folks, the lover will probably be seen jumping out of a bedroom window, clutching his trousers.

🤨

Yes, morally you should definitely say something OP.

Go outside and tell your neighbour and her gentleman caller to switch of the car engine.

They should not leave it running when parked.

Bad for planet.

Mind your business and get a life. It’s nothing to do with you. Stop curtain twitching and get a hobby

Morally, you should mind your own business.
I can’t believe it.is that how you justify being so nosy?

Ballrooms dancing.
Amateur dramatics.
Choir.
Keeping up with the ladies at Rotary.
Women's Institute.
Avon lady.
Meeting her elderly mother who likes to keep up appearances.
Woman on earlier thread who won’t be seen dead outside without putting on makeup and nice clothes.
Regular night out with the girls.

I would go on, but I’m bored now.

M.Y.O.B, Agatha. 🤦‍♀️🙄

And get a hobby.

Well, it’s true nothing says Ripe For Adultery like wearing perfume. Your DH needs to work harder from behind the hedge, though. Can he not even identify if it’s Miss Dior or Good Girl?

What a nosy twat

Of course she’s going out when her DH isn’t at home. When my DH is out or working late I often go out rather than be stuck at home alone. Even more so before I had kids FFS.

It is probably a friend picking her up and dropping her home. Women can have male friends you know!

Goodness me.

OP, if you won't take the "none of your business" arguments, think about it this way:

Currently you have a certain relationship with your neighbours.

If you do what you are proposing, then whatever the truth of the matter, you will have a very different relationship with them, for as long as you live next door to each other.

If you want to cross that Rubicon then fine. But there is no going back. Anything you might say is never, ever going to be forgotten.

Get a life! Stay out of it nothing to do with you!

Do you drive OP? Could you not follow the car?

This just reminded me of one of the best ads ever:

Really? So the fact I'm not married to my partner of 16 years means it's more likely one of us would have an affair...okaay. You've even further reinforced that you need to keep your beaks out for me.

Oh my god - surely this is a troll post! Mind your own business.

Nah - she's having an affair. Done up like a Christmas tree and >whispers< wearing perfume!

Is your name Margot by any chance?

I'm not sure why I'm bothering posting as you seem to be completely ignoring what others have said. But I will say this: I don't drive and ha e a friend that sometimes gives me a lift home from work or picks me up/drops off to a joint hobby of ours. We have been friends for almost two decades and he's one of my closest friends. We chat in the car for ages. My husband has no issues with our friendship, or the friendships I have with other men (or vice versa).

However, in my experience, 'outing' a perfectly innocent series of interactions could have serious consequences for someone in an abusive relationship. Regardless of how nice you think your male neighbour is, you know nothing about him or their relationship. If an affair is indeed ongoing, it'll come to light at some point. You do not and should not get involved.