To now allow DSs friend over because of pillow fight?

[CrabbyPaty]

I don’t mind the kids playing with their pillows as I know a lot of their games involve the pillows - pillow fight, gladiators, paintballing etc but the rule is no stomper pillow. That’s it.

Last night they were playing upstairs when I heard crying, went up and DS1 had a bloodied nose, DS2 had whacked him in the face with a stomper pillow. He’s meant to be having a friend over tonight and I’m thinking of cancelling. DH said to just remove the stompers but I feel that is just masking DSs behaviour. Would I be going too far to cancel the sleepover?

Maybe just get rid of them and then the risk of anyone getting hurt by them disappears?

That’s what I saw.

Promptly ordered 5 to smite my enemies since we now have it on good authority from OP that peeps go down like a sack of spuds when hit with one.

No idea what a stomper is but you should only use one pillow anyway.

Don’t cancel the sleep over, that’s mean Just remove said “ stomper” pillow and crack on. I mean if they can cause a bloody nose, why has DS got access to a stomper?? 🙄

If it’s just a regular looking pillow that’s heavier, they might have genuinely in the heat of the moment playing not realised the difference of a stomper pillow. As I’m still confused.

don’t be harsh and cancel the sleepover

When was that law passed? Obviously we’re in danger of prosecution.

Sounds like they should be called Danger Pillows

No he would have known as soon as picked it up, they weigh a ton

Get rid of the gross old heavy second hand pillows. Don’t be someone who’s proud of the rock hard pillows they sleep on that are solid dust mite poo

Irish and Welsh are keeping quiet...

Hello! I think the OP meant BOLSTER pillow. You could definitely do someone a mischief with one of those. I’d keep the sleepover and ban all pillow fights

But in the midst of playing he just picked and swung, kids don’t think that much!

If you cancel the sleepover you’re punishing his friends too which is not fair on them. You need to find a different punishment which just affects him.

New Zealand? South Africa? Have they been ruled out?

Irish here 🤣☘☘

We've always called them bolster pillows.

Me! 👋

Chuck the dangerous pillows away and let them have their sleepover.

It was an accident when they were just boys letting off steam. don't cancel.

Testing boundaries and getting hurt, is healthy behavior in children. It's something that modern life doesn't always allow for. It's good that he's only had a bloody nose. We'd slide down stairs on blankets, drag old mattresses and jump off anything we could (1970's childhood). The injuries were awful, but we learnt from them. They've learnt that rules exist to keep them safe, better now than jumping in canals/crossing ice at 14.

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The thing is they had the "stomper" pillows and you know they liked play fighting with them. DS2 hit DS1 with one and he got a bloody nose. That was presumably not the intention, it just accidentally hit the wrong place.

You'd be wrong to impose a sanction other than that they can't play with those pillows, or preferably, just take them away.

Just because this time one got hurt by something you knew they did, doesn't mean a sleepover needs to get cancelled. That's unrelated other than I assume you are concerned similar could happen to the guest child. Just take steps to make sure it won't.

I'm equally clueless. 😕

Why’s that then?

We had a rule that punishments shouldn't impact other children.

Lol at the pillow debate, not heard of stompers either and I've lived in loads of places. We do have heavy under pillows like the OP describes, ours were also bequeathed, we call them the manky pillows, as they are and you have just prompted me to get rid🤣

So I think the only fitting punishment for your son is to task him with writing an essay on the History of the Stomper Pillow (could be a mighty short essay, right enough), for the great and the good of Mumsnet.

Then report back here tout suite. Enquiring minds want to know.

Cancelling the sleepover is a huge overreaction for what appears to be a genuine accident.

Just get rid of the pillows and move on.