Leftover takeaway wars

[mrsm43s]

This really is lighthearted! And I'm going to use the annoying Person A/Person B despite it be absolutely clear which one I am (and that I'm obviously in the right).

Happily married couple get an Indian Takeaway for a rare treat.

Person A orders Chicken Bhuna*
Person B orders Lamb Dhansak*
Then they order a rice, a naan and a side to share.

Person A eats all the Chicken Bhuna, half the rice, half a naan and half the side.
Person B eats half the Lamb Dhansak, skips rice, half of the naan and spoonful of side dish.

Remaining is half the Lamb Dhansak, half the rice and nearly half of a side dish.

Who gets the leftovers?

Person A thinks they should be split and shared (perhaps with the addition of a bhaji or a samosa from the freezer). "All that I have, I share with you" etc

Person B thinks they are their leftovers, and they make a perfect size meal for one and Person A should keep their mitts off as they ate all their own yesterday.

Who is in the right?

YABU - Person A is right - split the leftovers. Caring is sharing.
YANBU - Person B is right and they are entitled to all of their leftovers.

(* I have changed the names of the dishes so as not to out myself 😂)

Person B is right.

Person A is greedy, eating ALL of theirs and then demanding a share of Person B’s.

Tell him to keep his greedy paws off your food

My husband eats more than me. We pay equal amounts into the bills account.
When we get a takeaway we split it in half immediately... he eats all his, I save some of mine for another time. I think it's fair!

The outing hobby is cycling?

I'm disappointed. I always assumed it was something truly random, like duck herding or extreme ironing.

OP, person A is being very, very unreasonable. If they want another curry they should buy/make their own.

Let's look it like a maths formula!

C=curry (of either variety), R= Rice, N=naan, S=Side

Ordered = 2C + 1R + 1N + 1S

A eats 1C + 0.5R + 0.5N + 0.5S
B eats 0.5C + 0.5N + 0.25S (I realise it's probably less than a quarter of the side dish, but you get the drift)

Left = 0.5C + 0.5R + 0.25S (zero naan!)

If that is split between you then it ends up:

A has eaten 1.25C + 0.75R + 0.5N + 0.625S
B has eaten 0.75C + 0.25R + 0.5N + 0.375S

Clearly this is an unfair distribution and A is being entirely unreasonable to expect leftovers to be shared!

If person A wants more curry they either need to save some or order an extra dish. I sometimes order a dal and a nan for leftovers.

I would be well salty if they tried to claim mine.

And now I want a curry so thanks for that. 😄

Whoever gets to the fridge first...

It really isn't that complex.

Fight it out in the car park. The leftovers will probably end up on the floor and no one wins.

Leftover curry for breakfast the next day is divine 😋😋

Person A who eats it all should order 2 mains, one for that evening and one for leftovers.

That way you both get a left over amount you can both manage to eat the next day, win, win. My adult sons will over order to have leftovers the next day.

Indeed it is - but it must be cold.

Especially if B has it for breakfast when A is still asleep.

I'm with Person B on this

Person B is right, the leftovers are theirs.

Not a problem in my house, I don’t like curry and I can’t stand leftovers of any kind, just turns my stomach.

Person B is entitled to it all if they want.

You literally cannot imagine the concept of some people in a group (or even just a couple) being vegetarian or vegan or having allegies or various dietary requirements? Particularly with a curry where different people like different levels of spice?

You need to widen your horizons if the idea of ordering two dishes baffles you. You must be in a state of constant amazement every time you leave the house.

Say your partner was a vegan who couldn't handle spice, you'd doom yourself to a lifetime of bland veggie kormas rather than just order your own dish?

You'd order your own meals in a restaurant so why would it be weird to do so at home?

Exactly. I like fish, DP hates it, and likes spicier things than I would order. So our leftovers tend to be separated anyway. Shock horror, we even prefer different flavoured naans.

Why? If we get meals to share then no one gets what they actually want b3cause we have to compromise!

Person B should definitely get first dibs!

Is this a long term relationship? If so, then it should be shared because over the course of 10 years/a long term relationsip the food distribution should surely even out by then, I mean, there must have been times when your chicken portion was bigger than his or there was an extra slice of pepperoni on your half of the pizza yes?

I'm too cynical and also find it unbelievable that anyone could not imagine people not enjoying the same foods. I read that message as "I could not imagine eating a full curry". I was waiting for that poster to come back and clarify that they order 2 mains and half a side to share between 12 of them, and they have enough leftovers to last them a month.

It is person b’s meal. Person a can only touch it if person B for some reason has other meal plans and voluntarily offers the leftovers to Person A.

In this house if one of us fancied it the next day they would ask the other one if we fancied some too and if both wanted some we'd share or otherwise the person who wants it would eat it all.

That might work for you.
20+ years here and it was established early on that he does not interfere with my food and I do not interfere with his. There is plenty of other stuff that does not involve scoffing my curry 😆

Person B gets it and I'd have a right tantrum if person A ate is as I don't share food