Neighbour having an affair - do I report my suspicions?

[AmzJS]

We live next to a couple - lady is probably mid/late 30’s, the man in his 40’s. They don’t have children.

Both are pleasant, and the man does shift work - one week a month he leaves early evening and works into the following day (we often hear his car pull up in the early hours).

DH and I have both noticed over recent months that a couple of times a week when her partner is on lates, the lady will be picked up by a car (the same one) around 6.30/7pm (she doesn’t drive) and not return until closer to midnight - the car will usually linger outside with the engine running as they are in it chatting.

With the lighter evenings, we’ve noticed that on these occasions she is always ‘done up’ in make up and wearing flattering outfits - tight dresses, heels etc. On one occasion, my DH was out the front and he said there was an over bearing smell of perfume. She rarely appears like this at any other time when her partner is home.

She has gone out again tonight and we’ve noticed her - again the same car, and her all dressed up.

We are convinced she is having an affair, it has all the hallmarks and it’s too much of a coincidence to only be when her partner is working lates.

I feel like morally, I should say something - but I don’t want to put my foot in it. Would anyone have ideas on how to approach this?

If there's one thing worse than a nosey neighbour, it's a nosey neighbour who doesn't understand the meaning of discretion.

Can we all go to the OPs house, ring bells and shout 'SHAME' every time the lady appears dressed nicely ??

Yeah. I read that and just 🙄.

I bet she has seen you curtain-twitching and is doing it to wind you up…

Seriously… this could be me- I get dressed up to play in concerts once a week and I’m dropped back and have a good old chat with my mate in the car! There are so many things this could be.

I would advise you to get passionate about something in your own life so that you’re not tempted to twitch that curtain so much…

Fool’s gold.

Yes of course you’re right! I’m almost disappointed!

So your neighbour tells you they think your DH is having an affair. You would say: 'thankyou so much neighbour for your vigilence'. What would your DH say? Would he be pleased they'd brought this suspicion to your door and that they'd been watching him and speculating on his behaviour as immoral for weeks? Can you be 100% sure she is having an affair? Would he stay with her anyway? Would you be putting her or the alleged affair partner in danger? Just ignore it and find something else to watch in the evenings.

Getting involved in this would not be my idea of fun but each to their own 😆

Wow you are SO cheeky. Mind your own business. Typical busybody neighbour.

I cannot tell you how much I would dislike a neighbour like you. You seem to do a lot of ‘spotting’. Way too much to list here.

Mrs Busybody suggest you keep your nose well and truly out of the neighbors business, and get a life of your own at the same time.

Next time they’re both together you could “innocently” say “ You looked very dressed up on Thursday evening when you went out Jane, did you go somewhere nice?” Then you could smirk and nudge your husband.

Is there an affairs hotline you can report her to?

All she’s done is dress nicely and gone out when her husband is at work - do you think wives should stay in alone and await their husband to return?!. If she was going out in her scruffs would you have these suspicions?! You need to learn to respect your neighbours and give them some
privacy. You sound my curtain twitching neighbours - your neighbours will know you watch them and they will resent you for it- and they will also have a less than flattering nick name for you

You don't know anything except that a woman dresses and wears makeup to go out with person that she lingers and chats with after. You haven't seen her shagging, cheating, kissing. You also know nothing about their relationship. You don't know what boundaries they have or don't have.

Congratulations, @AmzJS . You have to be one of the most unreasonable people to post on this site, and it's a pretty dense field to choose from.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Get a fucking life.

Good God, no. Just no.

Several things - you don't know her DP is a 'nice' man. She may well be working, and for whatever reason doesn't want him to know so is doing so when he's not at home. You could dump her in several tonnes of the sticky stuff if you tell him this.
One of my friends in a croupier, and often shares lifts to/from work with a friend. You'd probably think she was at it if you saw her going out dressed up the same evenings each week.
IF this is serious, ffs OP get a hobby that doesn't involve spying and snitching.

I get picked up all the time by a male friend. I usually look dressed up on these occasions. Why? Because I'm going to meetings for a volunteer group we both are members of. I dress up because I look like a slob half the week working at home so if I'm attending a meeting I look smart for a change

you possibly could be the incredibly nosy woman opposite my house who even comments when we have been to the car wash...'oh you've had it cleaned, I did think it needed a wash'

Get a life

You’ve interpreted whatever she is doing as “having an affair”. Honestly, there could be a million explanations and you’ve just gone to the lowest. It’s interfering people like yourself that get others into unnecessary trouble. Mind your own business. Get yourself a life. Who do you think you are.

@AmzJS my dh has a camouflage suit that makes you look like a tree!! you can stand near the edge of her garden!!

Loose lips sink ships. Don’t say nothing bout nothing to no one 👍

To consider wrecking someone's marriage on baseless opinions, is disgusting. Leave them alone