Do you leave meals for grandparents when they're babysitting

[Jellyrose20]

I've just returned to work after mat leave and we have various grandparents helping out with childcare for my baby which I'm very lucky to have.

I'm getting mixed messaged from them as to whether I should be leaving them lunch to have.

Two of them have stated they'll bring their own food as they feel it's unfair to ask me to prepare something.

The other has asked I leave her something in the fridge and has been specific about what they will and won't eat.

I'm happy either way but I'm wondering what the done thing is.

Yabu - I leave them a prepared lunch

Yanbu- I would not prepare them a lunch

Well obviously one wants it and the other doesn't - it's not a question of what's the done thing. My PILs appreciate an easy to cook dinner as they are elderly. Sometimes they take the DC out for a pizza rather than cook but that's their choice. I'd always leave them with food. My DM would have whipped something up from what was in the fridge but she was better at that kind of thing.