To have asked him to talk properly around DS?

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DH has a strong “old Yorkshire” accent and says some words that drive me up the wall. But it matters more now as DS is starting to say these words and I don’t want him talking like this. It’s not snobby - I too have a Yorkshire accent but these words are so old fashioned that literally nobody says them anymore.

DS asked me this morning if we could go to park to feed the bods for example.

Another time he told me he’d seen Osses with dad. He’s already saying things like “I don’t right know” and “hey up”. In fact “hey up” is starting to become his greeting rather than hello. Even hi would be better. People laugh because it’s cute but when he gets to school kids can be cruel (or “wrong ‘uns” as DH would say).

I have asked DH to start talking properly and he thinks I’m being a snob. AIBU to want my kid to talk properly?

As someone from Birmingham, a place with an unfairly mocked accent, yabu. Don't discourage lovely regional words and phrases or they will disappear.

I live somewhere different to the two places my parents were brought up. I have an accent that belongs where I live, but still (at 55) use words from my childhood that don't belong here.

I can't say it's ever been anything more than an occasional discussion point.

Once your son starts school he will start talking with the same accent as the other kids. I have never spoken with my parents' northern accents, as I have only lived in the south since starting school.

I have to say I do love a Geordie accent,very lyrical.My lovely Nanma was a Geordie and the only words I could understand as a child were “hen” and “eeh hars owa Tom”😊

Where does it say he's exaggerating for effect?

I’m from Sheffield, though didn’t grow up there, dh did and has a reyt strong accent. But some of the words/pronunciations that I remember from my Dad and from living there 30 years ago are vanishing, and I find that sad. Mainly due to all accents blanding out due to media and also because of attitudes like this. Yes, I think grammar and “speaking proper” has its place, but this is his culture,if you like. He’ll learn that ‘ey up’ isn’t suitable in all situations, but honestly, it’s better than the grunts I’d get greeted with at school. We’re told to celebrate diversity, so why not celebrate the fabulous wealth of regional accents?

YABU and yes, a snob.

Your child will code-switch as he gets older. He will be perfectly capable of speaking in standard English when he needs to and a Yorkshire dialect when he doesn't.

I'm not from Yorkshire but I do have a strong regional accent and there are lots of dialect words and sentence constructions I'd use with my family, partner etc that I'd say very differently at (eg) work.

Preserving language and dialect is a good thing and it's great that your child knows the dialect of the place he's from.

Who are you to say whether someone's exaggerating for effect? Are you some sort of regional accent ombudsman?

Is it eck as like

it is bad for children to see these spellings

It isn't bad for them at all. It helps them to understand different nuances of language and dialect. It's a good thing.

It’s not the accent I have an issue with as such, it’s the words like “bods” for birds and “osses” for horses.

“do ya want bog?” As an example of phrases I’d rather him not repeat and yes he does say “let’s go shop” and “get in’t baffroom”

“do ya want bog?”

That would be grounds for divorce. Or preferably matricide.

Don't you mean patricide?

Just out of curiosity, how do you pronounce Bucket OP?

Sorry how would you pronounce it not like auntie aircraft gun…

"Bog" for loo is considered coarse even in Yorkshire? My mum would never have stood for that, although she uses lots of Yorkshire words, and my Grandad who was a proper old Yorkshire builder would never have said with the family.

Arrntie...in the South....

Is this your husband…..

Agree that it matters whether you are living in Yorkshire? When your DS goes to school he will develop the accept of his peers anyway. We live in a Yorkshire city, neither DH or I are from Yorkshire and DS has the strongest Bradford accent. I never correct the accent/ dialect, but I will correct lazy language "summot" instead on "something", and "nowt" instead of "nothing".

Gee over lass.

Be thankful he’s not strutting around with some awful faux Jamaican gangster talk going on.

Having a regional accent is fine.

I love this campaign. It celebrates the identity of Sheffield just as local communities and identities should be celebrated.

Yes, you’re being a snob. Except for “do you want bog” - that’s vile.

But the rest is just dialect and in many ways has quite a lot of charm, given the homogenisation of language that comes from an increasingly shrinking world.

It's aye up..
I'm a Yorkshire lass.
Not Broad like Barnsley ( think Jane Mcdonald.. l lived on her road.. but she's sold up now.. I'm still here).
I don't think there is anything wrong in it.
Have a walk around Barnsley market.. or watch casualty 24/7.. even the Doctors and nurses have the strong accent..and use common sayings and words

Apart from "do ya want bog" every single one of your examples is just him using a different dialect and accent to you.

He's not "wrong" - just different.

Maybe you shouldn't have married him if it was such an issue

Your child will grow up with a blend of your accent and your DH’s.

That’s if your DH doesn’t get tired of you complaining about him being common and bin you off for someone who actually likes him.