To want my parcel - woman denying accepting it but I have a photo..

[BitOutOfPractice]

I ordered some stuff off sports direct (about £20 worth) and, because I haven’t ordered off there for a couple of years, stupidly got it sent to my old address which was stored on the web site. Yes I know it’s annoying and stupid so I don’t need that lecture.

So once I clocked on what had happened, I went round there to collect it - couple of days later. The woman who bought the house off me completely denies having received it, despite the courier’s photo showing it being accepted at the front door. I can see two sets of children’s feet at the door on the picture. I obviously recognise the doorstep - I lived there for nearly 20 years.

Please note, I did not shout or accuse, I was very polite, I said I was “puzzled” and that there must have been some sort of confusion but she was adamant she hadn’t had it. It was a shoe box sized parcel so not massive to store and not easy to lose either.

Do you clever lot have any idea if there’s anything I can do?

I half expected her to come to the door wearing my gym gear 😆

Remember you can also report her to Vinted for selling stolen goods if they are still listed on there.

I really hope you get your knock off saltwaters & navy leggings very soon.

Surely the amount of time, effort and energy you have now spent on this equals more than the £20 it's worth.

But whatever makes you happy I guess.

No, but you could always say you’re interested and want to view it - if it’s your old address then you have your proof. Do you have a receipt or a copy of the order and the address to which it was sent, if so, tell her who you are, and that you are now contacting the police because you have proof she stole it.

Hold firm OP. All she has to do is blame one of the kids and "find" it, and charges could be dropped fgs. Don't feel guilty and let it go. She and her husband where happily lying to your face despite the photo evidence. I'm rather shocked and impressed at the police tbh.

I think they need to be redeployed if they have so much time to spend on something like this.

I’m glad the police have acted. As I posted before, the police took up my case in a similar situation with the result that my items were returned. If yours aren’t they can still do something. It just proves that crime doesn’t always pay and thieves realise they can’t get away with it.

Why should OP just let it go? It’s worth the effort . Plenty more money is wasted on far less worthy causes!

What, investigating actual instances of theft ? Isn’t that what they’re supposed to do. ? Makes a change from thought policing. This is a growing problem in the UK and it needs to be addressed - the police taking it seriously sends a message.

The downside for me is the stress of the whole thing - I mean I’m still sleeping soundly at night but going to court would be stressful. I’ve been a witness twice before and it is quite stressful. And I have other things going on right now that are stressful enough. (Apologies for all the “stressful”s.)

I also do think this is very disproportionate for the (alleged) crime. I feel a bit guilty like I’ve wasted police time.

And I'm sure she’s living to regret it now, she must be really stressed about it.

god it’s terrible having a conscience unlike her!

If it's causing you stress you can just choose to stop.

It's entirely up to you how much effort and energy you want to put into this.

Perhaps the thought of a trial will make her admit her guilt!

I know. That’s why I said I was pondering what to do but I think I know.

I had this with my ndn @BitOutOfPractice, I hope you get your parcel back .

I didn't say she should. I said whatever makes her happy (although she's already said it's now causing stress).

For me, this just would not be worth the effort. My time and energy is worth more than that £20. If it's worth it for some people then fine, for me it's just all a bit petty and drawn out tbh.

Problem is at what point do you do anything about it? £20/£120/£2000? We don’t know if this is the tip of the iceberg. Also we have a major problem at the moment with theft/shoplifting,most of which has been escalated by the issue being ignored at not dealt with.

It was a very convincing fake then because that was my own front door for 18 years - I'd recognise it anywhere.

Plus the courier added a verified pin drop.

Well it's up to individuals isn't it? OP can do what she wants if it gives her peace of mind, great.

For me, chasing a £20 package like this, putting in this amount of energy, getting the police involved, a whole thread on here and keeping coming back to it, constantly thinking about it - simply not worth it.

If I'd made the initial error with the address I'd just chalk it down to experience and let it go for the sake of my own time, energy and stress levels.

It is petty - I agree. I genuinely had no idea the police would do anything except give me a crime number, if that. I am genuinely shocked it's gone this far.

I'm not "constantly thinking about it" - it's the police emailing me that's bringing it all up again. I'd completely forgotten about it until the ominous email popped into my inbox.

As for coming back to the thread, I said I would update and I'm a woman of my word. Nothing worse than an unresolved MN mystery.

But you keep drinking the koolaid!

Well you don't have to keep pursuing it. You can if you want to. It's up to you.

it's causing you more stress than satisfaction then why are you doing it? No one else is bothered at the end of the day.

Edit: Just saw your edit and you sound irritated so I'll just leave it there.
It sounded like you wanted to drop it so I was encouraging you to let yourself step away if that's what you want. If that's not what you want then don't.
What I said was not intended as a personal attack at all.

No sympathy, she's had loads of opportunities to fess up and end the whole saga. She deserves whatever the outcome is

Well you’re bothered enough to keep commenting! No use people complaining about the Police doing nothing, then when they do, complain it’s too much fuss. It’s not about the amount of money involved,
it’s about theft.

It's Friday afternoon on an exceptionally slow work week, I'm watching the clock before I go to meet DP in the pub, hence the replies. And before you accuse me of wasting my employers time, I work for myself!

Exactly, everyone ignoring all of the petty theft that goes on is exactly why we have all the theft we do.

I was simply pointing out to OP that she can choose to step away if she wants, particularly as she said she was stressed.

It is up to her if she wants to continue or not and she can reduce her stress levels by dropping it if she wants to. She can weigh up the benefits to her either way and whether to carry on.

I am not 'bothered' about the package or the situation at all, but it's easy to get caught up in small/ petty disputes and lose sight of the impact it's actually having on us, and whether it's worth it.

Like this thread for example, which I'm now leaving 😅

I wonder if shes well known for petty theft or already on a suspended sentence for something else. If you know her name, have a Google..

I know it's only £20, big deal etc but it's this level of crime that is brining society down from the good old days out G.Parents had where most people were nice and honest....