To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

My house, my sofa, my bed, my standards.
How does that affect you, and why are you so worked up about it?

Do I need therapy for my day PJ wearing? Or do you need therapy to deal with seeing people like me?

I agree, it's slovenly and no need for it. I've seen parents wearing PJs sat in their cars to drop kids off and it screams lazy, going back to bed, have done the minimum to get kids to school.

Of course, please always excusing those who have MH issues, but I know these Mums didn't.

My in laws think nothing of popping across the road to visit each other in the afternoon after waking up and then to the shop in their PJs and I've had to bite my tongue that it's just awful.

Going to visit them after working all day (yes, they're on benefits) and they've not changed out of PJs, complaining about any minor ailment and the new ugg boots aren't the best.

Strewth...

And some people have mental health problems which is what xenobitch was talking about. Being able to get out the door trumps someone's 'basic human standards'.

I have never seen adults go to breakfast in a hotel in their pyjamas. Get dressed ffs.

There is an area near me where it seems that all the women and children go shopping in their pyjamas. They wear slippers and use their dressing gowns like coats. I don't mean popping to the corner shop (although that is bad enough) but properly going in and out of various shops to do your weekly shop.

However, if you walk 30mins in the other direction, you come to an area where everyone is always impeccably dressed, not expensively dressed, but shoes are always polished and everything is ironed. I regularly see a woman there who I can't imagine even eats breakfast at home without being fully dressed.

Such differences in each of the communities.

Basic human standards like empathy, understanding and kindness?

Or basic human standards like moral superiority?

Being a nurse. Living in or around hospital accommodation for 15years.

I agree about having a shower and clean clothes

youve completely lost me saying women should wear make up and jewellery on the school run YABVU

Its definitely a recent phenomenon, the wearing of nightclothes out in the day. It's not just common or garden slobbishness: people have been wearing tracksuit bottoms and hoodies out for decades. It's a particular "uniform": a dressing gown with pyjama bottoms and slippers, almost always of the giant novelty variety.

There's something a bit self-conscious and "look at me, I'm so chilled and don't give a fuck" about it which I find irritating. It's one thing not to want to put a suit on to go to Tesco but how long does it take to stick on some jeans and a hoodie? Why not just spend an extra 30 seconds to not look a twat?

I’ve never seen any of this but I do agree with you it’s not good for the children to see mum not bothering to wash and dress before going out.

i have been extremely unwell this year and one day I took my son on the bus to school and I was wearing the t shirt I had slept in. I had a jacket over it so no one would know but I did feel very lazy. I think for a one off I can allow myself that though.

i suppose if you were very sick and could only stagger to the school in night clothes that could be understood.

I’ve never seen this at a hotel though. And I couldn’t do this.

I don’t wear jewellery EVER. I don’t know why my worth would be in any way defined by what metal I have hanging from me.

I always see night clothes, PJs etc as 'private clothing'. Thats for you, your closest family etc to see you in. The items that you wear in your home and house, in bed at night, in your private space. Thats why I think its not appropriate for going out and about with.

I think we both need therapy 😂

It’s hard to explain. I’m not coming from a place of snobbery, I don’t look immaculate every time I go out the door so it isn’t that.

it’s a genuine worry I have that people who wear pjs and slippers outside will traipse remnants of dog poo and other peoples pubes around their house!

Going to breakfast in a hotel in your pj's is grim. Just put on a tshirt and trousers, it's not hard. Have some dignity.

The only time I think its sometimes acceptable is when there is a large group of children (eg school children on a trip) with adults trying to coral them. I completely understand why they find it easier to make them get dressed after breakfast.

What's happened to basic standards of decorum everywhere in this country? How do children feel that their carer/parents can't be bothered to dress in an appropriate way to drop them off at school?

Yes... so doing it to go to the supermarket or to school is definitely a not so subtle fuck you. It's childish and self-indulgent.

Maybe it’s regional because working at a hospital for 10 years work many many nurse friends, none of them would be seen dead in their pjs and the women most likely to be seen in pjs in Asda are definitely not nurses.

How are we differentiating between sleepwear and loungewear? My comfy/house/loungewear clothes could be another's sleepwear.

You don't need to engage with comments like that. Especially when you struggle with a lot of hard stuff every day as it is.

I don't think I would describe wearing pjs out and about as disgusting as some have, but is it lazy? Yes. It takes 30 secs tops to put on some sweatpants and hoodie.

I'd hate that in an hotel. It makes the strangers staying there become familiar some how, like being at home.
The only person I've seen in full night wear in a supermarket, was wearing full make up, oddly. Heavy foundation with full shading, lashes, hair done, the lot.
Maybe when she'd gone round to the next aisle, she took selfies.

There was a young woman taking selfies at the Aldi self serve recently. I wondered what the hell she was doing at first, throwing her head back with her arm in the air. All while I was waiting for a free till.

We were in a hotel near gatwick last year, eating some dinner in the cafe/restaurant, a group of about 5 young women, all came in, PJs which actually looked like they'd just been sleeping in them, massive slippers, massive dressing gowns, hair in rollers, to sit and eat their dinner. Bloody awful. Ridiculous.

Why would you wear pj’s to Tesco?
That’s just slobby.

Because, as a PP said, sleepwear has an intimacy that loungewear (I hate that word) doesn't have. Its private.

So wearing it to the shops is a bit like going out in a basque and a suspender belt. It's deliberately taking something private and designed for a small group of people's eyes only and making it performative.

Indeed - the Victorians might have sent children up chimneys but at least they always did so well dressed, eh? 🙄