To have asked him to talk properly around DS?

[CujoOn]

DH has a strong “old Yorkshire” accent and says some words that drive me up the wall. But it matters more now as DS is starting to say these words and I don’t want him talking like this. It’s not snobby - I too have a Yorkshire accent but these words are so old fashioned that literally nobody says them anymore.

DS asked me this morning if we could go to park to feed the bods for example.

Another time he told me he’d seen Osses with dad. He’s already saying things like “I don’t right know” and “hey up”. In fact “hey up” is starting to become his greeting rather than hello. Even hi would be better. People laugh because it’s cute but when he gets to school kids can be cruel (or “wrong ‘uns” as DH would say).

I have asked DH to start talking properly and he thinks I’m being a snob. AIBU to want my kid to talk properly?

I love regional accents and slang.
It makes life interesting.

You’ll miss these days when your son is either responding with grunts or talking patois.

I have to say YABU. We're born and bred in Yorkshire and round here, if you don't know the lingo or understand a broad Yorkshire accent you're going to spend much of your days confused.

Are you in Yorkshire? I think that’s important. One of my cousins has a very strong regional accent, he’s a teacher. It does strike me as odd. When I was first teaching, it was in a different area to mine and the kids quickly corrected my pronunciation. I know when we move I’ll find the regional accent interesting and the students will think I’m well spoken. I’ve just had the corners knocked off my original accent by living abroad etc.

"I have asked DH to start talking properly and he thinks I’m being a snob."
The fact that you call it 'talking properly' is a bit of a giveaway. So yes, there is some snobbery in there.

So you're worried about your son being teased when he gets to school if he speaks local dialect? Have you considered the alternative scenario - that he may be teased if he 'talks posh'? There is absolutely no way to predict which way the future will go.

I would suggest you relax a bit about dialect / accent. Everyone speaks in multiple ways depending on who they are speaking to. Their mates, their teacher, their grandmother. We all do it. Your son will too. He'll pick up his dad's way of speaking, and he'll pick up your way of speaking; and he'll be able to do both, depending on which he subconsciously considers appropriate to his situation.

So - it'll be fine. Don't worry.

It's not incorrect, it's local dialect.

If we didn't have local dialect/slang how would we have the Great British Bread Roll Debate?

My Dad moved to Sheffield (where to my ear, having Yorkshire GPs, the accent isn't that broad) from Kent, as a young man and reckons he stood in a bus queue and couldn't understand a word, as if he was in a foreign country.

Its a difficult one but I have tried to prevent my DCs having a strong Black Country accent.

I think speaking in a dialect can affect job prospects and how people see you generally. One of my nieces can code switch between standard English with an accent and the local dialect, but her sisters can’t and it does cause problems sometimes.

You're being a snob, yes. Regional accents are precious & should be protected.

I too like a regional accent but not when it’s deliberately exaggerated.My husband is originally from East Anglia(the fens).whenever we have visitors he exaggerates his accent to ridiculous proportions and it drives me nuts.BTW none of his family ,sister,mother speak like this even though they were brought up together.He says “hoss,(horse)hairple(apple).He sounds like the bloody singing postman😂😂

Can you explain what's incorrect in the examples of the OP gives?

literally nobody says them anymore. Your DH does 🤷🏾‍♀️.

My Mum is Yorkshire, we're in the SE. DC just switched when they were young. So if they were reading and she told them a word was "bath", they'd repeat it as barth, leading to a memorable moment when DS1 pronounced anti-aircraft gun as auntie aircraft gun ....

It’s not the accents a such it’s when it’s exaggerated for effect.My brother in law is Yorkshire born and he has a lovely accent.

Huh? OP hasn't said anything about deliberate exaggeration.

Hev yew gotta loight boy! I used to love the singing postman when I was a kid. I'm not from East Anglia, I'm from the South West but there are similarities.

Does he say things like “I seen it” or “I’m going shop”? Instead of “I saw it” or “I’m going to the shop”, as I think those things do need to pulled up so that your DS learns to speak (and write) properly.

This has really made me chuckle, where we're from it's all thick, broad Yorkshire accents and phrases like "put t'wood int oyle" "fish oyle" "waggins and cushins" and "aye, reckon thas tha way'o'it". I've got family from up and down the country and they say the same - you need an interpreter to go to Tesco!

You can’t tell him how to speak, simple as that.

@CujoOn as long as your child knows what the correct terminology is and how it’s pronounced in the Queens English and spelt also which I imagine he will from his general reading and spelling tests, I wouldn’t worry too much. Sounds like your chid has command of characterful language which is great! 😊

When we used to visit Yorkshire GPs (dad met mum while he was in Sheffield) they and their friends used to call us "posh" without awful (IMO) Estuary English. Whatever we sound like, it's not posh, but we've got southern vowels.

I agree, those things drive me mad. I particularly loathe 'go shop'/'go Sainsburys' etc. Is it so fucking hard to put another tiny word in?!

YABU. I thought you were going to be talking about inappropriate language or incorrect grammar. But an accent? Nothing wrong with that. I live somewhere where people have a completely different accent from mine, and when they were young my kids did pronounce some words the way I do. They soon grew out of it of course and now talk like everyone else around here.

Of course it’s snobby! Your poor husband