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I just don't have enough money

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36912aceg · 27/05/2025 06:19

Me and my husband are really struggling with money at the moment for the first time in our whole lives.

We have been together pretty much all of our adult lives.
We were on one income for nearly 10 years while I was a sahm, in all that time we never once had any worry about paying our bills and even managed to save 15k for a house deposit (first in our whole family to buy a house, took years of hard saving to try to get us out of renting)

Now I have had a job for the past 2 years so our money should have increased but its felt even tighter due to prices of everything increasing, of course our children are getting older too so we are feeding them more and other expenses such as bus fair etc is cropping up.

I started taking in ironing and cleaning as new way of making a bit of money on the side as things are getting tight. I made £85 this month on the side and this is the first time in our entire lives that we have struggled to pay the mortgage.
Thankfully we have always had a couple of hundred in savings which we dipped into for this months mortgage payment.

we shop second hand and cook from scratch, I follow all the tips and tricks to save money (batch cooking, paying in cash etc ) I follow martin Lewis and save save save every penny and its just not enough.

I had to decline 2 party invitations for my children this month because I couldn't justify the cost of 2 cards, 2 sets of bus fair. didn't even think about the fiver to put in the card.

I just don't get it, we both work. I even made some money on the side this month and I had to say no to a child's birthday party for 2 of my children.

we don't even drive so I couldn't even save money that way.

I don't know why I'm posting a moany little rant but I'm so stressed, our savings have been depleted by bills despite us living even more modestly than when we were on 1 income. I just don't fucking get how I can get more money.

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Boohoo76 · 04/06/2025 16:03

pelargoniums · 04/06/2025 15:49

You mean you know very few people in professional roles working 9 to 5. Your experience /= fact. In any case, OP has said she’s unskilled; she’s not going to go off and be a lawyer, doctor, midwife, teacher or the other roles you mentioned. If she listens to advice on this thread to work full-time, she’ll be aiming for 35, 37.5 or 40 hours a week, depending on the organisation’s definition of full time. Personally I’d recommend she looks at companies that operate a four-day week without loss of pay, which would solve her money worries but still allow her to do one school pickup. Five Hour Club and Ten 2 Two are also good places to look for decently paid, shorter-hours roles.

So you are saying that teachers,
doctors and social workers don’t work long hours?!! That it’s only the ones I know?!!!

And it’s not just professional roles that work long hours. The food retail industry was my worst experience as far as long hours and my poor friend who worked in a hotel…well for the whole of December she used to end up sleeping there!

PennywisePoundFoolish · 04/06/2025 16:17

I work 10pm-6am but the standard shift is actually 9pm-7am. They let me reduced my hours after I'd had a breakdown. It's completely unskilled - stacking shelves in a supermarket.

Teateaandmoretea · 04/06/2025 18:32

Boohoo76 · 04/06/2025 15:58

Exactly, you don’t know me but you accused me of being smug….

Your style of posting on this thread in my experience tends to go there next. Maybe it’s projection/ incorrect in your case but I’ve seen it many times before.

Person who’s happy with how they are doing/ their finances is told they aren’t that successful or even a high earner by whatever ridiculous bar mumsnetters sets for that these days - is it about 200k? 😂

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