Friend has caused nearly £300 plus worth of destruction

[Bunnyboilerfriend]

I had my friend stay the night last night, I waved her off goodbye this morning.

I said something unwittingly last night that made her think I’m after the same man she is, I am not. He is a mutual friend. I could see she was upset and tried to clarify things, she said she understood and she was fine. We both went to bed. Me upstairs. Her downstairs.

After I have seen her off this morning, I have just noticed a number of my jewellery on the hallways console are either broken or bent out of shape beyond recognition.

They were fine last night, there is no one else here who could have done it. I could see she was not only upset but angry last night, but seemed to have composed herself and it was resolved.

I have just sent a text to her saying can you tell me what happened to my jewellery on the console?

I am so shocked and upset I’m almost shaking, I feel so betrayed and violated.

What can I do next?

Bunny boiler reference!

What is a hallway jewellery console and why isn't your jewellery in a box in your bedroom? That is normal practise round here.

I would definitely be minded to report it to the police online.

Chances are nothing will come of it but it will be recorded against her name if her bunny boiler tendencies worsen in time.

If she doesn't pay up, Op can still steal her man!

Are you suggesting anything in OP's own home and not stored in a receptacle that you think appropriate is an invite to destroy it?

You do see that OP has no fault in her personal possessions being damaged in her own home?

Chances are, as a PP showed with their Sue and Bob story, that it doesn't matter if it was jewellery. If it wasn't jewellery, it would be something else, like a cut in some fabric of OP's coat, or sofa, or anything.

They don't keep allegations next to people's names in case they make a habit of damaging jewellery. The op should put it down to experience, choose friends more carefully and keep valuables somewhere safer and more secure than a hallway.

"jewellery on the hallways console"

Sorry, I don't understand?

Actually the poor man should be given a warning.

Her jewellery was sitting on her hallway table. What did you find confusing about that?

@Bunnyboilerfriend I would include in any further text, that the jewellery was fine before she visited, and when she left you saw it was badly bent/damaged, but still neatly in its place.

You both know that you didn't trip, and you both know she's done it out of anger.

Also, most ppl would assume it had gone missing, not been broken, and seeing as you hadn't specified what had occurred, it's odd that she already knew...indicates that it was indeed her that damaged them.

Ultimately, get rid and if anyone asks, let them know what she did. I wouldn't cover for her.

They will keep a intel report.

@Gettingbysomehow OMG I gasped at that! What a psychotic monster!

No we never said a thing. I know what Bob is like, he would deny. He’s done a few things over the years with us and with friends, but this was the worst.

|@ObtuseMoose
What if the bloke doesn't want to shag the OP, where does that leave everyone's petty revenge fantasies?

Everyone ??

Literally a couple of us of made a joke about it. Big deal.

😂😂 Me too

Some of these stories are enough to put anyone off 'friends' for life. (Or at least allowing them into your home.)

I'd definitely be warning any mutual friends about her and then watching my back, because she sounds absolutely nuts.

How is that difficult to comprehend? The jewellery was on the console in the hallway.

She may not have noticed your hall security camera OP. Now might be the time to mention the footage…

We know full well it doesn't constitute a crime FGS.

The point is to report to police so they have a record of it and the name of the bunnyboiler on their system in the event she does or is involved in something else. Its information. For all we know, she might already have a record on police systems. And the OP is not unhinged. Youre obviously one of those spiteful types who laughs at others' misfortunes...

Yes, read the messages from the jewellery mangler to the OP.

Unfortunately it is your word against hers as to what happened. She is being quite canny in her response because only the two of you know the truth.

It will go nowhere legally and I say that with sadness as I would be gutted if a so called friend did that.

If you fell on it you would bend it all in the same direction surely?

Walk away and chalk it up to a very expensive experience, and she loses a good friend. I'd be seething and would threaten but don't think you would have a reasonable chance of making it stick unless she confesses and if she has done this, she is pretty twisted so you are better off out of there. Buy yourself a voodoo doll and stick pins in it!

If I were you I’d be tempted to go after this man out of spite and live happily ever after. Or I’d warn him that a real bunny boiler is after him.

Seriously, she isn’t your friend and sounds absolutely inane.

For those who are having trouble with the hallway console and jewellery bit, allow me to help you visualise the scene...

Here I am returning home and removing my jewellery and placing it in the handy trinket tray sat atop the slimline table in the hallway, otherwise known as a hallway console. I assume the OP has a similar set up.

In the absence of proper evidence I did not believe I could speak to them. There have been red flags over the years, I should have known better.