To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

We have two patients who come to the surgery on pjs. But it's ok, they have their dressing gowns on!

I saw it in a hotel for the first time recently. But she had Louis Vuitton stilettos as well so definitely can’t call that slovenly😀

Laziness and I would ban it if owned an establishment that people turned up in PJ’s to

I’m exactly the same as the OP. I get up earlier to wear reasonably smart (ironed but that’s another discussion) clothes. I have always showered and I put on my jewellery and some make up and then I wake my children for school. I feel fresh and ready for the day. On a weekend I may chill about in pjs with dh and the kids but by mid morning I’ve had enough and I’m in the shower and my routine begins. Pjs in shops is a real thing and personally I can’t bear it. It’s just so basic and frankly looks smelly.

I just assume people wearing pj's in public are suffering from depression.

“I'm just reporting hearsay about the Tesco and school run”

so misogynistic bollocks then!

Yup, agree 100%. Grim and slovenly. I pretty much never wear makeup and have a limited wardrobe but like most people I can tell the difference between day clothes and pyjamas.

It’s just so basic and frankly looks smelly.

I don’t wear pyjamas to the supermarket but does it really matter if something LOOKS smelly, as long as it doesn’t SMELL smelly?

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, what's the difference in terms of covering your bits between pyjama's and joggers and a t shirt ( I sometimes sleep in a t shirt and joggers to add confusion)

I can genuinely say that, in all my many many years or school runs - in Essex if all places - I never once saw anyone in pyjamas. I am well travelled. Again, no breakfast pyjamas to report.

All the moms I see on the school run are dashing to get to work , no pjs seen ever

ive worn pjs often to Tesco’s no one’s been harmed

The PJs in the hotel wouldn’t bother me but the others would.

How appalling and what a bad example.

Why?

I was going to vote YANBU because of course it’s lazy bastard behaviour to stroll around shops ect in pyjamas…
But then you brought being middle class into it, it’s twat behaviour for anyone doing it, rich , poor or inbetween.

Although I wouldn’t judge someone too harshly for wearing PJs in a shop because I have known people who have been in labour and stopped on the way to hospital etc and didn’t change out of their PJs.

If I saw someone at the school gates being in their pjs as a one off, I’d assume there was a reason rather than being lazy but if I saw them regularly then I’d think they were lazy.

You may be right. People round here don't wear pyjamas in public.

Normally I would be really judgemental about it, but I also swore I'd never leave the house wearing leggings without a skirt to cover. Yet here I am, 2nd trimester, a bit ill, nothing fits, knackered, and so out I was yesterday in my longest jumper and leggings...

I wouldn’t do it but I can’t get worked up about it. In these WFH times, I do sometimes think - as I’m changing out of the navy blue Hush leggings and raglan tee that I slept in, into a nearly identical pair of Hush leggings and tee that is my WFH clothes - who the hell am I kidding?

If these are clothes that have actually been slept in then that’s skanky. If these are clean PJ’s for lounging then I have less of an issue with it. It’s not as if the only alternative is wearing a shirt and tie.

It’s a bit slovenly isn’t it

I’ve dropped my dc to school whilst in my pjs but I don’t get out of the car to drop them so no one knows to be fair 😅 If I had to get out of the car i wouldn’t do it…

It's totally unnecessary to wear make up, jewellery or nice clothes in public, but wearing pyjamas or dressing gown in a shop is disgusting.
I'd never seen it in real life before, but I went into my local ( nice)village small Tesco a couple of days ago at 6pm and a young woman was wandering round with a fluffy dressing gown and slippers on, I did a double take as first of all I couldn't quite believe my eyes. I just wondered why she couldn't have thrown some actual clothes on. I assume she came from the very large new build estate that is being built on the outside of the village, it's got 30% social housing apparently, maybe that type of behaviour is acceptable amongst that group of people.
I know that a couple of years ago, in a large Tesco in the part of the nearest city where there's a huge traveller site and lots of social housing, the store put up notices specifically asking people not to go to the store in nightwear.

School I do find a bit disrespectful. It’s basically telling the teachers you expect them to graft and teach your children all day whilst you slob about. And giving children the message they have to look smart and work but you can just rock up and then go back to bed. Disrespectful really. Other places I can’t see the harm unless someone stinks or looks indecent in some way. If it’s 2am and someone has gone to tesco to buy essentials then so what.

PJ's are a bit much. I wouldn't want my children to go out of the house in PJ's, so why would I?

I don't however think you need make up and to look 'pristine'. Some jogging bottoms and a T-shirt are fine, and the only reason people think otherwise is a mix of classism and misogyny. Women don't owe the world prettiness and constantly nice clothes.

The only reason to feel like you need a full face of make up to go out is a direct result of patriarchy. Men don't have to get up earlier to put make up on, so neither do I.

Looking presentable (hair brushed, clean face, clean clothes) is a very basic requirement and is very different from the pressure to look 'nice'.

I personally don't care if you're out shopping alone at 9pm. It's different at a school as your child will care and you want to set an example.