DH refusing to allow DS to go on play date

[Boomert]

DH works from home 3 days a week and will look after the children when they are home during holidays - children are 8&9.

Often DS is invited to his friend’s house once or twice during the holidays for a play date.

He is refusing to let DS go this half term because DD starts whinging that she’s bored and wants to go to her friends for a play date.
Occasionally that’s feasible but sometimes it isn’t, and if it isn’t, she will become upset.

DH has said it’s too disruptive for his work and doesn’t want to deal with it.

AIBU to think this is massively unfair on DS.

But then stopping working

kids can squabble a lot if left unattended

and most companies don’t allow to work at home if have kids about and no one looking after them

op needs to pay for holiday clubs

I mean, if you’re doing the same for days on end then you’re just as bad as the OP. Not sure what you want me to say?

I have a 9 y/o, a 5.5 y/o, and a 1 y/o. The 9 y/o often goes on playdates but the 5.5 y/o does because she's too young and her friends are too young. The 5.5 y/o often whines some when this happens and I always correct it while at the same time reassuring her that she'll have playdates when she's a bit older (most 5 y/o's don't need constant supervision but this one is wild and does). So, in that respect, your husband is being unreasonable punishing your son for your daughter's whining, it's your daughter's whining that has to be addressed there.

BUT, your husband is trying to work and having a whiny child nagging at him constantly is not appropriate. I can get work done with my 9 y/o around when he's happy and content, but not when he's not. It would probably be best for both kids if you arranged some kind of camp or activity on those days otherwise they're going to spend their break cooped up inside on screens when they should be out getting exercise, socializing with their peers, and having fun. You're being unreasonable expecting him to deal with everything all at once.

I think you're both unreasonable.