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Leftover takeaway wars

143 replies

mrsm43s · 22/05/2025 14:28

This really is lighthearted! And I'm going to use the annoying Person A/Person B despite it be absolutely clear which one I am (and that I'm obviously in the right).

Happily married couple get an Indian Takeaway for a rare treat.

Person A orders Chicken Bhuna*
Person B orders Lamb Dhansak*
Then they order a rice, a naan and a side to share.

Person A eats all the Chicken Bhuna, half the rice, half a naan and half the side.
Person B eats half the Lamb Dhansak, skips rice, half of the naan and spoonful of side dish.

Remaining is half the Lamb Dhansak, half the rice and nearly half of a side dish.

Who gets the leftovers?

Person A thinks they should be split and shared (perhaps with the addition of a bhaji or a samosa from the freezer). "All that I have, I share with you" etc

Person B thinks they are their leftovers, and they make a perfect size meal for one and Person A should keep their mitts off as they ate all their own yesterday.

Who is in the right?

YABU - Person A is right - split the leftovers. Caring is sharing.
YANBU - Person B is right and they are entitled to all of their leftovers.

(* I have changed the names of the dishes so as not to out myself 😂)

OP posts:
Mrsgus · 22/05/2025 20:59

I'm with you 'Person B'. Anyone touch MY leftover Chinese chicken balls or my spicy chicken korma I will stab you with a fork!!

Mh67 · 22/05/2025 21:54

What is leftovers we buy the dinner and eat it. 😂😂

Foodeee · 22/05/2025 21:55

And this is why people need to go to lessons before they get married.

SouthLondonMum22 · 22/05/2025 22:30

EilishMcCandlish · 22/05/2025 20:09

Exactly. But we are very much in the minority it seems.
For me, once it is in the fridge it is available for eating by the next person who wants to eat it.

It seems really odd to me to consider food in a family fridge as 'his' and 'hers' like that. It seems more like some sort of house share type behaviour.

Leftovers are different to me. They were left by that person, unless they say otherwise then they get first refusal.

I think married people are allowed to have their own leftovers and expect the other person to not gobble it up when they never considered sharing theirs.

amigafan2003 · 22/05/2025 22:43

It's for whoever gets there first the next day.

springshadows · 22/05/2025 23:13

If I am person A then I am in the right. If I am person B then I am in the right 🙈

SheilaFentiman · 23/05/2025 00:01

Person B is right

InSpainTheRain · 23/05/2025 01:02

Add some more stuff to it and share!

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/05/2025 02:56

jimloop · 22/05/2025 14:34

I would (and do) mix all leftovers into one big pot and share evenly

You do what?!

Ugh! Absolute filth.

Anyway, Person B's share is what is 'left over', these left overs belong to Person B and it is up to them if they eat it all themselves or share with Person A. If Person A wanted left overs they should have saved some of their share (or indeed, arranged to order more).

This is how it works in our house, we often do share my left overs (himself never has left overs, his capacity is far greater than mine), but he would never ever assume and just take them, nor argue the toss, he'd wait for me to offer.

Anyone caught mixing up left overs in one big pot would be taken out back and shot. Possibly not even at dawn.

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/05/2025 02:58

For the people who do the free for all 'whoever gets to it first/wants to eat it first can have it' style heathen lawless anarchy...

How the hell do you plan what you will eat the next day if at any point, what you had planned on eating is gone?

Are your fridges overflowing with bounty or are you happy to starve/lick some dust off the top to tide you over?

tooyoungtoopretty · 23/05/2025 03:38

Leftovers are fair game for everyone

MoserRothOrangeandAlmond · 23/05/2025 07:22

@Poopeepoopee 22 year relationship and we have our own takeaway left overs unless the person states otherwise. Especially when it’s a beautiful curry!!

Bonbon249 · 23/05/2025 15:03

To the person who said they would mix everything together and share it out- JFC, that's revolting! To the others who said once it's in the fridge it's fair game - what kind of heathen savages are you? Can't a person just enjoy their own leftovers in peace? So glad I'm single and don't have to share takeaway with anyone.

SpacedOutOut · 23/05/2025 15:14

Onedayiwillsomething · 22/05/2025 14:52

I can’t imagine having a curry and not sharing all the dishes. The idea you each have “your own” mains is baffling to me.

In our house, DP likes beef dishes. I only eat chicken. Also, I like my curry’s hot. He can’t cope with spicey food. So no sharing in our house! 😂

Nowaynowayhose · 26/05/2025 10:02

Person B is 100% right! I always struggle to eat all of mine and save some for next day. In fact I’m looking forward to a mini chicken tikka masala for my lunch today! My husband ate all of his last night.

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 26/05/2025 10:15

Are you eyeing up my Bhuna?🙂

rosemarble · 26/05/2025 17:17

We had an Indian take away last night.
I combined the left over side dishes in a single pot and “accidentally” mixed the daal in with the chana masala and the sag aloo. DS doesn’t like daal so the leftovers were my late lunch today.
He did get the single potato so he’s not too sad.

PullTheBricksDown · 26/05/2025 17:39

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 26/05/2025 10:15

Are you eyeing up my Bhuna?🙂

I'll eat it in the car... I'M OUT!

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