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To think that women (or men) who drop their kids off at school in PJS, go shopping in Tesco in pj's and come down to the breakfast in a hotel in pj's are wrong in the head?

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YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:22

I visited Amsterdam last year and was shocked to see an apparently middle class women coming down to breakfast in her pj's,dressing gown and slippers. Similarly going round Tescos where there are people, especially women in pj's and slippers. No doubt I'll be called an old right wing fascist or something.

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Jellyrols · 29/05/2025 20:25

Have never seen this or heard of it in real life.

UnhappyHobbit · 29/05/2025 20:26

I am quite particular with indoor clothes and outdoor clothes. I always wonder if these people in pjs and slippers, then get back into their house and walk around dirtying their carpets and then in to their bed, bringing outside dirt and general peoples bacteria in their home and bed!?

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:26

starrynight009 · 29/05/2025 20:17

There's one mum at our school who drops her son off at school in her pyjamas every single morning. I heard her laughing with another mum about it once, saying she had changed her pyjamas before coming out that day at least. I don't get it. If she has time to change her pyjamas, she has time to put some jeans and a jumper on! She is a very lazy parent though.

Seems like she's taking the p**ss.

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AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:26

I nearly got married in PJs. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Navyblueberries · 29/05/2025 20:28

I've never done tescos or breakfast in pyjamas but I admit I love it in winter sometimes when you can just put on a big coat and a hat for the school run. I've been known to do it wearing the tshirt I've slept in the night before and no bra. Can't get away with that in the spring/summer though.

TheOriginalEmu · 29/05/2025 20:28

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Zebedee999 · 29/05/2025 20:28

Good grief 20% think it's ok to wear PJs in the supermarket etc.

I bet it correlates very well to the 26% of Brits that have tattoos.....

NorthernLoon · 29/05/2025 20:29

I don't think it's appropriate to wear PJs out of the house, and I do think it's disrespectful to teachers and schoolkids to wear them on the school run. But if the thread was about, say mini skirts or low cut tops, I'd be defending people's right to wear what they like. So perhaps I have a weird double standard here.
In any case, you're coming across very judgemental, with a very high opinion of yourself, OP. And I think that's a worse look than PJs.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:29

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My DH earns over £100k a year. Regularly does an entire day’s work in PJs. (Works from home, never needs to be on camera.)

Why the fuck shouldn’t he?

recipientofraspberries · 29/05/2025 20:29

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wow...

Lovemybunnies · 29/05/2025 20:29

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:33

I'm just reporting hearsay about the Tesco and school run, though as I said I have seen the pj's in the Amsterdam Hotel. Another hotel I visited recently had a sign saying, please come to the breakfast area suitably attired. I would feel embarrassed to go out wearing my pjs 🙃

I have seen someone in pj’s and slippers in our local Waitrose and on the bus stop taking children to the school bus.

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:30

My question is: why do you not have even basic pride in yourself or care about your child? If you have no care for yourself, does this mean your child is neglected, unwashed and not suitably dressed?

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Sauvin · 29/05/2025 20:30

The most irritated I’ve ever been on here was reading a thread about someone who went round to friends for a dinner party and the hosts were in their PJs. So many posters couldn’t see anything wrong with it!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 29/05/2025 20:30

I have never done it, but I almost admire their nerve.

Tbh, if they’re covered up and not showing their arse etc, it doesn’t seem an issue to me. Better than the guys in shorts, sliders and no top you get in the summer!

Dangermoo · 29/05/2025 20:31

Zebedee999 · 29/05/2025 20:28

Good grief 20% think it's ok to wear PJs in the supermarket etc.

I bet it correlates very well to the 26% of Brits that have tattoos.....

I would have voted YANBU but I don't care for OP's manner and her judgemental tone. Too hectic in her posting style for my liking.

MincePiesAndStilton · 29/05/2025 20:31

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:33

I'm just reporting hearsay about the Tesco and school run, though as I said I have seen the pj's in the Amsterdam Hotel. Another hotel I visited recently had a sign saying, please come to the breakfast area suitably attired. I would feel embarrassed to go out wearing my pjs 🙃

Maybe you need nicer PJs 🤷🏻‍♀️

Shellianotwheels · 29/05/2025 20:31

Lazy classless behaviour.

Springhassprungxx · 29/05/2025 20:31

Completely agree OP - used to work in a shop and we often said what on earth would the Victorians have thought! So lazy and doesn't set the tone for the day very well.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:32

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:30

My question is: why do you not have even basic pride in yourself or care about your child? If you have no care for yourself, does this mean your child is neglected, unwashed and not suitably dressed?

ODFOD.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:32

Springhassprungxx · 29/05/2025 20:31

Completely agree OP - used to work in a shop and we often said what on earth would the Victorians have thought! So lazy and doesn't set the tone for the day very well.

Why are you of the belief that Victorian values were in any way superior?!

Discombobble · 29/05/2025 20:32

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 19:28

How does a child feel being dropped off at school by a parent who can't even make an effort to look presentable. Personally, I don't go out unless I have make up on and am wearing jewellery and nice clothes. What's wrong with that?

Clean clothes and brushed hair, yes. Can’t see the need for makeup, jewellery and ‘nice clothes’ to go to Tesco!

YourAmplePlumPoster · 29/05/2025 20:33

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 29/05/2025 20:29

My DH earns over £100k a year. Regularly does an entire day’s work in PJs. (Works from home, never needs to be on camera.)

Why the fuck shouldn’t he?

Your DH works from home. I'm talking about people who venture out and drop their kids off at school.

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Hubblebubble · 29/05/2025 20:34

I often do pick up with hair still wet from the pool, i do sometimes worry i look dreadful, but I've got an ironman to train for and I'm on a tight schedule.

Needmorelego · 29/05/2025 20:35

Oh the weekly PJs in public thread.
Yawn.

TheCurious0range · 29/05/2025 20:35

I wouldn't wear pyjamas in any of those scenarios, but I don't think I'd bat an eye at a hotel breakfast. As long as they were covered. If staying in a hotel for work I will quite often shower then put on leggings/jeans and a jumper go down for breakfast then go back up to my room to do my hair and get ready for work.

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