To have asked him to talk properly around DS?

[CujoOn]

DH has a strong “old Yorkshire” accent and says some words that drive me up the wall. But it matters more now as DS is starting to say these words and I don’t want him talking like this. It’s not snobby - I too have a Yorkshire accent but these words are so old fashioned that literally nobody says them anymore.

DS asked me this morning if we could go to park to feed the bods for example.

Another time he told me he’d seen Osses with dad. He’s already saying things like “I don’t right know” and “hey up”. In fact “hey up” is starting to become his greeting rather than hello. Even hi would be better. People laugh because it’s cute but when he gets to school kids can be cruel (or “wrong ‘uns” as DH would say).

I have asked DH to start talking properly and he thinks I’m being a snob. AIBU to want my kid to talk properly?

I have to say I agree with you. Local accents are lovely but speaking ‘properly’ is important

She’s got a kid apparently, not a child…..

But wants DH to talk properly ….

You refer to your child as a kid though? Is that “proper”?

I can't see how regional words/pronunciations like “bods” for birds, “osses” for horses and “get in’t baffroom” are the same as/problematic like “do ya want bog?” (which is a bit coarse, I grant you) and “let’s go shop” (as I've just ranted about )

Genuinely can't see the problem with that. It's funny and it celebrates the way people actually speak. I'd imagine the kids are completely capable of also knowing standard English spellings.

Aye....kids normally bleat, not speak.

#TeamCob here too, although oddly I didn't know the word until we moved to Derbyshire when I was a kid, even though my mum is actually from the Black Country; she never used it

You sound a bit triggered dear,maybe have a nice cup of tea.

Eeeh, bah gum, what a to-do.

I think you mean a nice brew

Ey up me duck

or alternatively (I moved 30 years ago) haway pet

"Hello" wasn't originally a greeting either, you know.

He really isn’t 😂 he is choosing to say osses or bods, not trying to say the actual words but it just sounds like accidentally that because of an accent! My MIL says “ickle” instead of little. That’s very a much a choice that she makes, it not her actually trying to say “little” but with a Northern accent.

Me too!!!

As your child grows older, with the right modelling from BOTH parents, they will be able to code switch.

I love a well-spoken person with a confident regional accent… such people exist!

Urghhhhh does she say hospickle instead of hospital?! That's just beyond any kind of regional dialect IMO 😂

My mother, from Yorkshire, told me that Yorkshire English is the purest form of the language. She is also a snob and has zero trace of the accent, so… personally, I love a regional accent.

Give over. There is no ‘purest form’ of English.

There is. Brummie.

Many years ago, a woman I got talking to at a party told me that she would never go out with someone whose behaviour she would correct if he were her child. So no feet on the coffee table, no performative belching or farting. She refused a bloke who pronounced 'new' as 'noo.' I found this all rather fascinating. She would never have gone out with your husband, and neither should you have done; but since you did, you'll just have to put up with it, Oh, yes - and now he knows for sure you don't like the way he speaks, he's probably doing it all the more. Men, eh?

'Even hi would be better'

Do you really have an issue with saying 'hi' as well? That just seems a bit crazy

Give over…. It’s Saff London!

am late to the thread. We have bilingual children because we live in a different country. What this has taught me is that children code switch both within their own languages, and between the languages. It is utterly fascinating.

My OH comes from one of the far north-Yorkshire wastelands with a broad accent (he says it's gone, and it has lessened, but when he comes back from family visits it is very very noticeable). I'm from Yorkshire too (the town has a very distinctive language and has been mentioned a few times. FWIW: I like the bins 🙃). I have what used to be referred to as BBC English, but is now more likely to be called SSE (Standard Southern English) on account of being an army brat.

our DC speak with my accent. I was a SAHM for the first 3 / 1.5 years of their lives. Then DH was. So the opportunity to influence their accents is broadly similar. They can speak with his accent, but only do so to tease him. So "what would you like for breakfast?" often resulted in

"Toaaaaaaaast" with a North Yorkshire accent, followed by giggles.

All in all - with the exception of bog for toilet which i have never loved, but nobody in my family ever uses - i am very much in favour of preserving accents and dialect words. I wish i had my home city accent.

ETA: my point is, if each parent speaks in the way they usually do, the children will learn both. and hear other accents at school. It is fine

#TeamBreadcake (what a give-away!)

is "let's go shop" more "let's go t'shop" with the "the" completely replaced with a barely perceptible glottal stop though?

The way the OP writes it is different to how she writes the 'baffroom' example, which suggests that he is using the Yorkshire 't' in the 'baffroom' one but not in the shop one.