To have asked him to talk properly around DS?

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DH has a strong “old Yorkshire” accent and says some words that drive me up the wall. But it matters more now as DS is starting to say these words and I don’t want him talking like this. It’s not snobby - I too have a Yorkshire accent but these words are so old fashioned that literally nobody says them anymore.

DS asked me this morning if we could go to park to feed the bods for example.

Another time he told me he’d seen Osses with dad. He’s already saying things like “I don’t right know” and “hey up”. In fact “hey up” is starting to become his greeting rather than hello. Even hi would be better. People laugh because it’s cute but when he gets to school kids can be cruel (or “wrong ‘uns” as DH would say).

I have asked DH to start talking properly and he thinks I’m being a snob. AIBU to want my kid to talk properly?

I have family in Yorkshire and lots around them still say those phrases

stop being a snob

I'm northern and my mum was a language snob, constantly correcting my speech to the point where kids as school thought I was "posh" and didn't properly fit in. My DH is American and although our DCs mainly speak with a UK accent, they'll occasionally use his pronunciation. I don't ever correct it because that would undermine their dad. Just let your DS play with language if that's what he's interested in. Why do you need to control how he speaks?

I immigrated to Scotland before having children so my children are 1st generation Scottish. They've picked up all sorts of phrases from their friends and I think it's lovely - this is where they are from and they should be proud of it.

This ^

I think it's fine, it's not like he's reading the news or speaking a totally different regional accent to all the other locals.

We don't live oop north but after viewing Wallace and Gromit over Christmas one year, DS was tired one day at nursery. They said to him, 'Are you feeling tired?' He replied 'I'm cream crackered'. 🤣

Hahaha 🤣

If “kid” is wrong we’d better tell John Lewis and M&S. Both have a “Kids” section.

Oh yes, unreasonable op! I used to work up in Northumberland, and I worked with a young, and very cool bloke, who used to say 'now then', instead of hello. I thought it was fab. I wish I could pull it off, but I sound way too RP for that. Family come from Yorkshire though. Fabulous accent.

I’ll leave that to you, I’m a little busy.

I don’t mind “kid”. I think it’s fallen into common usage.

I’m in a couple of minds about the OP’s posts. On the one hand, I think strong regional accents are part of our collective history and are worth preserving. On the other hand, I am someone who says “For heaven’s sake, it’s “water”, not “wa’er”, “bottle”, not “bo’le”” to my children. When my daughter comes home from an activity and uses a mangled south coast / Estuary / London phrase, I tell her that we don’t speak that way. So I can see why the OP feels the way she does.

because mine have been exposed to English as a foreigner (they have never lived in UK) they have learned a lot of their speech from podcasts, TV and so on. So they write "mom" and so on. I don't bother "correcting" it either, it is just... English.

What’s wrong with you?! This is brilliant!!